By dressing as a man to make a statement, Ayesha Gulalai has only belittled countless dynamic women of Pakistan

Published: August 24, 2017
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Ayesha Gulalai walked into the National Assembly (NA) in a tribal headdress and garb, costuming herself as a man.

No one said it was easy being a Pakistani woman. We fight misogyny, chauvinism and harassment on a daily basis in our schools, workplaces and for some, even homes.

We are daughters, sisters and mothers but those relationships are not unto themselves. We populate the corporate world, lead movements, teach impressionable minds and raise little people. There is very little women cannot achieve and that forms our identities.

It is a small mind then, in my opinion, which tries to fight misogyny by fitting into a box shaped like a man. A mind that has no business representing the multi-faceted and peerless entities that we are.

Much has been said about the shocking accusations of sexual harassment MNA Ayesha Gulalai hurled at Pakistan Tehreek-e-Insaf (PTI) Chairman Imran Khan. While sexual harassment is not a matter to be treated lightly, the accuser seems to be doing herself no favours in way of establishing her own credibility.

From refusing to resign from her PTI-reserved seat, to walking into the National Assembly (NA) in a tribal headdress and garb, costuming herself as a man, has done injustice to countless dynamic women of this country, not to mention, herself. Women who did not have to compromise on their femininity to acquire dignity, justice and respect.

In order to comment on Gulalai’s attention-seeking gimmicks, we must remember the strong female icons of our country who stood up for their rights without having to dress like the opposite sex.

Benazir Bhutto, who despite all and any political leanings anyone may have, was undoubtedly the lion heart of bravery. In 1990, an international publication, People Magazine, named her as one of the 50 most beautiful people in the world. She stood alongside men and women alike without masking her womanhood to be recognised.

Nobel Prize winner Malala Yousufzai has continued to persevere in education after being shot in the face for wanting to study; her youth and girlishness a refreshing foil to her core of steel.

Several dignified politicos have marked this evolutionary map without the crutch of histrionics – Dr Fahmida Mirza, first Muslim woman to be a NA Speaker; Shahnaz Wazir Ali, former Special Asisstant to the prime minister; Abida Hussain, conservative politician; Nasreen Jalil, who has been a prominent politician and senator; Bushra Gohar, an MNA; Khushbakht Shujaat, and countless others.

Prominent poet GD Anderson wrote,

“Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.”

While every woman is free to define her strength as she wills, I am sceptical it involves dressing in masochistic tribal headgear, representing men from only one area of a country. When you maintain a seat given to you in the NA to speak for the rights and identity of the women of the whole country, you have some added responsibility.

If this was not disgraceful enough, Gulalai took to the floor of the Assembly, rambling on about Imran’s sexist political statements, and how he assumes that Pakistani men are not real men but belonging to the transgender community.

According the Gulalai,

“What does he think? Are the men who come to his rallies with women transgender? [Is] that [why] Imran Niazi addresses them as ‘our women’,” she questioned.

“Does Imran Khan think our men are [transgender]?” she said.

Not only was she incredibly hurtful and insensitive to people of the transgender community, but belied a completely unenlightened, unintelligent approach to minorities of all kinds. While the transgender community has spoken out in protest of her insensate remarks, they should be assured that Gulalai is belittling her own gender far more effectively than theirs. Frankly, if nothing else, PTI should be penalised for even giving her a seat to begin with.

Member of the National Assembly Ayesha Gulalai should be ashamed of her statment. She has no right to degrade any…

Posted by Trans Action Pakistan on Monday, August 21, 2017

Pakistan does not need this. Sexual harassment concerns aside (but not dismissed), people of this calibre and thinking have no business representing the women of my country.

We do not need to dress, speak, look or act like men to be equal to them. We do not need to be equal to men at all; we only require equal rights. I believe strongly that with the strength, stature and endurance that thousands of Pakistani women display each day, we will achieve all that and so much more. What is clear, however, is that Gulalai’s histrionics will not get us there.

 

Suroor Siddiqi

Suroor Siddiqi

Dedicated humanist, mother and wife. Graduate in design, compulsive reader and interested in anything for the well-being of Pakistan. She tweets @SuroorSiddiqi (twitter.com/SuroorSiddiqi)

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Parvez

    Agree with you …… poor Gulalai has messed it up big time.Recommend

  • https://www.pakbaazar.com/ pakbaazar

    Pakistani politician is bull., every person want the position for future the family and not think in Pakistan Future, same gullali when din not got seat pti then bad party before good, what is thisRecommend

  • peter pan

    She looks more appealing to her Kp audience in a male costume!Recommend

  • sterry

    You are ignoring her point. Instead you are playing games and making this an issues of transgender people ! Ayesha Gulalai was treated badly by PTI and Imran Khan and she has every right to complain and bring up hypocrisy. There needs to be a judicial commission on unethical behavior by men who feel they are above the laws of the land and women have to take verbal abuse from men. She is being judged by a different standard because PTI jumps on anyone who disagrees with them and try to muzzle them instead of looking at the real issue. Imran Khan can have girlfriends overseas and marry and divorce who he wants – Pakistani or foreigner and even be charged in US court for having a daughter he won’t accept from Sita White but in Pakistan no one will complain against Imran Khan because he is a man. What if a woman did 1/10 of what he did? Would she be able to walk and appear in politics?Recommend

  • Ahmar

    More craziness from feminists. A woman dresses like a woman and they have a problem. A woman dresses like a man and they have a problem.

    Ayesha Gualali is 100% correct about Imran Niazi though. He has never, ever referred to women in his rallies as sisters, daughters but as “Meri khawateen”. He is a pervert and a disgrace.Recommend

  • Abdul moiz

    There is so much policing on expression these days ..everything has to follow a certain decorum and style, otherwise it ends up offending some group or the other

    Let her speak her mind ..There are already too many regulatory bodies for accounting and medicine and food, lets not regulate walking and talking

    The simple and obvious point is, she is probably lying, but feminists didn’t seem to care about that, they were drooling all over her when she made statements without any proof, but now as she is turning out to be stupid the same feminists are disowning herRecommend

  • Ghazi Gul

    “By dressing as a man to make a statement, Ayesha Gulalai has only belittled countless dynamic women of Pakistan”.
    Not behaviong like an adult. May be she is ashamed to be a woman. May be she is a man. Looks like a man. May be a transgender. Recommend

  • Arunanshu M

    No use reasoning with warped PTI apologists. Besides putting down women, they have another thing common; their love for Taliban, of which the Khan is an undisputed champion. No wonder the author eulogises Benazir Bhutto as lion hearted. She mothered the Taliban and used them as strategic assets till they came back to kill her. Actually creeping mysoginy is a disease of this Talibani mindset. The author shows that even Pakistani women are not free from it.Recommend

  • KlingOn2K

    I don’t know if Imran Khan sent private messages to Ayesha. But she is a very charming lady and the single Mr.Khan must have seen the roses blooming and the birds twittering. In his heyday, all Mr.Khan had to do was strut and the women would be falling over themselves just to stand in the place where he once stood. He is a senior citizen now but his mind still harks back to those days.Recommend

  • Hasan

    Brave lady & she has a point. If i dress like a man will your standards of crooked judgement be any different (now) ?
    Only a woman who (thinks) and knows she is not a slave to men will have the courage to do this.
    Bravo!Recommend