Help! My Facebook page got hacked

Published: May 12, 2011

I need an action plan so that I can start talking to her again.

Dear Miss Informed,


I am in love with a girl who doesn’t like me. We have been friends for four years and used to talk every day. She even knew that I loved her but she never liked me. However, recently she stopped talking to me because my Facebook account got hacked and the hacker tagged her in a relationship with me on my status. After this incident, she openly insulted me online and said that she always hated me and would never talk to me again.

I love everything about her, and miss the good times I had with her as a friend. But now I think that she is happy without me in her life. All I keep thinking about is if we will we ever speak to each other again.

Help me please. I need an action plan so that I can start talking to her again.


Dear Omar,

From where I see it, the situation couldn’t be simpler. If, as you say, your Facebook account was actually hacked and this hacker actually did what you say he did, then honey, you ended up expressing your feelings for the girl without meaning to at all. Clearly the girl didn’t know the account was hacked, unless she did it herself to have an excuse to tell you that she doesn’t like you. But, you got your answer without asking the question.

She doesn’t like you.

And in this case, you don’t even need to take a hint, because she seems pretty clear (and mildly rude, for a friend) about her stance.

Now, you can do one of two things.

If this girl is in fact a good friend, then confront her and tell her the truth. Tell her your account was hacked. Believe it or not, friends trust each other. If she doesn’t, then she is not your friend. The matter ends there.

But, if she does accept your explanation, then I must warn you here. Your friendship, is headed nowhere. The girl clearly doesn’t like you. Hell, you’ve been friends for four years. It doesn’t take longer than that for a woman to throw a guy in the friend zone. Trust me – as lovely as I am, I must confess I have done that to many young aspiring Mr Informeds myself.

My personal suggestion – leave her alone. Move on with your life. Otherwise, you will never be happy around her. She may remain your friend for some time. But, when she gets married or has another man in her life, she will know her priorities. It is time for you to know yours.

  • As clichéd as it may sound, there are plenty other fish in the sea.
  • If that doesn’t work out for you, try stamp collection. Or, a more contemporary approach – video games. How old are you anyway?
  • Most importantly, make new friends (female). It’s never too late for that.

My advice ends here. For more help on the matter, contact Mrs Qureshi (the rishta lady).

PS: Change your Facebook password and keep it something that’s not your birthday or pet’s name.

Do you have a problem that you can’t solve all by your lonesome? Miss Informed is here to help! E-mail her at [email protected]


Miss Informed

A Karachi-based social guru who will help untangle all the complex questions life throws your way. Ask Miss Informed for advice on romance, work, family or even how to make the perfect pumpkin pie!

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Romi

    Although all this is pretty stupid, I actually wait for this blog to be posted.
    It might not be the best advice out there, it definitely can be used for a good laugh.

    keep writing! :) Recommend

  • Furious

    Talk about complicated situation dude. And what and exit strategy by miss informed. you gave the kid exactly opposite what he wanted ..
    now what if it was a girl in Omar’s place.. Hmm how people would be dissing the Poor guy who had an different opinion Recommend

  • Jeans

    very ridicules answer. well my friend let me tell you one thing, If girl is very smart its not a matter in front of smart boy. what i do know is that a smart boy can catch so many smart girls N even can flirt with so many smart girls. So be a smart boy my friend. Catching her again is not a difficult task at all. if she is not in touch with you try to communicate with any of his connected person. my last advise to you is try again and again and again,,,, definitely one day you will be successful. Recommend

  • djxeeshan

    ROTFL…. :D Great advice, I agree. :DRecommend

  • Shemrez Nauman Afzal

    Girls are crazy. If she’s your friend and you mean nothing to her, don’t you think something is wrong with you? Something is wrong with at least your perception of this friendship. You don’t need to talk to her again if she does not know how to talk to you properly. Can you really not find other friends? Is Pakistan suddenly empty of girls who may have the same hobbies and preferences as you?
    Miss Informed is right. Leave her alone and move on with your life. If she was really just your friend and nothing more, you’ll be fine.
    If not… well. That just means you’re on your way to becoming a ‘pretty good’ journalist with the kind of ‘truth’ you write down ;)Recommend

  • rida

    Sureeeee your FB page got “HACKED” and someone “else” changed your relationship status.
    You probly got the wrong idea abt your friend.
    Thought you were guys more.
    Well you aren’t
    Tough luck.Recommend

  • AF

    the relationship status only changes after consent of both users. if one user tag another in relationship and other doesnt accept facebook doesnt change the relationship statusRecommend

  • Muhammed Ali

    Tribune’s aunty Agni! Come on don’t become dawns replica:-(Recommend

  • Noor-ul-ain Hanif

    Lol hahaha!! :D contact d rishta lady boy :P Good for you!Recommend

  • taimur khan

    guys if any one of you wana block a page of imposter this is the web link and also send an scanned image of id card (please hide the id card num using paint brush) .

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