Why is India denying women protection from marital rape?

Published: March 15, 2016

Despite all the progress, one significant aspect of legal protection continues to elude women in India. PHOTO: REUTERS

In India, marriage is often regarded as a license to have sex; and that’s not entirely in jest. In a country where public attitudes towards sex are typically very conservative, marriage provides a socially sanctioned outlet for their sexual energy.

In addition to being conservative, India is also a male dominated society where in vast swathes of the population, women have very little say in the direction their lives take. Men are responsible for most major decisions and women are expected to meekly cooperate.

The combination of deeply ingrained patriarchy and unsympathetic state machinery puts Indian women at a severe disadvantage. However, education, economic progress, exposure and governmental efforts have ensured significant progress.

Women’s rights and their upliftment have been on the government’s agenda for many years, and several laws and regulations have served to empower them significantly. Stringent laws on dowryfemale infanticide, domestic violence and sexual harassment in the workplace are just some examples of the on-going efforts to correct the imbalance.

Despite all the progress, one significant aspect of legal protection continues to elude women in India. Indian law still does not recognise marital rape as an offence. This glaring omission perpetuates the notion of a woman as her husband’s property and repudiates her sexual autonomy within the union of matrimony.

Most advanced countries have marital rape laws that make it punishable for a man to force his wife to have sexual intercourse with him. Such laws are prudent and reasonable. With the odds heavily stacked against them, women need all the support and legal frameworks to help them stand on an equal footing.

There have been some attempts in the past to introduce such legislation in India, but they have been met with stiff resistance. Opponents have cited Indian values and culture in their arguments against the need for such laws. They claim that criminalising marital rape will weaken the institution of marriage and lead to a rise in false and flimsy cases.

In the latest instance, India’s minister for women and child development, Maneka Gandhi, said in parliament,

“It is considered that the concept of marital rape, as understood internationally, cannot be suitably applied in the Indian context due to various factors like level of education/ illiteracy, poverty, myriad social customs and values, religious beliefs, mind-set of the society to treat the marriage as a sacrament etc.”

It is highly unlikely that this is the minister’s personal opinion as she has previously voiced her outrage on marital rape. It is obvious that populist pressures have played a role in her altered stance. It is unfortunate that, even in this day and age, India still has a significant number of voices against this enlightened and egalitarian move.

India’s low levels of educationpoverty and the prevalent mind-set cannot be used as an excuse to not have such laws. In fact, poor and uneducated women are the hardest hit by misogyny and patriarchy. Their poverty limits the options they have and they often end up living with the torture and humiliation their whole lives. When society is not willing to reform, the state must step in to introduce laws that push it on the right path.

If marital rape were to be criminalised, there would be one more avenue available for women to seek redress. Of course, as such laws have the most widespread impact, changes in the law enforcement agencies are also required to enable women to come forward without fear, but that is a whole other subject.

Marriage is undoubtedly a sacrament and needs to be valued by society. However, it should not be allowed to override a woman’s dignity and esteem. The right of a woman to choose when her spouse can or cannot have access to her body should be considered absolutely and inviolably sacrosanct. Marriage may be a license to have sex, but it should surely not be viewed as a license to own and abuse.

The problem is compounded when sex is used as a weapon for men to assert their domination and subjugate their women. A man can use his physical strength to force himself on his wife. The wife on the other hand cannot use physical force to coerce her husband; and that is the inherent inequity in a marital relationship. It is therefore critical for the law or the state to address this imbalance with the appropriate statutory protection.

Sex is an integral part of marriage and often provides the foundation of a happy and stable relationship. Women also have as much a need for it as men. This vital element is often overlooked by patriarchal societies that seek to suppress female sexuality. Therefore it is faulty to assume that women will automatically withhold sex if marital rape were to be criminalised. Men need to move away from the belief that marriage entitles them to sex on demand. They must recognise they have to work towards making their wives feel loved, respected and cherished, because doing so would go a long way in keeping the flame of passion alive.

Marriage is no longer about a man providing protection to a woman, in return for which, she must discharge her duties in the kitchen and the bedroom. The world has moved on and modern marriage must be mutually fulfilling for both partners. The woman’s body must not be merely an outlet for the man’s sexual energy and the sooner society supports this mind-set, the more vibrant and enriched it would become. If this transformation does not come naturally, and progressive, even radical, laws are required as enablers, then so be it.

Should India enact laws preventing women from marital rape?

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Amit Nangia

Amit Nangia

The author is a learning and development professional with a background in finance and human resources that informs his commentaries on geopolitical and socioeconomic trends. He tweets as @amitnangia06 (twitter.com/amitnangia06)

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  • Logical Mind

    At least on this issue India is right!Recommend

  • Nobody

    Mad respect for writing this! Completely agree.
    I shudder when I hear the insane arguments I hear from people who refuse to accept that marital rape is a heinous crime, such as, ‘If it’s criminalized men won’t have a reason to marry.’ Uhh, what? So men marry just to rape their partner? I think not.
    A marriage license is not a hall pass to abuse your spouse.Recommend

  • Cool Guy

    Why not marital rape laws to be applied to women as well who are hyper sexual. A man comes tired from work and the wife wants to rape him.Recommend

  • GKA

    Better than Hudood ordinancesRecommend

  • Soul Speek

    Is Pakistan any different? We are not West where a woman can sue his husband under pretext of marital rape and scoot away with half of his property under alimony. In entire South Asia, marriage is considered a holy alliance between two families. What is the use of marriage if a husband can not enter into a sexual relationship with his wife? If a wifeis so much against sexual relation with her husband, it means there is some discord between the two, in which case, she can easily file for divorce. Why the hell it is being called a “Rape”. This is absolutely ridiculous and totally fails my understanding!Recommend

  • gp65

    Rape should be criminalized – marital or not. There are many legal and social reforms that are necessary:
    1).Uniform Civil code so that there is one personal law for everyone (just as there is one civil law) and Muslim and Christian women are not denied equal rights available to Hindu women
    2) Repeal of section 377 to give decriminalize gay relationships
    3) Improved freedom of speech by withdrawing British era laws like blasphemy law and sedition act.
    So keep up the pressure and do not lose heart. Change for the better will come. I would caution that just passing laws is not sufficient to bring the empowerment that is necessary, social change is also necessary. For example there was a law against abortion of female foetus that did nothing to stop the horrendous practice. So it is important to build the capacity to implement laws or else the law becomes a farce. The more that is invested in social reform to make a practice unacceptable, the less is the necessity to implement it through court of laws which are already overburdened. So work must continue on both fronts, creating awareness and demand for the law while simultaneously work on changing the mindsets of people.Recommend

  • LS

    Agreed that Marital Rape is a criminal offence but every story has two coins..

    This law will also be used to settle scores. Deny consummation to get something out of it.Recommend

  • Nobody

    A husband and wife are allowed to be sexual with one another; a husband or wife are not allowed to force themselves on their spouse. A marriage license is not a hall pass for abuse or a sign of ownership.Recommend

  • Soul Speek

    If anybody is so much against sexual relation in a marriage, that means your relation is not workig. Better seek divorce and get away with it. Trying to make it a criminal offence is nothing but a feminazi attempt to wreak the institution of marriage in the name of freedom!Recommend

  • Soul Speek

    And how exactly are you going to prove that husband is forcing himself on his wife? Make a court judge sit in your bedroom? What if this wife is not willing to have physical relationship for a whole month or more. Isnt she denying his legal husband his Right for physical relation? Recommend

  • Chris

    If marriage is not a sign of “ownership”, then there is something wrong with a wife getting distraught at “her husband” (oh, the irony of that phrase) for having sex with another woman without her consent.
    Your reasoning contradicts what everyone understands marriage to be.Recommend