While boys remain boys, girls become immoral and should be slut-shamed

Published: June 10, 2017
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The irony is, wearing a swimsuit in Ramazan might not be prohibited but abusing, passing hateful remarks and attacking people during the ‘holy month’ surely is.

Apart from trolling, social media also has the power of setting standards for women on the internet. By acting as moral warriors on social media, these stooges of patriarchy continue to perpetuate their misogyny by slut-shaming successful independent women; something that they can’t do at their home, workplace and/or any civilised social setting.

With the rise of social media, these blabbermouths, with their prejudices concealed under the mask of culture and mannerism, mock, stigmatise and pass derogatory remarks on women.

…And the worst affected are celebrities, especially Bollywood actresses.

Recently, when Bollywood actress Priyanka Chopra met Prime Minister Narendra Modi in Berlin, she was criticised for dressing indecently and showing her legs. However, the army of trolls couldn’t cripple her self-esteem and she responded to those who showed unjust malice towards her in the most subtle yet powerful way.

Photo: Twitter

Legs for days…. #itsthegenes with @madhuchopra nights out in #Berlin #beingbaywatch

A post shared by Priyanka Chopra (@priyankachopra) on

While the Quantico star showed her haters the door, they flocked together, ready to troll her contemporary, Deepika Padukone, for her latest photoshoot where she is dressed in a white ensemble.

Not encouraging the unrealistic expectation by the slut-shamers, the xXx: Return of Xander Cage star remained completely unaffected by the sanskar (tradition) as well as the culture comments. Interestingly, instead of responding with words, she decided to hit where it hurts the most. Yes, she posted yet another stunning and bold photo from the same photoshoot – ouch!

Slut-shaming and online trolls

Although slut-shaming is nothing new to our society, thanks to internet trolls, it has somehow become okay and omnipresent. So if you are a woman and you are actively engaging in your own sensuality, apparently you are violating the unspoken rules of our society, culture and tradition.

While boys remain boys, girls become sluts. Whether girls expose themselves or not, they are slut-shamed. Whether they conceal every inch of their skin or walk around semi-naked, they are slut-shamed. Whether they shun physical contact or crave it, they are slut-shamed.

These self-proclaimed custodians of morality, full of hideous sexism and patriarchal mind-sets fancy controlling girls and women. Slanderous words such as “hoe” and “slut” are thrusted upon women in general to keep them in check. These words are nothing but a reminder that, while deep down we are sexual and sexists, our sexuality will never ever be our own.

Moreover, now that the target is mainly educated, successful, liberal, free, gutsy and sensible women, it goes to show how these men are haunted by the achievements of successful women that they not only loathe, but also consider morally wrong.

So it didn’t come as a surprise when a few so-called religious messiahs slammed Fatima Shaikh of Dangal for wearing a bikini in the holy month of Ramazan. It seems as if using religion as a weapon for targeting women who are proud of their bodies has now become a desperate attempt by internet trolls to trouble the female fraternity. Even though we call it moral policing, it is nothing less than harassment.

 

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The irony is, wearing a swimsuit in Ramazan might not be prohibited but abusing, passing hateful remarks and attacking people during the holy month surely is. Ramazan, after all, is a month where the believers abstain and introspect.

As a self-custodian of sanskar, trollers get a moral high when they see even an inch of bare skin on a woman’s body. What they forget is the fact that by imposing their beliefs on others and not respecting other individual’s life choices is morally wrong as well.

However, it is high time that these moral crusaders back off and let us women live the way we wish to. If we create nuisance, break laws, or disrupt peace, please report us to the required authorities, take action and inform the police, yes, be a responsible citizen. However, do not, I repeat do not, exhibit your narrow-mindedness and try to impose your ideas on us nurtured solely by sexism, patriarchy, homophobia, xenophobia, Islamophobia, classism, and/or your definition of culture.

Lastly, my dear online moral trollers – the internet’s most worthless people – why don’t you do yourself a favour? Get off your computers and get a life.

Deepti Verma

Deepti Verma

The author is co-founder of NationalViews.com - an online portal for articulating opinions, views that needs national as well as global attention. She tweets @universal_rover (twitter.com/universal_rover?lang=en)

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  • ABKhan

    Indian males are worst form of creatures in the world. They cannot allow Indian women to go outside without being harassed or rapped Recommend

  • Parvez

    I liked the way you laid that out……..passionate, hard hitting and truthful.
    Generally speaking in the sub-continent over the centuries patriarchy has held sway……today when it is challenged, it hits out left-right and center and ends up looking stupid.Recommend

  • wb

    Yet, we have more successful women business leaders, politicians, athletes, artists, filmmakers, writers, novelists, singers, scientists, thinkers and whatnot, than the entire Muslim world combined.

    And yet, the rate of rate is higher in Pakistan than in India, despite most rapes never getting reported in Pakistan.Recommend

  • wb

    I understand your blog and you’re spot on when it comes to the misogyny in the developing world.

    But, I don’t care for the three people you’ve mentioned. They have risen to the top because of family names and connections and most importantly their good looks and I repeat, no talent.

    Thank god, you didn’t mention Aishwarya, that would have made me angry.Recommend

  • Rose Mary Marlow

    men wear ties and long pants. Less women wear, the better (for men). Recommend

  • uint32 .

    Every model has a fundamental right to exposeRecommend

  • uint32 .

    you are correct probably few indian males belonging to a particular community following polygamy do it.Recommend

  • akhil g

    You will see all the commentators are Muslims.Recommend

  • Keyboard Soldier

    Most of the negative comments about these pics come from Indian and Pakistani Muslims.

    There you have it.Recommend

  • Vyshak MV

    hahaha, that comes from a Pakistani, who covers his women from head to toeRecommend

  • angrybird

    says a paki male!! biggest irony!!! Recommend

  • Ibn-Arastoo Ibn-aflatoon Ibn-B

    Alhamdulillah we now see that it has always been the Indians interested in “sl-t shaming”. Why are these people here on our websites spreading their problems , then the Indian commentators engaging in abuse against us? We are a different culture, religion, race, nation, language etc. May God save our peoples from these nice Indians.Recommend

  • Pegasus711
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  • Custard_Pie_In_Your_Face

    If guys walked around in mankinis during Ramzaan or male dignitaries wore spandex when meeting Angela Merkel because guys should be ‘proud of their manhood’, we’d be slated. And rightfully so.

    While the West has done alot of good for promoting womens rights in many aspects, this celebrity, gossip mag, hollywood, pop-culture trash promotion has absolutely nothing to do with womens rights.

    You have the right to dress however you want, just as much as those who comment on the way you dress have every right to do so.Recommend

  • jae

    Beautiful pic! I wish I was still young and pretty:) As I get older I DO see how sexualizing girls at a young age is becoming a bigger problem. More young girls are running away from homes and ending up being groomed into prostitution b/c they are in a hurry to grow up or want some material item. It’s really sad what is going on with the sex trafficking all around the world b/c of men.

    I also don’t understand what teens are doing out in the middle of the night these days! My parents, or no parents I know, would ever have let kids be out on the streets at 2am. I don’t know what is happening in the US where parents aren’t able to control their kids and keep them focused on their futures. Maybe it’s a result of single-parent homes. Fathers are essential to teaching girls self-worth and when they are absent, girls think that sex=love, and they are sorely mistaken and are getting abused as a result.Recommend