My Blackberry and me: A love-hate relationship

Published: March 11, 2011

I was meeting my friend after 18 months. We hadn’t seen each other since our college days and athough we had kept in touch, Skype is really not an adequate substitute for a face-to-face conversation.

Needless to say, I was looking forward to meeting and catching up. Conversation started, we laughed, we talked but she devoted an absurdly large amount of attention to her BlackBerry.

Every three minutes there would be a ‘ting’ after which she would pick up her phone and read something, smile, giggle or frown, and type furiously. The first few times, I waited patiently and listened to her “I’m so sorry, this is just so important, I promise it’s the last one,” with a smile.

By the seventh time I was staring moodily into space, by the eleventh I was tapping my fingers impatiently on the table and by the sixteenth I was just angry.

I mean, this was downright rude, right? No one should be ignored for a phone — that’s just simple breach of etiquette.

Since then, the BlackBerry craze has surged. Recently, I had to buy a new phone, so I decided to get a BlackBerry. But I knew there was no way I was going to turn into one of ‘those’ addicted sorts.

Yesterday, I went out for coffee with a few friends and during our conversation, my phone ‘tinged’. Naturally, I picked it up and since BlackBerry Messenger shows when a message has been read, I have to reply and then when a reply comes, I have to read it right?

I’ve become one of them!

I knew it the second I saw my friends’ smiles turning into frowns. The tapping on the table began, but I couldn’t stop.

It’s really not my fault. It’s such a great way of keeping in touch! My sister in America, my cousin in Canada, my mamoo in Dubai, my best friend in Australia – they are all a few ‘tings’ away. I can receive pictures, I can have group chats, and I know the second anything happens, I’ll be informed immediately.

It’s great, but it’s awful being dependent – on a phone.


Maha Amin

A LUMS graduate working as a sub-editor on the Life & Style pages of The Express Tribune.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Said Chaudhry

    ah yes! they don’t call it the Crackberry for no reason :) Recommend

  • Someone from Kandy

    Yes maha, even i’ve noticed that.. my convos get a deaf ear after the ‘ting’Recommend

  • Noreen Shams

    it happens with me same frown and anger when my friend ignores me for her msgs & calls .. :(
    thats mean we dont need to meet or see our pals face to face… just stay connect via techno keep texting , calling then whts need to meet … ??Recommend

  • Scorpion

    Nice One..!!!Recommend

  • Shahbaz lodhi

    Nicely written, A tussle of communication devices among International Brands Recommend

  • Farhan Aleem

    Nice Post Maha…….! You have been always in Realization Mode….!Recommend

  • Antebellum

    Technology is a tool. The art is to use it and not be used by it. We must learn to control it and not be controlled by it. Lest we become a tool ourselves.

    Here’s an interesting piece, though mildly related, but interesting nevertheless:

  • Saad

    a waste of space,really !Recommend

  • parvez

    Good article. Liked the way you made your point, simply but effectively.
    Completely agree with Antebellum’s comment. Recommend

  • Atif

    Was that a BB advertisement ? Tribune ! your standards are on the brink of collapse by these type of misadventures, you know who are your competitors ? Raise your standards :(Recommend

  • Uzma Khan

    “My sister in America, my cousin in Canada, my mamoo in Dubai, my best friend in Australia” –

    Ahh these LUMSIANS.. I so wish I could pull them out of their inherited bungalow, car and posh office and put them on the road and make them spend a month in 6000. just to get an idea what life’s about.
    argggghhh.. these paper gods and godesses worth nothingRecommend

  • Hamza Malik

    @Uzman Khan:

    Someone’s suffering from the jealousy syndrome but never mind, I agree. And is it just me or has the Express Tribune become a ragtag for the rich bourgeoisie only? Recommend

  • Ahtisham Gill

    Well… Its alll about “Priorities” & the way how we prioritise things & ppl!
    So, Its We who are gonna decide who takes a lead in our Priority list!Recommend

  • RaG

    Nicely written but don’t you think you should learn something out of it yourself? You seemed irritated at your friend but since you started doing it too it turned out to be acceptable? That’s the message I got from your article!Recommend

  • Hussam

    What are you? 12?Recommend

  • Saad

    @ HUSSAM : LOL , good 1 matey ! Recommend

  • TZ

    Can totally relate to you. From being an occasional “texter”, i have developed into something far far worst in a span of 3 months. i blame my bb, since i am perfect.Recommend

  • UM-

    We are now dependant to technologies, because they have encircled our livies more than any thing else. Where we are going and how this will impact our future generations ! God helps us and our social values – Recommend

  • Deen Sheikh

    Truly a waste of blog space, Maha, you could haRecommend

  • Deen Sheikh

    Truly a waste of blog space, Maha, you could have written a better piece
    it does not even feel complete, courtesy of your ending paragraph.Recommend

  • Abdul Moiz

    I think you r just new to BB…
    whts ur BB pin??? :P :PRecommend