Because how can the GOAT Ronaldo ever rape a woman, despite her saying ‘no’ and ‘stop’?

Published: October 4, 2018
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Ronaldo can be seen hanging with the accused in Rain, a nightclub in Las Vegas. PHOTO: MATRIX

Cristiano Ronaldo is so many things; father, son, partner, friend, mentor, hero, celebrity, athlete, and now an alleged rapist. Fans all over the world are offended; how is it that the hero they have put on a pedestal is accused of such a heinous crime? Is this a conspiracy by Lionel Messi fan boys to drag down Ronaldo’s good name? His admirers have come together to show their loyalties and back their forever favourite.

In the midst of all this, I, a former Ronaldo fan, choose not to give him the benefit of the doubt. In cases of sexual assault, I will always believe the woman and in this case too, I choose to believe her.

According to an article published by Der Spiegel, Kathryn Mayorga was 25 when she met Ronaldo, 24 then, in Las Vegas in 2009. They were both at Rain, a nightclub in Palms Casino Resort, where their paths first crossed. She mentioned that he approached her and she recognised him since he was a very popular player. There are photos of the two, where Mayorga seems to be talking to Ronaldo and they both seem to be having a good time. According to her, Ronaldo asked her for her number, which she provided, before leaving the club to go to his penthouse suite at Hotel Palms Place nearby. He messaged her to come with her friends and join him there for a party. Accepting his invitation, she went to his penthouse with her friend, but Mayorga didn’t know she was entering the devil’s den.

While in the bathroom and changing into something more appropriate for a jacuzzi, she found Ronaldo sneaking up on her. He pleaded her to touch his genitalia, and when she refused, he told her he would only let her go if she kissed him. Seeing no other way out, she agreed to kiss him, but that only made things worse. He did not let her leave the room, pushed her on the bed and raped her. She kept saying no repeatedly but that did not stop him from engaging in rape and sodomy.

When she tried to pursue the case and get justice, but her character was questioned and she was forced to settle. Ronaldo bought her silence for $375,000 by making her sign a non-disclosure agreement (NDA), but she couldn’t move on from the trauma. Now, with a better lawyer, a much more composed self, and a more accepting political climate in the wake of #MeToo, Mayorga has decided to take on the world’s most popular footballer.

Ronaldo has denied the allegations and his fans are adamant to protect their legend. Social media is filled with disgusting remarks made towards Mayorga; people are calling her a gold digger, saying that she must have wanted it, and questioning how is it rape when they can see from the event’s pictures that she was really into him. There were many who went to the extent of questioning why Ronaldo would even need to rape anyone? The amount of hatred and victim-blaming on display has made me question everything.

It is so hard for us to grasp that someone we admire or care about could be a potential criminal. Yes, there are people who think clearly and want to wait for the investigation and verdict before they say anything about the case. That is a very smart thing to do. But while the case is being decided, I for one refuse to keep watching Ronaldo play like nothing happened. I refuse to slide away the thought that he was accused of raping someone, only to watch him play one last time. As someone who has been sexually abused in the past, I know how hard it is to come forward, and it is worse when no one believes you. Hence, my empathy, my support and my belief is not for the accused, it is for the woman who found the strength to finally speak up.

Of course, there are false accusers, but we would do well to remember that a woman accusing a man is almost always getting the worst end of the deal. Brett Kavanaugh, Ali Zafar, Donald Trump, Bill Cosby, Harvey Weinstein, Louis CK, and so many more men did not have to go through even a minute of the shame and gaslighting that their accusers had to go through.

Moreover, how do you even justify Ronaldo being innocent after looking at all the evidence? In a questionnaire he filled for his counseling team, he admitted that even though she didn’t scream, she did say ‘no’ and ‘stop’ several times. Was that not his cue to stop? Did saying ‘no’ have no significance in that ‘heated moment’? Was her consent not important?

As time goes by, it is evident that consent is an alien topic for men. What even constitutes as consent anymore? From a woman blinking in their direction to a woman smiling from afar, everything seems to be a signal for men. Is it that consent itself is something very hard to understand, or are men clearly ignoring the concept because they are having ‘too much fun’? Since Mayorga is seen smiling and dancing with Ronaldo, people believe she has apparently automatically given her consent to him. Her saying no later, is seemingly not fair to poor, lustful Ronaldo!

Moreover, if he is not guilty, why would he make her sign an NDA? Back in 2009, I am pretty sure he could not have predicted the wake of #MeToo. Then why did he try so hard to hide something that according to him is ‘fake news’? He recently went on Twitter to deny the allegations and said that his “clear conscious will allow him to wait the results of a full investigation”. Assuming he meant conscience and not conscious, did his integrity, nine years ago, allow him to make the woman sign an NDA such that she could not even mention his name to her therapist?

I used to admire him, I remember tearing up when he left Real Madrid and now when I look back, I am disgusted because unknowingly, I was fan-girling over an accused rapist. An investigation will hopefully take place but I don’t expect any fruitful results. He is a powerful man and an ordinary woman will never be able to defeat that kind of privilege.

It is true, I am neither the judge nor the jury, but I am a woman who is infuriated, I am a former fan who is deeply hurt, I am a human being who is absolutely disgusted and there is no going back anymore. People need to realise that their heroes are capable of falling from grace; they are capable of evil because at the end of the day, they are also ordinary human beings. Rape is the worst form of violation, but it only exists because we know people are capable of that much. Then why is it so hard for us to think that even Ronaldo could be capable of it? The footballer that he was, managed to earn our respect, but the man we now know him to be, has lost it all.

Maznah Shehzad

Maznah Shehzad

The author has graduated from LUMS with a BSc in Economics. In her spare time, she likes to go on feminist rants and take random quizzes on Buzzfeed. She tweets @Maazzzzyyy (twitter.com/Maazzzzyyy).

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Rizvi Ayesha

    According to your article, all men by default are rapist and its just a matter of time that someone will make it to public? I am not siding with Ronaldo or Ali Zafar, but is it not true that she was in a private event, she did what she wanted to, took money and now is asking for some? If he was so bad, then did she made it to a private room in a private event or took the money in the first place? Or maybe he wasn’t bad at all. Why are you portraying that he is definitely a rapist when still the court is to hear the proceedings?Recommend

  • Ali Musawi

    I hate Ronaldo and I hate the fact he joined my favourite team, but I am not gonna treat him like a guilty man nor will I call the alleged victim a golddigger. How about we wait for the outcome of this case to see what will happen.Recommend

  • SEO Ripple

    No. Not all men’s are rapist.Recommend

  • Hassan Sarwar

    First women of pakistani society wants everyone to copy the modern western culture as it’s very lawful and human wrights guarding but an incident like this make her think all the men are same and women are always innocent.Recommend

  • AJ

    I had to comment before even reading the whole blog. I am a woman myself and I find this attitude extremely disturbing of believing that woman are always right (by default) in assault cases. Yes, woman are generally more oppressed but are they always right, I dont think so. Please don’t encourage this attitude of believing one party by default without even listening to th eother party. I don’t know about this case but generalizing the whole gender is not going to help in this situation.Recommend

  • Khurram

    Well i dont know whose telling the truth in this case but i understand 2 things after reading this article.

    1) The writer is very biased towards one side. Even before the court announces a verdict the writer has decided the guilty party. Kinda like a bandwagon me2 attitude.

    2) When you take money for something. It puts a price for your services may sound harsh but thats exactly how it is.

    Btw i am a ronaldo fan but the brazillian ronaldo not this one.Recommend

  • rndom persn

    Its possible he signed the NDA because he just didnt want to deal with the speculation and stress of a trial, especially a foreign country. I can see why men would do that. That said the questionnaire is very damning.

    I think he knows what he did was rape but you have to see it from men’s side also. Men can get convicted on a he said she said of a private act. A great example of that is Ched Evans who was found to be wrongly convicted of rape based on no evidence.Recommend

  • shoelessbob

    Not saying Ronaldo is innocent or guilty, but remember Kobe Bryant, he was innocent and still lost millions in sponsorship deals. That is motive to have someone sign a NDA even if innocent. This article makes out that he is guilty because of it.Recommend

  • Jor El

    “Is this a conspiracy by Lionel Messi fan boys to drag down Ronaldo’s good name? ”
    I know this was said just in jest and I do not mean to go off topic on such an important issue but Messi can run in circles around Ronaldo with an eye-patch on his right eye looking like Thor without any conspiracies.Recommend

  • abhi

    I would have been more appropriate for her to return the Money first and then press the chanrges.Recommend

  • Ahmar

    I guess $37,5000 has run out?Recommend