Stories about girls

Kinnaird: Teaching more than how to be a wife

Kinnaird College for Women is a prestigious educational institute that has been producing women of strength and confidence for years. From Bano Qudsia, Bapsi Sidhwa, Asma Jahangir, Kashmala Tariq to Faryal Gohar, Sawera Nadeem and Hadiqa Kiyani, Kinnaird has produced leading women in all fields of life. It has a history of dedication and struggle in making it what it is today; the dream of every young girl. I am lucky enough that my dream has become a reality: today, I am a KCite. Everyday, I embrace the pride of being a part of Kinnaird because it is an institution that ...

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19 girls, one car: I was one of them!

Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. They are what make you go beyond the norm. The same applies to what my team and I achieved on the December 15, 2010 when we successfully set a new Guinness World Record by fitting into a Standard two-seater Daimler Benz Production Smart Car. Doing something smart with my smart car I realized that I possess a Smart Car which is a rarity – at least in Pakistan. In fact whenever I took it out on a drive I was followed by inquisitive admirers. While browsing newspaper headlines in my ...

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The man who taught us to be afraid

Learning that adults aren’t always as virtuous as we expect them to be is a rite of passage. One teacher exemplified this lesson, presenting himself as a patriarch. He told his students they were like his children and he would lecture them on morals. His tarnished reputation preceded him and this was his way of overcompensating. One girl dropped his class because he made her uncomfortable. When she asked a question he would come around and “accidentally” brush his hand against her. He’d pick up a book, place it on a lap and write with one hand resting on a ...

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The ghairat brigade

You may have come across them. They are at schools, colleges, offices and maybe even in your family. It seems they are every where, the protectors of our innocence the ghairat brigade. Caring Cousin A relative who often sports a beard, is a strong believer in Mullah rule,  fanaticism and a proud patriot. He uses social networks (mainly for cyber-stalking girls), but is offended by his female relatives using the same technology. His ghairat awakens. He warns females about the many evils of  “cyber boys.” University Brat He proudly roams around with three or more girls at a time but disapproves ...

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Auntysville

All of us know them. Whether it is a wedding, a funeral or a birthday party there they will be asking questions, making oh-so-helpful suggestions and gathering information to file away for future reference – aunties! It may start innocently enough. But don’t be fooled by their innocent questions – otherwise you may regret it. 6:05 by the chaat table Aunty Jan: Beta, how are doing? And how many rozas did you keep? Bobby: Just kept a few. I fell sick one week before Eid and missed a few. Aunty Jan: Oho! You must take care of your health. Get well soon. Say my salaam ...

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Learning a lesson in Khairpur

Empty classrooms, vacant desks, books unopened and lessons not learnt – Khairpur’s schools are screaming for attention. Interning with some local NGOs gave me the opportunity to visit and compile a report about girls’ schools in Khairpur Mir. I was struck, in a harrowing way, by what I saw. When most people think about the state of education, especially female education in rural areas, a gloomy picture comes to mind. Let’s just say that I wasn’t expecting everything to be hunky dory either. I had gleaned enough details about ghost schools, absenteeism, and general dissatisfaction with government schools. But no amount ...

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The perfect rishta can be expensive

Finding a proper match these days has become an onerous task. People mostly rely on ‘marriage wali’ aunties who keep on advertising in different newspapers. Most of the marriage bureaus operating in Pakistan are fake. They post ads in newspapers, ask families to fill out registration forms, take a large amount of money and never send a single family. They don’t even bother to pick up your phone when you call them after you have paid their fee. Quit playing games Some of my friends have had bad experiences with S Assoc. and Mrs K in Islamabad. S Assoc. ask families to ...

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