Why can’t Pakistani men stop staring at women?

Published: March 16, 2016
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So many pairs of eyes were ogling me, some pretended that they were not staring if I made any eye contact and some were simply dheet (shameless). PHOTO: DNA INDIA

The four and a half months I spent in Turkey as an exchange student were the best part of my life. But after a while of living there, I had already started to miss my family and friends and couldn’t wait to be back with my loved ones in the country where my home existed. But there was something I had forgotten about my home country.

The day I was flying back to Pakistan, while waiting at the Istanbul Airport’s lounge, I realised what I had forgotten and what was awaiting me in Karachi. The excitement of returning home slowly began to fade when the thought of seeing so many Pakistanis after such a long time dawned on me, because with Pakistanis comes an uncomfortable and constant leering by men.

During my time in Turkey, I travelled a lot, and that too all, alone but not once was I uncomfortable or scared. Sitting and waiting at the Istanbul airport, surrounded with the people of my country, with whom I can relate, gave me a feeling of insecurity. Uncles and boys were staring at me. Not just me but other girls too. It was very uncomfortable for me, may be because I was no longer used to people looking at me without blinking. I got up and rushed to the washroom to escape the gawking eyes.

That wasn’t the end of it.

The real show began when, at the Karachi airport, I was waiting for my luggage to arrive. I was the only girl there without any family member or friend by her side. So many pairs of eyes were ogling me, some pretended that they were not staring if I made any eye contact and some were simply dheet (shameless).

I still shudder to recall a boy in that red, body-hugging, silk shirt. He would come in front of me every now and then, and make me cringe with his piercingly sharp stares. I wanted to cry and just run away from the situation.

As soon as I collected my luggage, I scurried outside the airport mindlessly assuming that I was headed towards safety. Little did I know that the stares would increase drastically! There were new characters in my living nightmare. From ‘gutka’ boys to toothless uncles, all had their eyes on me. Their sexual frustration was very evident on their faces. I felt disgusted to the extent that I prayed,

Zameen phat jaye aur wo sab uss main saama jayen.”

(I hope the earth opens up and swallows all of them whole!)

Yes, I was so terribly seething with anger that I wanted the end of their existence from this planet.

This wasn’t a first, nor was I alien to this hobby of sexually frustrated Pakistani men. I have experienced this from a very young age. It’s not just me but every other girl in this country who has this complain and is disturbed by this behaviour.

If a girl is waiting for her bus or van, people passing in cars not only stare but even honk to grab her attention. In fact, a girl in Lahore recently posted a status on Facebook about the exact same thing. She said when she gave the boys in the car no attention, despite them calling out to her and honking at her, they purposely sped up and hit her bicycle, causing her to fall off and receive injuries.

Similarly, in market places it is very common among men to catcall and sometimes whisper Masha’Allah leaving a woman flustered and feeling harassed. And the addas (fixed spots) that drivers have, where each and every step of the girls passing by is observed, inspected and discussed. It is not that only men deprived of education are into this distasteful hobby, but this activity is also popular amongst the literate. Last week, while waiting with friends at university, we were ‘checked out’ by the boys sitting behind us. One of them would say something that would make other two look at us and pass a remark or two about us.

This issue is highly disturbing. Being in my own country, it is unfair that I don’t feel free and safe. These rubbernecking eyes refuse to look away until a girl creates a scene or screams,

“Masla kya hai?”

(What is your problem?)

Why has it become a challenge for a girl to move without hundreds of eyes on her? Why is the infuriating phrase, “bachi check kar” (check out that chick) not considered offensive anymore?

Whenever, I see men leering at women, I have a strong desire to poke my fingers into his eye balls and scream,

“STOP STARING AT US, YOU CREEP!”

Of all this, what makes me the angriest is when wives or mothers sit right next to these men, their husbands or sons, pretending to be completely oblivious of the ogling spree they are going on. They sit indifferent to their men gaping at other females with drooling faces.

The men of this society have become so shameless that things like, “Kya masla hai” (What is your problem?), “Ghar mein maa behan nahi hain?” (Haven’t you got mothers or sisters at home?) and “Kya dekh rahay ho?” (What are you staring at?), do not affect them anymore. But I am quite sure that if the women who accompany them grab their collars or they are given public beatings by the police, it would definitely teach them a lesson. Perhaps, that is the only way to beat the frustration out of these creepy men.

Do you think Pakistani men have a staring problem?

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Amna Ahmad Zamani

Amna Ahmad Zamani

The author is an undergraduate media student at the Institute of Business Management, Karachi. She tweets as @amna_zamani (twitter.com/amna_zamani)

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • The Truth Bro

    Evidence suggests that countries that are less religious have less problems with men staring at women.

    There is less religiosity in the west hence less restrictions and hurdles for men to intermingle with women and vice versa, which in turn alleviates such social problems.Recommend

  • vinsin

    First question is what Muslims were doing when non-Muslims girls were getting abducted and raped? Was the author wearing Bhurka? Staring and Burkha are interrelated issues.

    The issues raised by author can only be solved in a secular society and that too in generations. Secularism goes against Jinnah Fourteen Point.

    Author comparison between Turkey and Pakistan is unjustified.
    A country where men are allowed to have upto 4 wives and changed at will and can have unlimited non-Muslim women as slaves cannot be sexually frustrated.

    In Islamic society women are not expected to travel Independently.Recommend

  • AM

    Amna you must have to be staring at them too, which makes an equal culprit. This whole article is very disturbing and the best solution is to avoid such incidents and move on.Recommend

  • Bhatti

    Well…maybe you should have covered yourself with a veil… PROBLEM SOLVED!Recommend

  • echoboom

    Dress as a decent Muslim woman and all will respect you….dress as a westoxicated scum and you deserve it because you are an Oddity. Ever heard of …”as romans do?”…you’re not in roam, you are DESI and in an Islamic country..respect them and you’ll get respect.Recommend

  • Siddiqui, Taha R

    Please tell you are kidding!Recommend

  • Abdul Qasim Ahmad

    but countries which are less religious have a greater violence problem. According to the world almanac 2016, there were 79,770 rape cases registered in the US Pakistan is not even close. I would rather look at it like this that it is religion that restricts men from going further than a stare. with 573 acid attacks on women in the US last year the non-religious are certainly not in a position to lecture on the perceived dangers of religion.Recommend

  • Me

    For once stop bringing religion into everything!!Recommend

  • http://incidentflux.blogspot.com IncidentFlux

    This is happening more so in less developed nations. However its also true, whenever a man or woman is “admired” by someone they find attractive. That’s not considered “staring” by any standards.Recommend

  • RAJ

    Rather than religion, gender segregation and prohibitions against male/female interaction appear to be at the root of such harassment.Recommend

  • Summer Zahra

    And after posting this get ready for the friend requests and pokes you will get from the people who will take their precious time out and search you by name on Facebook ! :DRecommend

  • http://www.luqmankhan.com/ Luqman Khan

    The problem is not just in Pakistan. Stereotyping is bad.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgw6y3cH7tARecommend

  • Aliza

    Well it is true but the simpler truth is ‘dress according to the region’. Sounds archaic? Its the only trick that works here. And maintain a confident posture and gaze, as soon as they look stare right back. If you look flustered, they gawking gets worse. Recommend

  • jaasim

    amna ahmad zamani
    let me appreciate your good writing first but looking or staring is not a crime
    you should avoid them
    if they try to touch , or trying to come close with u ,, or standing in front of u to stop you than they are criminals
    but how can some one control eyes
    if a young pretty teen girl with a nice figure i have seen …….
    than is i did some thing this is bad
    only looking towards her is it a crime ……………………………………….????Recommend

  • ovais

    i bet the same is said by women in turkey . you may not be their type in turkey …Recommend

  • Striver

    Staring is part of human nature. Religion has nothing to do with it. In the west men stare is quick glimpses. When the woman has walked past they will look her from behind. Staring goes on but discretely.Recommend

  • http://www.luqmankhan.com/ Luqman Khan

    Youtube “10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman in Hijab”.Recommend

  • Khawaja Ikram Ul Haq

    I think it is the exact opposite…in the west men have an in built attitude of trying to pick up a women…here they can at best look at you…some one is going to look at u if u are out and about…people have eyes and most of them unless they are busy will look around…and anyway a man can hardly find something else to look at…but I think the writer seems a bit if not totally paranoid…to say the leastRecommend

  • Mahesh

    As an Indian living in the United States I am not sure how bad the problem is in Pakistan. I can tell you that this problem exists in India and US as well, but not to the extent described here. I get the feeling the author is exaggerating. Not condoning this behavior.Recommend

  • Waqas

    I think its because of our education system, less institutions with co-education and even low literacy rate along with exposure. This issue is real and kudos for writing on this topic because it remains often just remain unsaid,,,Recommend

  • MK

    Bro ! dont relate it with religion. There is much ratio of sexual abuses in west as compared to religious countries. in west, you have open kisses, hugs, etc with your bf/gf. so people there dont gaze at every woman.Recommend

  • Pakistani Man Male

    I’ve noticed the opposite, too. Pakistan WOMEN have a staring problem as well, especially the burkha-type aunties.Recommend

  • Abdul Qudoos

    As per Islam a woman should not roam in public (na-mahram) areas.Recommend

  • Pakistani Men

    this is not the case with every Pakistani, and there exist some problem with the women also who feel it. Why the writer did not speak to them? Why did she care if someone is looking at her?? i think it is the women who is sexually frustrated and feel embarrassing. Secondly, why you try to become a commodity in the eyes of males by doing make ups, wearing skin tights and t shirt?? Okay if you like to wear it then be bold to speak to people who are you feeling uncomfortable. otherwise stop wearing it. In Pakistan if a women speak single word of harassment: every one jumps to take revenge of that women without proper investigation. Even the police is very sensitive about harassment cases. Why the women don’t speak. Even an educated women like this writer is not speaking for her rights ???? why??? and please stop blaming the society or the Pakistan men.Recommend

  • raj

    don’t drag religion into everything. Starring is a social problem where “MEN” thinks he has more power over Women. Societies where men put themselves above women are vulnerable to such social problems. Why men stare at women is a subject of debate. The answer lies in my first part of this conversation. I think bcz men think they are more powerful and have more rights then a woman, then tend to believe that all women are their properties and it is their duty to check if a particular girl/lady is wearing “morally right” clothes. That urge to change/check out each women has changed to this staring problem which is not going to go. But having said that, we should not generalise the issue.Recommend

  • Muhammad

    The author should stop generalizing her very own experience for the whole society. Pakistani men on average are respectful to ladies. You can bypass any queue where men are waiting for long time. You are always likely to get seat offered by strangers in public transport. The language used is this post was also inappropriate
    .Recommend

  • shahid zamir

    A piece of crap ………… i am glad that the author got a chance to visit outside Pakistan, i assume she was mainly busy in sightseeing that she didn’t notice the roving eyes of Turkish Men………… well every one who has lived outside Pakistan (i mean lived not traveled) will agree that this staring/ openly flirting is every where in this globe………… i have seen girls being harassed in LA, guys on the streets of NYC openly trying to flirt and asking for cell numbers, but not everyone do it in USA. ………….. I agree that we as a nation should give space to females and respect their individuality and privacy but blaming ONLY Pakistani Men for staring is totally wrong ……… further, you cant criticize whole nation for the act of few thousand people, you have simply generalized this thing by saying “why cant Pakistani Men” …………. not every man stare here ………… in Pakistan it has become a FASHION to sensationalize things and only talk about bad things as it sells and become popular thing, if this blog was written to get likes, shares and comments from public, then Kudos else i will stick with the first sentence of my comment.Recommend

  • Hot Choclate

    Staring is our social problem but the writer is over reacting. These kind of girls do keep checking guys and at the same time complain when someone looks at them. :-)Recommend

  • Maryam Khan

    I personally think it is not about religion it is about the mindset, social ethics and punishments…and we rarely have the last two, that is the issue. If we stand up for ourselves and for other girls as well like the west did, we can end this issueRecommend

  • Ramsha Asim

    I do agree with you to some extent. But there is a simple solution to this problem. Do not make their eyes catch you. Cover yourself up with a “dopatta” or “chaddar”. Im not blaming you for your attire that might be. Men are men. Specially Pakistani men. and they will be so. Therefore, the solution to make them stop piercing through your body with their eyes is to just cover up normally.

    Stay safe sister :)Recommend

  • tindre

    Only those men stare at girls who desperately need a gender re-assignment surgery. It is a medical situation. Please have mercy on them. :D
    I dont believe it is anything related to religion. We simply have too much spare time on our disposal. Clueless and lifeless and jobless shirkers have to stare to pass their useless life.Recommend

  • Muhammad Ziad

    The author clearly haven’t been to the streets of New York. Don’t generalize Pakistani men, at least they only stare. Watch this http://metro.co.uk/2014/10/28/100-catcalls-in-10-hours-video-of-woman-walking-streets-with-hidden-camera-will-make-you-think-4925861/Recommend

  • usama

    You had describe one side of problem related to males, females also play some part in it.Recommend

  • shahid

    Its not their fault at all; specially the ones with the beards… most of them, almost all of these kind have their brains shifted from the top of shoulders to a new location, i.e. between their legs;Recommend

  • Muhammad

    Just another side of pictureRecommend

  • Sadia

    For those naive (lack of a better word) enough to say she should wear a veil and and not do makeup and all that, a woman can be covered and makeup less and not “become a commodity in the eyes of a man” and the men will STILL stare. Whether you wear a burqa/chadar/dupatta or you don’t, men STARE. So the problem here lies with men. Not all men, but most.Recommend

  • Samm

    I’m staring at your picture now!Recommend

  • Karachiiite

    I have lived in the US, dubai and Pakistan. One thing for sure is that Despite living in pakistan longer than the other places, i feel most uncomfortable in pakistan because of the people always staring at me. Just for the record I wear Hijab. Men in the US never bothered me, dubai was even better, i could walk on the streets and go to shops with my friends without any worries and comfort but in pakistan every moment in public is so uncomfortable that i feel like never leaving my house unless neccessary. i avoid public spaces and bazaars and always go with my mom or brother if i have to, despite having the freedom to leave the house when i want.

    i have never been secually harassed in the US or Dubai, but have gotten several hit ons and gropes in Pakistan. The street men here are revolting and umcomfortable. no wonder women stay indoors in this country. Im leaving soon. Thankgod. cant wait to take morning walks and bike rides soon.Recommend

  • Milind A

    The social problem is manifested & exacerbated by repression induced by religion…. Take religion away and let sexes mingle freely… Most of this problem will go away…Recommend

  • raj

    this happen in Pakistan regardless of religion. Basic psyche of a man in Pakistan (India or sub continent) is based on Power over women.Recommend

  • Meristan

    Pakistani appreciate God’s creation. Nothing to do with hormones.Recommend

  • maz3tt

    it exists all over the world maam. it is really very natural,The solution for this in Islam which is the solution to all of the problem is early marriages just after you become adult. for most of the men, this problem will go away. But the fitnah can arise if by chance also he sees a woman who has dress to attract attention because shatan is there to misguide us because this dunya is all about the exam.

    it is basically the two way process. men lower your gaze. for woman dress modestly not which you perceive as modest but which Islam has ordered.Recommend

  • Unknown

    I have spent most of my life in Europe and its same everywhere. The writer after spending four months in a pseudo European country is blaming all men. What I found most annoying in Pakistan is the attitude of women, who wants everyone to look at them and praise them and then complain about it. From the picture it is evident that the writer is one of those who do not get any attention from males and this article is the result of that frustrationRecommend

  • cache

    I think there’s an element of truth in what you’ve said but I would extend that to say that Pakistani men stare at almost everyone. Its sometimes rooted in sexual frustration and sometimes in curiosity. Even I (a Pakistani guy) get stared at when I go the market. I would say that maybe your being alone at the airport made you unusual hence subject to scrutiny. I do sympathize with you in a way but I think you’ve created a narrative which has factual observations but the overall construct implies Pakistani men are sex crazed animals (more so than turkish men) and as my turkish driving instructor who yelled at every woman he saw during my driving classes proved, that is simply not true.Recommend

  • knightridrr

    1 – Men need to be less defensive here in the comments section. Instead teach your kids to be more respectful instead.

    2 – Most importantly, Pakistani dames need to stop acting like that this is the “Pakistani” thing. Forgot the videos in which girls recorded themselves walking through the streets of New York City (the city touted as the most civilized in the world). Stop with this stupid stereotyping.

    Be the change you want to see in the world instead of complaining about everything.Recommend

  • rumi52

    Whats that got to do with it? This is an excuse men use to excuse their own perverted behaviour. “Its not their fault for staring, its the woman’s fault for being in public” The more we allow society to blame the woman the more men will stare:

    volume 3, Book 29, Number 79 : Narrated by ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas

    Al-Fadl was riding behind the Prophet and a woman from the tribe of Khath’am came up. Al-Fadl started looking at her and she looked at him. The Prophet turned Al-Fadl’s face to the other side. She said, “My father has come under Allah’s obligation of performing Hajj but he is a very old man and cannot sit properly on his Mount. Shall I perform Hajj on his behalf? The Prophet replied in the affirmative. That happened during Hajjat-ul-wada’ of the Prophet.

    Notice how the Prophet turned his companion’s face away, a mullah today would not have said anything to the man but would have given the woman a lecture about purdah and distracting men!!Recommend

  • rumi52

    The writer is not being paranoid, its true. But off course lets look for excuses for why men stare rather then call their behaviour wrong. At least in the west this behaviour is not accepted and a woman can freely challenge a man if he makes her uncomrfotable and society will support her. Whereas in Pakistan they are expected to modify their behaviour and not create a scene. This stereotype of western men is wrong, again used by Pakistani men to justify their own behaviour. Yes some western men act like this but they know when and when not to do it depending on the social setting. Men in the west have many faults but don’t use western society’s faults to justify your own.Recommend

  • rumi52

    Dress according to region….do you think women in Pakistan go around in mini skirts? Most wear modest salwaar kameez but it doesn’t stop the staring. By the way I suggest you google how much harrassment of women is a problem in Saudi Arabia where women are completly covered.Recommend

  • BaiG

    Most of the west inspired Pakistanis find joy in defaming their own country. Staring is universal, it is not bound by boundaries and cultures. Our thankless fellow countrymen always on a hunt to find reasons to defame it.

    Dear writer,

    People stare at something that is different in the environment. When you were in Turkey, you were behaving like them but when you are in Pak you have to behave like a Pakistani.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    This is a valid point here.Recommend

  • Asad

    Thumbs down for this article..Nothing but an attention seeker stunt!!Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    And the other two are firmy based on religion. Please read An Nisa.Recommend

  • Asad

    Her twitter handle is mentioned already.. What made you think and write that much stuff?Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Oops, men were not Pakistanis! Lol.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    And that is based firmly on religion.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Old habits die hard. But die, it sure will, with you!Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    A black post box would do fine!Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Lol, as per xyz you must be really a parrot!Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    One who wear burqa are the ones who got much to hide in their mind and taking shelter in black postbox to mask psychiatric problems which need counciling.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    When religion teaches you that women is a commodity then it is a humongous psychiatric problem where it is taught without logical thinking fom childhood.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    You mean only the black post box will work in Pakistan?! Nope, women need to stand up and call the bluff.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Yep among the hyenas you better keep the distance!Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Dear Anna, it is not sexual frustration for sure. There is an old saying in Sanskrit that you can’t put off fire with fuel. The more they indulge, more they will crave. I don’t know how the foolish Arabs decided that by letting marry more will keep the other women in the society safe! Appalling culture of Arabs now contaminating Indian subcontinent.Recommend

  • Midhat Shahab

    I frequently visit NewYork and can comfortably walk the streets alone even in the late hours. And Despite spending 20 some years in Pakistan I dread walking just a few streets in Karachi because of the staring, gawking, and catcalling menaceRecommend

  • Soraya Aziz

    There are so many reasons that Pakistani men stare at women, main being that they have little opportunity to engage with women in schools, colleges, in their villages etc.
    I am afraid being a British born and brought up up in London, issues of men behaving inappropriatly exist everywhere and at different levels.
    In Pakistan, I often confront the men. They very quickly stop and are very embarassed which I dont find to be the case in the West.
    TBH, its simply better to rise above and ignore.
    The world is full of strange people!Recommend

  • Midhat Shahab

    May be you belong to the minority”cultured men” but the majority of men on the streets just gawk women unashamedly. cat calling, groping and staring is very common on our streets. And I have spent time in Turkey and Living in USA for quite some time. You cant even compare what goes on in Pakistan to what happens in US, or Turkey. Pakistani street men just cant share public space with women without making women feeling disgustedRecommend

  • Midhat Shahab

    You have no idea then how Pakistani men treat women in Public spaces. I have tried the most modest of dressings but they just wont stop gawking.Recommend

  • Midhat Shahab

    Men stare and cat call women even in “chaddars”. Having said that makeup or what women chose to wear doesnt give any man to act like a savage. They should know how to control them selves and behave decentRecommend

  • Ali Imam

    We have the problem here in London as well. Mostly desi men who have migrated as students of all ages or economic migrants usually give the stares in tubes, trains and other public places. Some are stubborn not to take their eyes off upon making contact. I had to ask the reason from one of them in a friendly way and he was under impression that females do not care and putting up a display on for them. While a tiny female minority (regardless of race) may entertain these stares, it is extremely annoying to bear the ‘stares’ and to hear rude comments like “teri wali”, “teri bhabhi hai” etc. topped up by “iski maa ki” and “behan ki” sometimes despite the fact there are other Asian females present who can understand their lingo.Recommend

  • Midhat Shahab

    Oh stop. Land wasnt created for only men. Sahabiyaats have worked, fought in wars and attend all prayers in Jamaats at the time of the Prophet. Its not Islam but the misogynist men who just cant behave culturedRecommend

  • Midhat Shahab

    Maybe you should guard your sight! Problem solvedRecommend

  • ab

    You are being highly unreasonable, it doesn’t mean something will never happened to you. When you are comfortably walking on the street , at the same time other woman may not be as fortunate as you. The same is the case in Karachi.Recommend

  • Keyboard Soldier

    Both the US and Dubai are less shariah-compliant.Recommend

  • Keyboard Soldier

    You could bring a woman in hijab into dubai also, but no one would stare.
    Bring a woman in hijab in jeddah and then monitor the stares.Recommend

  • Keyboard Soldier

    Rape cases are not reported in highly religious countries because the blame always comes back to haunt the female, not the male.

    The highly islamic social values ingrained by zia makes it perfectly legal for the rape victim to get punished along with rapist.

    Even places like Dubai are not immune to such tribal arab laws. They also punish the female for getting raped.

    Also, it is not advisable to relate better policing and reporting of the first world countries to the back-ward tribal warlord policing of pakistan.Recommend

  • Keyboard Soldier

    You are free to laugh out loud.Recommend

  • Hamza Shahzad

    There is such a huge divide between men and women in our country, that for men women are an almost alien species. From a young age boys and girls are segregated and not allowed to intermingle, hence that sort of easyness is never achieved.
    The concept of friendship is so foreign that men are reduced to think about women in a solely sexual manner. While i don’t condone it, the problem os with the society as a whole.Recommend

  • Bhatti
  • Bhatti

    Couldn’t agree more. It seems she just wanted to get published.Recommend

  • Bhatti

    U nailed it. Agree!!Recommend

  • Bhatti

    Hahahahha!Recommend

  • Bhatti

    OMG! You are so brave!Recommend

  • Bhatti
  • Bhatti

    I didn’t had a problem… & I am also not the one complaining! :DRecommend

  • anonymous

    I’ve been to Europe too and no it’s not the same and you have to respect someone’s opinion. The fact that you can judge a person just by a glance of their picture says a lot about you. Classless. Plus I’m sure people say the same thing when they look at the picture of your mother or sister.Recommend

  • Abc

    I’ve been to Europe too and no it’s not the same and you have to respect someone’s opinion. The fact that you can judge a person just by a glance of their picture says a lot about you. Recommend

  • ali

    I’ve been to Europe too and no it’s not the same and you have to respect someone’s opinion. The fact that you can judge a person just by a glance of their picture says a lot about you. Plus i’m sure people say the same thing when they look at the picture of your mother or sister.Recommend

  • Gp65

    In Pakistan CII has ruled that you need evidence of 4 good Muslim men to prove rape. In that situation how many women will report rape? Also in a society where just marrying a man of your choice can lead to honour killing what is the likelihood that girl’s family will allow her to report rape? Just because rape is not reported does not mean it does not happen.
    Last but not least laws that define rape are different. Pakistan (or India) sadly do not recognize marital rape.Recommend

  • neelu

    You think staring is bad. My sister and I have had to deal with pervy men trying to grope us on the streets of Lahore. They don’t care if we are walking with our parents and they don’t care that I wear hijab and abaya. As for dealing with staring men they really need a good beating.Recommend

  • Jehandad Kamal

    Nothing to disagree, this is harsh truth of Pakistan and all other similar countries, even countries like India where prostitution and porn are open. But there are other harsh truths, girls are picky of whom they want to be stared by, and there is another one as well, in countries like Turkey you wont be worth staring unless you move in bikini.Recommend

  • Jehandad Kamal

    What about India?Recommend

  • ab

    latest lawn shlawar kameez with even duppata is not the answer to what is modest dressingRecommend

  • LS

    This is one case of people trying to chat-up with a sexy looking girl and people staying away from a conservative Muslim girl. You are reading too much into it. I have never seen a girl being cat called on streets of Manhattan during my time there. Never… and I used to work in downtown..Recommend

  • Saqib Ali Rana

    yeah i thought that as wellRecommend

  • Sridhar Kaushik

    Staring is the least form of sexual discrimination. Eve teasing, harassing, following somebody etc are various grades that may or may not leading to molestation/ rape etc.
    These have nothing to do with religion.
    The more you suppress something, the more it comes out in vicarious ways.
    Open society (like in West) is a way forward. Boys and Girls should be allowed to interact freely. This decreases the chance of staring and other harassments.
    India is equally a sick society but this kind of thing is less in places like Mumbai.Recommend

  • Osama Siddiqui

    Author seems to be such a drama queen.Recommend

  • Midhat Shahab

    Maybe men focus on being cultured rather than focus on the shalwar kameez. nothing gives them the license to act like vulturesRecommend

  • Muhammad Ziad

    Video speaks for me Recommend

  • Hassan

    CII is just a retired’s man club. Please don’t pay attention to its so called recommendations……Recommend

  • Keyboard Soldier

    India is a religious country. Both hindus and muslims are very religious and you can find the exact same problem there.Recommend