Stories about divorce

Carol: A heartening romance

The following is a short movie review. Carol (2015) is a melodrama set in the 1950s (adapted from the novel The Price of Salt) where Therese (Rooney Mara) is an aspiring photographer who falls in love with an older, more sophisticated woman named Carol (Cate Blanchett). Within the mist of a difficult divorce process with her husband, Carol and Therese embark on a journey across the West, trying to find answers in a world gone array. On paper, this might seem like a film one had seen countless times before, but it is Todd Haynes’s impeccable attention to detail and dialogue that ...

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Why don’t men give women the rights guaranteed to them by religion?

Pakistani women are playing an active role in society and have attained success in fields that were considered to be ‘no go zones’ a few years ago. Although they are taking strides towards prosperity and financial independence, further efforts need to be made in order for them to gain their share of honour and dignity. Could you have imagined, a decade ago, that Pakistan would have scores of female fighter pilots in its Air Force? Could you have imagined a year that Pakistan’s soil would be emboldened with the memory of a female martyr, Flying Officer Marium Mukhtiar? Many of you are nodding your ...

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Fear the wrath of God

What do women seeking abortions, homosexuals in the US military, the animistic tribe of the Pakistani Kalash, and Christmas celebrating, non-vegetarians have in common? Apparently, God hates them and so we all have to put up with terrorists, strong winds and the earth splitting wide open. “Look what the Kalash have done now” In the wake of November’s 7.5 magnitude earthquake, a tragedy that left over 390 people dead, Pakistanis have descended into their favourite game; the blame game. It’s a familiar, age-old phenomenon. The wrath of God has been a sound explanation for the cruel, unusual, confusing and tragic since the inception of religion, and, perhaps, humankind. ...

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Three months ago, I got divorced and this helped me move on

Three months ago, I got divorced. Perhaps very few people would have known this save for the fact that the man of my dreams (now simply the father of my children) had posted on Facebook that ‘not all endings are sad’ and his new lady love replied that ‘some endings have happy beginnings’. Needless to say that this was in poor taste because it is indeed sad, no matter how happy the beginning that a family unravels, the two children lose their parents living under one roof and a 13-year-old marriage comes to an end. However, if there is anything I ...

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Three lessons to learn from Imran and Reham’s marriage and divorce

I wasn’t in Pakistan when Imran Khan and Reham Khan tied the knot, but this ‘news’ was big enough to infiltrate every conversation in Boston as well. All of a sudden, every Pakistani seemed to have an opinion about their wedding. It was discussed on the streets, in classrooms, in workplaces and in drawing rooms. We lapped up the wedding event, we absorbed every public appearance, every word uttered by Reham Khan (whether personal or political), and we discussed the juicy remarks made by her former husband. And now, we will dissect their divorce.  Here are three lessons that I have learnt from Imran ...

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Beware: You may be heading into (murderous) marriage

Marriage comes with its own set of doubts and insecurities. You might have heard it on the news, you might have seen it happen with someone you know – there are many stories about failed marriages all around us. Stories about how families have been fooled in the name of this sacred bond and have lost their life’s worth of savings. The increasing statistics about marriages being broken due to infidelity, fraud by the in-laws, husbands being abusive or having prior criminal record, paint a horrible picture of marriages in our country. The divorce rate has reached an alarming level and this ...

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Ghost whisperer: Much more than just supernatural phenomenons

You often second guess yourself with superficial ghost shows, and I don’t blame you. It’s true. There are very few soulful TV shows out there that have touched millions and Ghost Whisperer is that one exception. Although the series ended its run in 2010 with five seasons, the show has really moved me as a viewer. I caught sight of this gem a few weeks ago on Google, and I’m inclined to say, I have no regrets! I wanted to give supernatural-ghost-spirit kind of shows a chance and Ghost Whisperer was my first preference. The minute you think about ghostly spirits, ...

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Tanu Weds Manu Returns with a bang

Tanu weds Manu returns with a bang. Where the first part, although entertaining, was quite anti-climactic and had a clichéd story line, the second part promises to overturn any complaints you might have had with the acting or the dialogue delivery from the prequel. It’s been four years since Tanu (Kangana Ranaut) and Manu (Ranganathan Madhavan) got married, but boredom finally takes its toll, adversely affecting their marriage. When Manu loses his calm during a counselling session, he is forcefully admitted into a ward, while his wife calmly exits and makes her way back to her hometown, Kanpur, India. For heart-broken ...

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Facebook vs reality: When unfriend and delete turns into divorce

During a casual social conversation, I stated, “It is always a sad incidence when marital relationships break.” A colleague smiled and said, “I have heard of three in the past month or so.” I have been hearing cases of separation and divorces almost every week now. Most of the couples breaking ties are under the age of 35 and had been married anywhere from 25 days to three years. I find myself totally shocked and frozen at what is happening in our society. This issue seems like a big threat to our family system. I can confidently claim that when I and the likes of me ...

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Why people should NOT get married in Pakistan

Before you wrinkle your eyebrows in a ‘holier-than-thou’ frown and judge my very existence, let me assure you that this blog is not a preaching of what you should or should not do. This blog is based on mere observations of human relationships and a concept that defines our lives in so many ways – shaadi (marriage). I was familiar with this word at a very young age. But it was at the age of six when my brother (eight-years-old then) told me something that freaked me out. In sheer exasperation, that only an older brother can have, he said, “I can’t ...

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