Stories about pregnancy

When the devil takes over

“I can’t arrange the funds!” Lucifer said curtly. “Maybe later?” His wife, Delilah, spoke softly, but firmly. “Can’t promise you anything.” His face disappeared somewhere in the smoke of the cigarette. “You loved me. I mattered to you. Once.” Her eyes had a covert, but profound temper. “Once, everything was different. You weren’t so materialistic, once.” He glared back at her. “Materialistic? All that we have ever had is a physical relationship – that’s all. Isn’t that materialistic?” Her voice was sorrowful. “And still you stick around. You know why? Because of the money that I had.” Her husband replied spitefully as he bent down, and ...

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What men can expect when a woman is expecting

The news of conception can be kind of alarming for many fathers-to-be. While the mother-to-be is busy enjoying the extra attention, the poor father isn’t given the time of day. I believe that the dad-to-be is affected a lot more due to the added pressure of looking after two people now, from when the test comes positive to the time of the baby’s delivery. I remember collecting the pregnancy test results on the way home from work in 2003. ‘Positive’ it read. I immediately felt an adrenaline rush on reading it. As was expected, my wife turned into the eighth wonder of the ...

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Food for thought for new mothers

Motherhood is one of the most sacred blessings for women, yet it can be a challenging phase of their lives. It is not uncommon to hear new mothers say, “I am so depressed; I can’t seem to lose weight!” However, a well-planned and balanced intake of the right nutrition can provide one with stamina and can help ward off the baby blues. New mothers should focus on food and eating habits that can help them: 1. Ensure that their child is nutritiously nursed 2. Fight depression 3. Lose weight 4. Fight fatigue Energy boosters:  Our mood is regulated by a neurotransmitter called serotonin. Serotonin is known to increase happiness and make one’s ...

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Miscarriage: Who I tried to forgive, what I tried to forget

I slip the white satin sheet off me; the light from the sun encases me in a newer, warmer sheet. Curtains are drawn and the window beams at me, 12pm signalling a wakeup call. Late mornings have been the norm for nine odd months. But neither I, nor the sun, complain we are happy to rise at a later time. He has woken up already. He has left for work already. The maid has been let in; she is dusting the sofas in the next room. My feet touch the marble and I sit up. Like a reflex, my hand comes to ...

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Fathers are humans too

Fatherhood has been a very esteemed title in the world for a long time. Almost every civilisation had some sort of nobility associated with fatherhood. Fathers are seen as strong, diligent protectors. They are the supermen to their children. But how much of this is based in reality? Well, I would like to share my tale of becoming a father, just as an example. It’s been a little over a year since I became a father. My baby boy is growing up fast and every minute spent with him seems like the best time of my life. Just like every child, he’s learning new things ...

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Todd Akin, what exactly is ‘legitimate’ rape?

Missouri Congressman Todd Akin, a conservative Republican candidate running for the hotly contested US Senate seat, recently made some crass comments on ‘legitimate’ rape. He also gave insight into the female reproductive system that have instigated much outrage amongst Republicans and Democrats alike. His statement was meant in defence of his anti-abortion stance and with regard to pregnancy as a result of rape. It poorly attempted to render the question of abortion irrelevant by asserting that “It seems to me first of all, from what I understand from doctors, that’s really rare. If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body ...

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Baby scare: Motherhood can change your life

On December 2, 2010 I called my obstetrician/gynaecologist’s  office only to hear the words:  “Ma’am, you are seven weeks pregnant!” I couldn’t believe my ears. What the nurse told me seemed impossible. I immediately logged on to Googletalk and broke the news to my husband. He wanted to share the news with his family members, but I was still in a state of disbelief and stopped him from spreading the word. I spent that entire day crying, wrapped under a blanket, until my husband came home. After a few days, he started sharing the ‘good news’ and simultaneously, I started receiving ‘congratulation’ ...

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Unplanned pregnancy: Time to speak up

How many of us, Pakistani or South Asian women, have the courage to narrate our feelings on the issue of unplanned pregnancies? Why does society not understand that an unplanned pregnancy is a risk factor for depression both, during and after pregnancy? Why do health care providers tend to miss opportunities to learn more about the pregnant woman’s feelings about her pregnancy? I understand that these are difficult questions to answer, considering the norms of our society and medical practice which traditionally view pregnant women as a machine whose purpose is to produce a healthy infant and then be a happy mother-to-be ...

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Ten signs your girlfriend is crazy

The crazy woman is one of nature’s most devastating forces. Most guys spend their time rationalising the behaviour of the crazy woman they are dating because they just assume “she’s difficult” or  “opinionated” or  has an “adorable tendency to be a raging cow.” Crazy women are never, ever crazy to begin with. They are also almost always hot. In my vast experience, I observed both the behaviour of crazy women and listened to the advice of normal women. Here are ten surefire signs to spot and avoid a crazy woman. In isolation, any one of these points may be harmless or insignificant. But ...

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No test, no nikkah (Part 2)

After my post “No test, no nikkah”, I have got some appreciation and at the same time some objections as well. Here is the reply to those objections: Several people asked me how they can ask their partners to get tested. “It doesn’t look good,” they said. A friend of mine said “The in-laws might start beating me Ayesha!” and I simply replied, “Just for once think of your generation – that beating won’t be anything then.” Then, there are people who ask me who am I or the government to stop them marrying their love if both are Thalassemia minor. Who said ...

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