“Nothing changes here! Pakistan was, is, and will always be the same”

Published: December 13, 2018

The portrait of Muhammad Ali Jinnah is displayed at the India-Pakistan border in Wagah as a Pakistani Ranger unfurls the flag during a ceremony to celebrate Pakistan’s Independence. PHOTO: AFP

In 2015, I left to pursue my Fulbright scholarship aspiring to conquer the world and change the landscape of research in Pakistan. I have always found the general pessimism that prevails in our country to be severely problematic. For instance, how we as a country lack unity amongst ourselves and can never rise above gender differences, religious discrimination amongst the people and the innate negativity against the government.

Two years of Fulbright gave me a whole new perspective on life. I discovered a world where things such as age, race, colour, gender and other such superficial constructs were irrelevant and your talent was all that mattered. What pleasantly surprised me the most during my time in the United States was the optimistic nature of the people and how willing they were to follow the laws. I tried to inspire myself as much as I could in these two years and came back to Pakistan with a renewed passion and zest for life.

Upon returning to my country, I realised that I may have changed in these two years but my country hadn’t at all. Living away from home, it was easy to forgive all the negativity that defines our country. But the negativity doesn’t really go away. Everyone I talked to back home summarised each conversation with the same ages-old rant:

“Nothing changes here! Pakistan was, is, and will always be the same.”

All of us have complained about our country at some point in time or the other. Some complain more than others but living in Pakistan, we never really stop complaining. No matter how educated we are, we don’t think twice before throwing garbage on the road, or breaking the signal, all the while complaining about how dirty our country is and how much traffic there is respectively. We exploit our country every opportunity we get. As a society, we’re judgmental, misogynistic and discriminatory towards anyone who is even a little ‘different’. All this may be true but perhaps it is time we focus on the good, rather than just the bad. I have rarely seen anyone talking about the positive changes that have occurred in the past few years, changing the societal norms of our country for the better.

One such change is the increased mobility of women. Up until a few years ago, it would have been considered anomalous to see a woman ride a motorbike on the roads of Lahore but just the other day, I saw a beautiful bike draped gracefully in a lilac-coloured net umbrella. Driving the bike was a woman, sitting with her two children. The exotic-looking net umbrella sheltered the children from the heat while the bike itself empowered the woman and was certainly not a sight to be missed.

A few weeks ago, I was visiting a friend at Mayo Hospital, located near Gawalmandi in the heart of the old city. Expecting the usual judgmental glances, swarming crowds and poor hygiene conditions, I wrapped a chaddar around myself and entered from the backside of the emergency ward. To my surprise, everything had changed since the last time I had visited the place. The staff was well equipped, the place wasn’t too crowded and the nurses were kind and helpful. Wondering how the place had changed so much in such a short span of time, my friend explained to me that the patient registration system, lab tests and even medicine allocation were all automated now. Patients’ lab reports were now delivered through smartphone apps and the IDs generated by the system were all they needed to access their medical history. All procedures and systems were mechanised and throughout Punjab, all government tertiary hospitals were interconnected. This systemisation was at par with all that I had seen in the US. I honestly had not expected the oldest hospital in Lahore to have the same system in place as some of the most ‘advanced’ nations of the world.

As far as changes in people themselves are concerned, we still have a long way to go. As a woman, to experience cat-calling and harassment on the streets of Lahore isn’t something unusual. Importantly, what may come as a surprise to many is that these things are just as common on the streets of Dallas and New York as they are in our country. While walking about on the streets of Puerto Rico, I realised that foreigners are treated with a lot of discrimination and aren’t exactly given a warm welcome by the locals. Regardless, South Asian women (especially in Pakistan and India) particularly become the brunt of such sexually driven attacks.

Just last week around seven in the evening, I was driving around Barkat Market searching for a phone shop. As is the custom in our country, particularly in the Punjab, a group of guys started following my car. Since I had long come to accept and also expect this, I wasn’t too appalled and knew exactly how to dodge them and make my way to a safer place. As I attempted to manoeuvre my way around, a few men on bikes encircled my car and also started to follow me. The dolphin police officers sensed that something wasn’t right and decided to interfere. They stopped us, and forced the men out of their cars. I was shocked, confused and nauseous all at the same time and was wondering whether or not I should get out of the car. While I was thinking all this, a member of the dolphin squad approached me and very kindly said to me:

“Madam, aisa issue ho toh aap squad call kar liya karen.

(Madam, whenever you face such issues, call the squad for help)

I sighed with relief; never had been I so happy, surprised and relived at the same time.

This obviously doesn’t take away from the fact that change needs to occur at a more fundamental level. The idea that men derive some sort of satisfaction from following women around on roads in order to intimidate and terrorise them, is itself appalling at the very least and perhaps we need to sit and think about why we as a society are conditioned with certain beliefs regarding how to behave with the opposite sex.

Similarly, perhaps our hospitals should have been automated since the very inception of technology and the idea of women riding bikes shouldn’t be pointed out as being unusual in the first place. It is equally important to note that these changes are most likely restricted to larger cities such as Lahore or Karachi. But the fact remains that we cannot change our history. We have been brought up with certain stereotypes and our governing system has always been inefficient owing to our colonial past. These things cannot be denied and it is highly unrealistic to assume that they will change overnight.

Living away from home has taught me to be okay with accepting uncertainty. We cannot mourn over the past and remain pessimistic forever. When it comes to change, we need to slowly and steadily appreciate what’s already happening and think about what more can be done. Change isn’t a tide; it is one drop of water at a time forming a wave. Let’s be a part of this wave and do all that we can to become a ‘change agent’. Let’s spread the changes already in place in the larger cities to all peripheries of the rural regions where conditions are still the same as they’ve always been. We, the educated classes, need to be a part of this change because we are the ones who can read, write, observe and set the bar of what’s right and wrong. Without a doubt, good things are happening around us and we must do our bit by becoming influencers and not detached elites. Let’s make history as ‘doers’ rather than as mere witnesses.

Anam Saeed

Anam Saeed

The author is a Fulbright Scholar, Economist, Lecturer, Artist and Lifestyle Photographer, based in Lahore. Her photography work can be accessed on facebook.com/anamstory and Instagram.com/nm__saeed.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Patwari

    Great article indeed. Very surprised at the changes the learned blogger has mentioned. Uplifting.
    May further changes occur at lightening speeds, instead of the usual snail crawl.
    One line was very touching, and illuminating :-…”hospitals should have been automated since the inception of the [particular] technology, [required technology was available but not used]
    This, in Punjab, the wealthiest province, of the Land of the Pure
    That, is Pakland in a nutshell. We can also say that due to heavy duty, industrial grade corruption,
    this technology was not implemented by the powers that be, because budgeted money, by the ruling family and cabal [oops! former ruling family] is sitting in off shore accounts.
    At the risk of sounding crass and depressive,…priority one, get rid of the corruption, that has and is sucking the country into a maw. Fortunately, that is being done, on a fast track, by the current govt.
    Hmm,…fast and furious the mantra, catch phrase.
    Then the other numerous, numerous issues can dealt with, in parallel drives.
    Looks like there is light at the end of the tunnel, after all.Recommend

  • chenab

    I enjoyed reading your account but am rather surprised at your naivety- even after living there for two years you actually left with the mpression that gender, colour, race and age do not matter in the US?!Recommend

  • Humza

    This is the positive change that was brought about by the last government. Now you have a populous leader like Imran Khan who is all talk but he and his confused team have no plans or policy for the country. I am still reeling about their decision to fire Dr. Umar Saif of the Punjab Information Technology Board who ended ghost schools in Punjab and brought immunization to near first world levels.Recommend

  • ShockandHorror

    Interesting take on a never changing society!Recommend

  • Parvez

    That was nice attempt at positivity …… the question that always surfaces at such times is why have we lagged behind after seventy long years of being in existence. The answers are many but the one I think that covers a lot is that….. leaders have to lead by example and most of those who have come have miserably failed in setting an example. None of then proudly claimed ownership of Pakistan, instead they ” used ” and simply paid lip service to this country while in fact they, their wealth, their famalies and their wellbeing always rested abroad.Recommend

  • zafars

    I was expecting more depth. Same old stories of harassment being the major issue.Recommend

  • Patwari

    “…I was ‘expecting’ more depth…” So you knew this blog was coming?
    Therefore you had your sight set on more depth? How so? Strange.
    The blogger wrote about HER experiences. How scared and maybe
    traumatized, she was. And you think women’s harassment is just
    ‘old issues’. You might be singing a different tune if it happened to your
    mother, your wife, your sister, your daughter. With a full back up band
    and backup singers.
    By the way, women in general, suffer more harassment then, say, somebody
    like YOU in Pakland…er…Land of the Pure.
    So have some empathy,……and maybe THINK.Recommend

  • gp65

    I appreciate your positive attitude. But in order to be positive about Pakistan you do not have to run down other places that have been kind to you. I am a single woman who lives in Dallas and in the 16 years I have lived here there has not been one cat call. So to say that this behavior is common everywhere simply is not true. Also as far as mobility goes, I routinely return from parties past midnight and safety is a non-issue.Recommend

  • Patwari

    Great to know that you have never had a bad experience, with cat calls etc. in Dallas.
    Houston and San Antoine might be a different story. Or Miami/Dade. Or Detroit.
    May God keep you in the palm of his hand.
    However your experience may be an exception. Because you would not want to be on the wrong side-street in New York. Off Broadway, or even near Penn Central, Madison Square Gardens, 42nd. Street or Lexington Ave. [which is the taxi ‘adda’ of desi taxi drivers, great string of desi restaurants, excellent food, at cheap prices].
    Perhaps, stay on 5th. Ave. or Madison Ave. if that is possible at all. Even avoid Central Park and Tribeca,…at night.
    You would not want to be in Harlem, [or Spanish Harlem] even in broad daylight.
    Normally, while visiting Mexico, ‘yours truly’ is treated deferentially, with all the bowing and scraping, but is called a ‘gringo’ behind the back. Which is a derogatory term, for
    some tourists, from the North. [‘yours truly’ knows a smattering of Spanish]
    Mexicans are generally polite and nice people, so to say.
    Sorry, but the blogger was absolutely right when she wrote ‘…women, in the Sub Continent become the brunt of sexually driven attacks…’ who can deny that?
    Clearly understood that YOU are very nationalistic and passionate about Bharat and may not easily accept hard, clear facts, about Hindustan….or the sub Continent.Recommend

  • zafars

    Calm down. I am not a supporter of sexual harassment of any kind. I was just commenting on the title of the article and then read just same old stories that people right about all the time.Recommend