Love is more than roses: The legends behind Valentine’s day

Published: February 12, 2011
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Who St Valentine was remains a mystery.

It’s the same old story every Valentine’s Day. Red things plastered everywhere, sales, advertisements and the omnipresence of hearts.

As sentimental music lulls the senses over candlelit tables where love struck eyes caress each other in banal and repetitive gestures, the voice of reason within me asks, “What the hell is wrong with us?”

If someone told me February 14 was the day that fat cats from Hallmark and flower tycoons from around the world gather to toast their Dom Perignon and light their cigars with $100 bills to celebrate the world’s stupidity, I wouldn’t be surprised. It is one of the greatest commercial scams ever created. I admit, it’s infectious and even I have succumbed to its stupidity, but who would like to admit that his heart is cold and there’s no room for romance, love, celebration or anything lovely like that?

But the real question is, why do we fall for it? Shouldn’t love be celebrated all year instead of rather disingenuously only once a year? Perhaps somewhere at the back of our minds, we justify it by thinking that it’s a good thing and that we ought to honour its symbols and history.

Honouring Saint Valentine

Valentine’s Day is supposedly held to honour St Valentine. But who St Valentine was, remains a mystery, as there are three possible individuals with the name Valentine who may be contenders for the title. All three were martyred in the early days of Christianity which may explain why such little documentation about them exists. Even today, an insignificant church in the Ukraine purports to house the authentic remains of St Valentine.

How’s that for romantic?

On death row and in love

Other legends talk about the imprisonment and execution of a priest named Valentine, active during the third century in the Roman Empire. The emperor at the time, Claudius II, decreed that all single men were forbidden to marry and ought to serve in the army.

Valentine, foolish like any true romantic, continued to perform treason by transgressing the edict and married a young couple. Imprisoned and on death row, Valentine fell in love with the daughter of his captor and on the day of his execution, sent her a love note signed, ‘from your Valentine.’

Of course, all of this took place on February 14. Since then, every sentimental sap with a little originality has used this stomach-churning, trite phrase to convince the opposite sex of his intentions.

In 498 AD Pope Gelasius declared St Valentine’s Day to be commemorated on February 14, but of course, doubt still looms over whether he was referring to the saint, the sap, or a symbolic mixture of both.

Celebrating fertility

Another interpretation offers a more pragmatic explanation. In Rome, the Ides of February featured a celebration known as the Lupercalia. This holiday played a part in Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar.

The Lupercalia, named in honour of the she-wolf that nursed Romulus and Remus, was a fertility festival. Hence, in true pagan tradition, after the sacrifice of a goat, the hide was cut into strips, dipped in the blood, and used to flog women in the superstitious belief that it would make women more fertile. Whatever works, right?

Plutarch describes how the women would run through the streets naked, waiting to be flogged by lascivious men brandishing blood-soaked hides to prevent barrenness and ensure a long, healthy and very fertile life. At the end of the evening, couples would pair up and engage in one of those Roman orgies we hear so much about. Personally, I can’t think of a better way to spend my next holiday.

After Constantine’s Edict of Milan which legitimised Christianity in 313 AD, efforts were made to convert pagan holidays into Christian ones to allow for a smooth transfer and acceptance of Christianity. Hence, Sol Invictus became Christmas and the Lupercalia, became St Valentine’s Day, minus the blood-soaked hides and naked women.

The pagan romance we pay millions for

Neither provides the true explanation of the holiday. All I know is, some genius turned a primitive pagan holiday into a sappy and cheesy celebration and converted the world into a bunch of gullible morons. What’s more interesting is how animal hides dipped in blood have evolved into gift-cards, heart-shaped candy, teddy bears and other symbols of love and affection. While the aforementioned fat cats, flower hawkers, gift-card writers and candy-salesmen reap the world’s wealth one pathetic, love-struck idiot at a time, let us prepare now for an auspicious Valentine’s Day for 2011.

But before you run to find that perfect present and book that romantic dinner for two, let me say this: if Valentine’s Day symbolises love, maybe it’s time to realise that neither the chocolate, flowers nor teddy bear will really make much of a difference. Tell that special person how you feel and make an honest and meaningful night out of it.

It might just be more romantic than a Hallmark card.

hamza.usman

Hamza Usman

A writer with a Bachelor's in Political Science & History and a Master's in Global Communications. He tweets at @hamzausman.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • HAMMAD ALI HASSAN

    WOW.
    THE RIGHT WORDS….Recommend

  • http://syedaabidabokhari.wordpress.com The Only Normal Person Here.

    Enough bashing this day. Why do we always have to spoil celebrations? Life is already very difficult. Spare the theory and celebrate the essence of the day.

    Books and movies for the month of Valentine.Recommend

  • Usama Zafar

    Yeah I agree with Normal Person you don’t wanna celebrate valentines sure no one’s forcing you to do so but let people live and enjoy their lives!!Recommend

  • sabahat ghauri

    very thoughtful articleRecommend

  • parvez

    After Kiran Farooqui’s post on this subject this seems so professorial and as my six year old daughter would say booooring.Recommend

  • amirozzo

    Well researched and interesting. a lot more thorough than the usual anti valentines day messages.Recommend

  • Saraah

    Honest n meaningful night out would rather end on fight..lolll..Recommend

  • Macai

    Excellent post.

    Unfortunately most people in Pakistan think it’s a sign of enlightenment and openmindedness to celebrate their holiday and speaking against it is considered blasphemous and backwards. But just a cursory glance at history and reflection on this holiday shows otherwise. Crowd followers will never understand.Recommend

  • Humayun

    Agree with Macai.

    I dont know why are we all after this Valentine’s day anyways..and specially on forums like ET.
    Some are for it and some are against. We as a nation are confused people.

    I think whoever wants to celebrate it let them do it. and the ones who don’t should not criticize what others feel good about. Recommend

  • Hamad Rashid

    I wonder why others can’t be as eloquent and talk as much sense as this author? Great piece!
    You might want to forward this to Ms. Kiran who has some really (this word has been removed) views of why we should celebrate Valentines Day:
    http://blogs.tribune.com.pk/story/4356/should-muslims-celebrate-valentines-day/Recommend

  • Aaqib

    Excellent piece of writing, I agree with the author, Valentines Day is not part of our history or culture, we are forgetting our heritage and adopting western concepts to prove how stupid we are as a nation!
    If you want to show someone you love them, Please do it everyday except this day, your partner would be happier 364 days a year and not just one day!Recommend