I had to take off my Hijab because society refused to accept me

Published: November 5, 2015
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I still decided to continue wearing my hijab but in a way that might make me ‘acceptable’.

Out of the 50 Muslim majority states in the world, Pakistan ranks second in the list with a Muslim majority population of 97 per cent. And it was among these Muslims that I felt discriminated for donning a hijab.

I began the practice of hijab during my second year in art school. Initially, most of my friends did not pay attention to my additional piece of clothing and encouraged the practice. Eventually, however, I realised that while all my relatives, friends and acquaintances professed to be Muslims, very few supported my choice to wear a hijab.

During the first few weeks of donning a hijab, I was subjected to all kinds of negative comments. If you belong to an average Pakistani household, you would understandably predict that most of these comments came from my relatives. One particularly rude (claiming to be straightforward) cousin of mine commented:

“You look like a maasi (maid)!”

This was also downright rude for my maid, who was working in the next room.

My phupo (a paternal aunt who is infamous in our part of the world and not without a good reason) commented:

Kia ho gaya hay tumhe larki,(what’s wrong with you) you look 10 years older with this dupatta.”

While this did put me down, I still decided to continue wearing my hijab but in a way that might make me ‘acceptable’. I revamped the way I wore the hijab, something I had seen many of my art school mates do. So began my hours in front of the mirror where I tried everything from the Arabic hump to the elegant Turkish style, but somehow I felt none of this was me. I felt that all of these styles brought more attention to me, which was not the purpose of my hijab. Thus, I was left with no choice but to be mistaken for a maasi and 10 years older than my actual age.

Eventually, the comments turned from negative to confrontational. Some of my so-called modern friends, who were openly confrontational, and perhaps a little guilt ridden, commented:

“Hijab does not mean you have become a Muslim. You can be a Muslim without one. Allah (SWT) will look at your soul and not how you are dressed.”

“I do not trust girls who wear hijab, they are so corrupt from the inside. Most girls cover their faces in public because they want to avoid being seen with a boyfriend. Have you just sacked one?”

With time, I came to accept and even understand these comments; however, what made it the most difficult were the actions that ensued by our hypocritical society. Friends stopped inviting me to parties and get-togethers; you know, since I was now a Muslim and may dampen the spirit of the party. Knowing that my hijab would stand out among the straightened and blow-dried hair, I gave myself some solace in the exclusion. But my ban did not just end here – the presence of the small scarf on my head excluded me from getting hired in the chic art world. In a country where skills are based on appearance, my hijab acted as a determinant. I was automatically stereotyped as the desi type and often, despite working extra hard and being proven right more than once, I was still the outcast.

Naturally, the depression that followed was something that was quite hard to bear.

One friend, a revert Indian Muslim, found it quite difficult to accept a Muslim society’s rejection of the hijab. Her concept of Pakistan was a country made for the purpose of ensuring that Muslims were allowed to practice their own religion without any impediments. But sadly, the same Muslims have become a force against their own religion. In their acceptance of Western standards, they have become quite vocal against traditional Muslims’ appearances and roles.

Two years later, I was still a budding Muslim but I realised that I was not strong enough to fight the society that could not look beyond the small piece of fabric that covered my hair. Hence, the hijab then slowly fell from the head and onto the shoulders, a place where it is accepted by our society.

The question that nags at me now is, why did a small piece of fabric define my existence in a society?Knowing from experience, I am aware that this is not an isolated story. Many girls in my shoes would recount a somewhat similar experience.

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Ayesha Umair

Ayesha Umair

The author is a freelance writer and blogger. She maintains her educational blog at www.ed-digest.com. She tweets as @EDdigest (twitter.com/EDdigest)

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Mohammad Ali

    So you will change everything that society has a problem with?
    I hope you become strong enough to ignore all the fingerpointing and pestering. I believe you quit a tad early because had you done it long enough, it would have become your identity, your brand. It would have become the only way people see you. It would have changed the perspective.
    I hope one day you will write another piece with the title ‘ I made the society accept my choice of wearing hijab’Recommend

  • Qaisar Orakzai

    @ Ayesha , I am not a scholar on the subject of religion but I have so
    deeply observed the hypocrisy prevailing all around in my country, in different
    classes with different magnitude and upon different subjects. The so-called
    most educated (just because they went to or send their kids to grammar schools),
    the most well off or at least pretending to be on the top of the society – are
    going through a hug phase of hypocrisy. I have seen the same very people
    grinning with their whole 32 pieces to the westerners but back home they would
    treat people with little less than their definition of “modern” as out casted
    entity.

    I would say, do what you feel is good for you – Hijab might not be the only way to stay connected to Allah – you can still manage to stay modest. But remember, if Hijab is your choice then shun all the brainless bullies away– whoever
    they are. You are grown up and you don’t need dictations.

    If I was in your shoes, then I would have left the shallow people in their glorified caves. The people who are judging you just because you think a piece of cloth is
    important on your head are nothing but under the extreme inferiority complex which they will never accept.

    Let them dig their graves deep – don’t tell me you cant find like-minded people around you – Trust me, there are lots and lots of them. Recommend

  • Nad

    This is the stupidest excuse I have heard! Your body your choice, where is that my dear???Recommend

  • Waqar Ahmed

    Although it is sad that you had to face problems but if one starts to do what the majority of the people want him or her to do then its a never ending road. I wish it occurred to you the rewards you were getting for keeping the hijab even if it meant less invitations. I know it might be hard but seriously, someone might write an article why he got less invitations for avoiding alcohol which his friends enjoyed and he had to start too. Is that a valid excuse? Or any other thing for that matter. I appreciate the stand you took and its ok to be bent so hard at times that one might break but we can always start again. All the best.Recommend

  • Rabia Ali

    Sad to read your story, hoping that someday people around us will become tolerant towards hijabis as they are towards non-hijabis, good luck!Recommend

  • Sami

    This is more like an isolated case. Because i have never heard such instances atleast in my family and around me. But in my observation unlike your claim there is a perception in our society that a women with Hijab or a Burqa have to be respected ,whereas women with Dupatta or jeans or clothing without Hijab are more like a Public property.
    Also believe me if you friends are not inviting you then may be it will be something else other than your choice of clothing. Even i do not invite some of friends all the time as they consider themselves self righteous than others and i usually avoid them because i do not want my believes to be questioned or disparaged by anyone in the public.Recommend

  • asad

    one stupid article again !!Recommend

  • nouman

    your are first lady ever i found that likes hijab and talks about religion
    im impressed by your thoughts about islam and hijab.
    good luck may allah bless you
    ameen.Recommend

  • Faulitics

    The author has the same fault as many hijabis …fake self righteousness and fanaticism

    “Friends stopped inviting me to parties and get-togethers; you know, since I was now a Muslim and may dampen the spirit of the party”

    “since I was now a Muslim”

    She wears a hijab and immediately associates that with her “becoming” muslim. She is basically saying that woman have to wear a hijab to be muslim.Recommend

  • Hameed

    “The question that nags at me now is, why did a small piece of fabric define my existence in a society?Knowing from experience, I am aware that this is not an isolated story. Many girls in my shoes would recount a somewhat similar experience.” Same question is asked by others who don’t want to wear hijab. At the end of the day do what you without caring what others think or say. You should also confront those who are rude and even insulting. Just saying.Recommend

  • abhi

    This is really pathetic. Why would you want to go in parties anyway where lots of unislamic things like Music etc. palyed out. What is wrong in looking like maasi or 10 year older? after all it is the purpose of Hijab to make women look unattractive so that men do not get wrong ideas.Recommend

  • stevenson

    Sorry to say, your article makes no sense. So people did not accept your choice of wearing the hijab but it doesn’t sound like you were strong willed enough to follow your heart. When you wear the hijab or anything else, you do it for yourself. It’s your business but I suspect you also did it to show others up when you say your friends were ” guilt ridden”. It’s between you and your Maker but you seem to just another person who is making a show of false piety. Everyone has a right to show piety in their own way – not just putting a cloth on their head but through actions. If you want people to respect your choice, you should respect the choice of others not to wear hijab and focus on keeping their hearts clean and pious. Think about all the Muslim hijabi women in Europe who are verbally abused and treated badly because they are associated with all the bad behavior of Muslims every time they put on a hijab.Recommend

  • Jeddy Khan

    Immediately after Pakistan came into being, the first thing my aunts did was doff their burkas. They did this, because they no longer needed to be distinguished as Muslims separate from other communities.
    They no longer wanted to be on the sidelines of society but be an integral part of it. Secularism was wholeheartedly accepted by all, they are all againstt public display of religion and in the vast majority continues to accept this. General Zia wanted to ‘Islamise’ Pakistan – it seem he has somewhat succeeded, but he all the things he wanted to enforce were widely condemned.Recommend

  • Sidrah Asif

    My dear, you could’ve done it just because your Allah has told you to and showed how strong you can be on Allah’s way. All this non acceptance were your tests and also to make you stronger. The small piece of fabric is defining that you are a Muslim and the society doesn’t matter. I hope you get the strength to be a consistent muslim in an society. The problem with pakistanis are that they neither give you the freedom of choice nor they understand what a budding muslim goes through. Good luck! Recommend

  • Haider

    This is how society is, we have to lose somethings to live in it. I had to wear underwear because society refused to accept me. Isn’t that redundant?Recommend

  • Ahmad

    Please don’t do this for the society or any other reason. This life and its comforts are only for a few years.

    Remember that the next life is a fact. It’s for that you have to wear it, come hell or high water.Recommend

  • Salman Shareef

    You have lack of confidence in you. All ladies in my family take Hijab and no-one have any problem while working in Offices or going out of home.Recommend

  • Parvez

    You succumbed to peer pressure.
    I do believe that wearing or not wearing a hijab does not make a person a good Muslim……its the persons thoughts, words and deeds that works towards that end.Recommend

  • tauqeer

    I Am pretty sorry to see your sentiments and compromises… Once I listen some body saying “do not let other people to dictate your life”. One should not judge himself self from other eyes, and never underestimate himself, his values and culture. Iqbal said, “Khas hy tarkeeb main qoam e rasool e hashmi”…. Indeed, wearing Hijab for Muslim women should be matter of pride and dignity….Recommend

  • Fahad Ahmed Farooqi

    Ayesha, your name is sacred as nobody could dare to make it or abuse.. As far as hijab is concerned, sister you chose it to be obedience to Islam and for Allah and not for the humans who are judging or liking a person from its appearance..

    Wishing you luck in finding your SELF and your REAL friends..Recommend

  • Kasturi K

    Let me tell you something Ayesha, 30 years ago when I was growing up there was no concept of hijab among Pakistani women. If they had to cover their head, they use to take georgette dupatta loosely on their head, allowing the air to circulate in oppressive heat. Most of the Pakistani women used to go bare headed. This hijab is an imported thing when a large number of workforce went to Middle East for jobs. They think that the kind of Islam practiced in Saudi Arabia is the best and genuine. But that kind of brand has only brought terrorism on our land. Any ways, we need to go back to our culture as it is genuine, convenient, beautiful and most of all it suits us.Recommend

  • Yasmin Elahi

    I am surprised by your excuse for discarding your hisaab! A girl I know very closely wears hisaab since years, has graduated from the best Art college in Karachi and is working with a very reputable firm as a fashion designer! It’s your own will power that counts my dear, not the silly comments of someone you should least care for! In the end it will be between you and your Creator..so don’t care about the people who hurl negative remarks at youRecommend

  • Saba Yaqoob

    It’s better to be excluded from worldly parties if it means gaining acceptance on those higher parties; the heavenly parties. What’s the use of looking young when one day, we’ll all die? We’ll be the same age in the Hereafter. Masi can also mean khala, some elderly person, you could maybe consider that the person might be referring to you as wise. Even if the contrary, one can easily come back with a witty remark :3 I’m not saying this because I’m a hijabi but I’m not an unhijabi either. The thing I find funny is that I wear hijab to look old(not the principal cause). xD For some reason I like it that way when I feel like it. As long as you’re wearing clothes that cover you’re fine. Hijab is not a clothing item for me. It is much more than that. Not merely just a literal garment. It’s a spell for general restraint, controlling your desires, sans undermining and judging others, practicing compassion, forgiveness and above all forgiving others who treat you badly. Before looking at society, let’s look at ourselves. Why? Whenever there’s a slight provocation, we resort to expressing our hurt. For once, try to consider what the Prophet(PBUH) or his beloved women would have done. The Prophet(PBUH) bore the ultimate physical and mental abuse from within his own family yet had nothing but hope for the persecutors. Even a page in history would be ashamed to report similar happenings of such magnitude from other times. The Prophet(PBUH) was a human albeit very beyond special. So let’s try to move at least one step away from unspecial and try to think the best of everyone’s intentions. Have hope for them. Above all, follow our own heart.
    This is in no way to undermine you. Whether you don it or not, it’s between you and Allah and not a scale for you tipping towards the evil. For only God and always God will know what’s in our hearts.
    The thing is that why is it principally only regarding hijab that the references pop up? What about other things which most never seem to pay heed to?
    May Allah instill in your heart His love and tawakkul manifold, Ameen. Recommend

  • Kolsat

    You have taken the corect decision because wearing a hijab does not define you. Also by doing so you have not flouted any Koranic instruction only the male domination.Recommend

  • Maria

    The fact that you decided to start wearing hijab was your decision and it serves as your identity, as a Muslim (I am not saying those who don’t wear hijab are disbelievers or bad people).We’ll come across many people in our lives who will disagree with our choices but if you know what you’re doing is totally right then nobody’s discouragement should affect you.I hope you reconsider your choice of wearing hijab and don’t let anyone get to you again.Recommend

  • Mangal

    Do not blame the society…you chose to wear hijab and now blaming others for not accepting it. This is a typical attitude of “holier than thou” muslims.Recommend

  • Ari C

    Not convinced. You are from the Sub-Continent. When you artificially try adopt Arabic and Turkic fashions obviously you will stand out. I am happy that there are honest and secular people in Pakistan who are bold enough to point that out to you. You should give up your “Art” career and try to get into a religious school as a teacher instead.Recommend

  • salman

    very unfortunate and sad but true. May Allah (SWT) give us all courage to be strong against the society.Recommend

  • samreen

    I think you should have reconsider your decision …..If wearing scarf mean no friend then be like this.See freinds who dont understand you should havee no place in your life.
    My advise stop ignoring ppl and do what pleases Allah ..There are many girls who are covering their head and are working in corporate world also.Recommend

  • Sadia Latif

    So u wore it for people? You are not answerable to people but Allah. For person who commented “Allah (SWT) will look at your soul and not how you are dressed”, reply them that if Allah will look only souls then he wouldn’t have ordered us to cover our bodies. If u read history of arab then u would know that even in those ignorant times, if a woman was covering her body then it was a symbol that she belongs to a notable and respected family.
    Try once again by wearing it for Allah and trust me it would make u more strong In Sha Allah.Recommend

  • Azhar88

    If u donned the hijab for fashion or if u liked how it looked on you then that is one thing but if u donned it because of islam then continue reading. I am not narrating it word to word so look it up yourself, but In a hadith Rasool Allah (s.a.w.) said that one of the signs of end of times is that thr beleiver will be more humiliated than an ugly goat. Read the hadith and compare your situation. Also remember how the quraish and others tried to humiliate our prophet (s.a.w) but he softened ttheir hearts with his ikhlaq, follow in his footsteps and inshallah Allah will make it easier for you. Recommend

  • Tishna

    Everyone has a right to wear what one wants to. I encountered same situation when I decided to wear a beard. it was out of my personal choice and comments were ‘You wanna be a Mullah’ and ‘agencies will pick u up as terrorist’ ‘Darhi walay ko larki nahi milti (no one will give her daughter in marriage to a bearded man) etc etc. but its been almost 10 years now, and all have accepted the way I am today. As now I am married since 3 years. My wife also likes it. Conclusion is, you cannot make everyone happy. they will criticise you for one reason or other.Recommend

  • Ad

    Well there will be always such people in society who will against you. its on you how strong you are.. in this case that you have mentioned, I am so sorry to say that but you are weak.. like what you do its for you and you only. you took hijab for urself not for others.. then how you removed for others.. its not legit what you said in your article.Recommend

  • A friend

    I think you just have bad friends. I keep a beard and although I do feel that some people look at you differently on the inside, most of them are quite supportive and cool. Try to mingle more with the ‘difficult ones’. Take part in those activities which interest them so that there is more in common between you. Try to develop a more congenial relationship with them. With time they will find your company more enjoyable than their other supposedly ‘cooler’ and ‘hip’ friends.Recommend

  • http://listfied.com siyab

    im sorry society wasn’t as supportive as you wanted, but i think you should ask yourself whether you wear your hijab for yourself or for other people.Recommend

  • maz3tt

    Well why did you do it? lot of woman wear it and they are completely fine even in western countries. France also.

    There is a hadith that practicing Islam will be very hard near the end of time and who ever practise islam will be given lot of reward. so it is hard but you should have done sabr. with time things would have subsides and finding you strong would have finished.

    i got lot of criticism when i first got a beard. that whether i pray five times a day. i am a complete Muslim. There is a wrong concept, first become complete Muslim then you should do something like there, completely. not true. Allah doesn’t tell us that. i ignore them and after a while say 6 months everything was fine and they get use to it, I am still not a complete Muslim but i trying to become. i stumble every day over the goodies of this world. but my fight continues.Recommend

  • DK

    This article seems to be a fiction, created to play with the sentiments of the people and fill the empty pages.Recommend

  • IBN E ASHFAQUE

    Ayesha what your blogs brings to light is the hypocrisy of Pakistani society which is a muslim society in name only. A society where Riba is considered halal where sexes mingle where alcohol is freely available, and still calls its muslim is a society of hypocrites…..In history this has happened many times. However, all individuals do not subscribe to this hypocrisy….You need to be clear why you are following Allah’s commands and for me that Allah rewards me with jannah on the day of judgement…..which is going to be very tough for all humanity….In history when society is a mix of true believers and hypocrites Allah sends a calamity in any shape that HE deems that separates the two……Recommend

  • Frank Mossman

    Here’s my problem with the Hijab, the Jewish woman’s hair net & the nun’s wimple: if our common Creator, created us in His image & saw fit to bring us into this world naked, then why are we ashamed to appear as we truly are ? Recommend

  • Salma

    What a cry baby. And writing a whole blog on that. If you are convinced, keep it. If not, discard it. Why blame others for your lack of determination? And who cares what you don?Recommend

  • Sami

    Quitted it for friendsRecommend

  • Maria

    Well that’s the lamest excuse i have heard to give up on hijab. I not only observed Hijab but also wear abaya (burqa) and i have studied from one of the most modern (burger as some people called them) universities. At the time of my admission there, I was the only one in the whole university who wear abaya and hijab throughout the day, there were few students who observe niqab but as soon as they entered the uni they remove it. I work in an organization where I’m the only female employee and i wear abaya in my office. I have never faced any rude comments and never have I been judged on the basis of my hijab. As a matter of fact all my cool uni fellows (that includes boys) always treated me with respect and I was always an integral part of their hang outs. A person observes Hijab for Allah and for oneself not for others so it doesn’t matter whether people call you maasi, if you are comfortable nothing mattersRecommend

  • Sane

    Which society you are referring to, which did not accept you in Hijab. Just fake and nothing.Recommend

  • sterry

    What is Arabic and Turkic fashion? Don’t many people in South Asia wear Shalwar Kameez which is Turkic Central Asia fashion which came to the region with Muslim invasion. Maybe we should all stop adopting artificial Arabic / Turkish fashion and just wear sari and lungee?Recommend

  • Nero

    I feel sorry for you – a Pakistani wearing “abaya”, an arab dress, in the name of Islam. It is not about Islam. It is about some pretending that copying Arab dresses makes them more “pious”.Recommend

  • Faulitics

    “Sorry to say, your article makes no sense.”
    I am 100% sure that poor Mohammad Ali did not write this article. Wrong number.Recommend

  • Faulitics

    Quitted it indeed.Recommend

  • Faulitics

    “In history when society is a mix of true believers and hypocrites Allah sends a calamity in any shape that HE deems that separates the two”

    Are you talking about the recent earthquake calamity? Pakistan even has its own version of Pat Robertson. What a great country!Recommend

  • Mohammad Ali

    thank you Faulitics for the much needed clarification.Recommend

  • Tanya Rai

    why would you wear hijab you have such pretty hairs you let the wind play with them you go girl!!! (^^)/Recommend

  • Fawad Ali

    “Some of my so-called modern friends, who were openly confrontational, and perhaps a little guilt ridden”

    Why you assume that they were guity of something? Do you think they were guilty of not wearing Hizab??!!Recommend

  • Sara

    this is definitely not an isolated case. i myself am a victim of a similar experience. people nagged so much, criticised me so openly, actually made fun of me and called me ugly right on the face. n it never stopped. 4 years of continuous criticsm, sense of rejection and object of ridicule were enough for me to give up on hijab. so yes ayesha you have done a very good thing by bringing up this issue that very obviously (as i can figure out from the previous comments) remains unaddressed. i can very well understand the kind of depression and identity crisis u must have gone throughRecommend

  • tuuba khalid

    Why u people kept on saying that abaya and scarf is Arabic dress and wearing it means u are pious.what u people will then say about those who wear jeans and t-shirts are the profanes.everyone has the write to choose the style he or she wants to wear.there should be freedom to dress up on your own choice and one should not be so least courageous to change her style bcoz others don’t like it.Recommend

  • Qaisar Orakzai

    I wish you were right but unfortunately, you aint. The only motivational factor behind the massive support was Islam, not secularism. Recommend

  • abeer

    It’s not about Saudi ir Middle east.it’s how it has been taught to us by Islam.We have to followRecommend

  • abeer

    It’s nowhere written in Islamic scriptures that once you get your country you leave your hijab.hijab is among your fellow Muslims too.plz do some researchRecommend

  • abeer

    I am waiting for that article tooRecommend

  • abeer
  • abeer

    May Allah help youRecommend

  • abeer

    AmeenRecommend

  • abeer

    InshaAllahRecommend

  • abeer

    Read Quran well firstRecommend

  • abeer

    It makes a woman good Muslim as mentioned in Qur’an that they woukd be known and recognized (as Respected women)Recommend

  • A confident Hijaabi

    If you were willing enough to wear it nobody could’ve made you remove it. It’s all about how passionate you are about something. Instead of blaming it on to the society please understand that you weren’t confident enough about it in the first place.Recommend

  • Ali

    How? Are you a salafi?Recommend

  • Momo

    Hijab is not about being accepted in the eyes of society or your so called relatives. It is solely about your inner peace and the connection of oneself with ALLAH. You stop wearing it because you were not strong enough in your believes or you can say you were not strong enough with your will powers. Everyone has got their own views, their own stamina.Recommend

  • Dawd

    I’d like to add all the mainstream ulema of every culture hold it to be obligatory, and a condition of acceptance for acts like prayer. Yes it may have fell out of use 30 years ago, but women certainly used to where it in our society 50 years prior (just look at depictions of muslims during the raj). There are aspects of islam which have been lost from certain societies, so if someone goes to SA and sees an aspect of islam their society has lost what is the harm in that? And likewise someone from SA will find things in Pakistan their society have lostRecommend

  • Dawd

    Exactly, I wish the author had persevered, but it’s never too late, just remember that the One for whom you wore a hijab is also the One who controls the hearts of people. And to paraphrase a hadith, if you give up something for Allah, allah will be pleased with you and make others pleased with you.
    And maybe the experience was to highlight the bad friends you had. Ideally friends should encourage betterment in each other, here they reacted negatively to it, maybe they saw you as a personification of their inward guilt (and a contrast to how they act). But regardless of the psychology a true friend should be happy when they see an improvement in their friendRecommend

  • Dawd

    Mashalla that is very good (also ignore the haters), but also you should appreciate that not everyone has the same experience a lot depends on the immediate circle. And some people are bolder and better at going against the flow of society. In all what I am saying I am not excusing someone for abandoning an obligatory action of islam, just highlighting many people need more support than others.
    A similar comment is someone who struggles to wake up for fajr being confronted by someone saying you are lazy i have never missed it since the age of 10Recommend

  • Dawd

    Excellent answer, and if you read the article she wears it in a ‘Pakistani’ style (as if cultures are stagnant), because she felt ‘none of this (other styles) was me’. Crucially her reluctance at wearing it a local style was due to the resistance she received from family who saw it as an identifier of class (or used that as a retort)Recommend

  • Dawd

    Do you wear clothing?Recommend

  • Dawd

    Exactly good deeds are good deeds, doing one does not depend on the other. And the argument you should do everything or nothing is completely false.Recommend

  • Dawd

    I find it hard to accept someone has truly internalized islam, when they harbour negative emotions to those who obey Allah’s command. Part of being a muslim is submitting your will to allah, and so you may not see the point of many acts of worship, and nor are you required to, you should accept it and obey.
    So what is the attitude of those who cause difficulty and harrass those who try and observe the command of allah except a sign of serious illness (as opposed to those who admire the good deeds of those with a sense of awe and reverence they are unable to perform)Recommend

  • Dawd

    I think you have misread the article. She is talking of the harrassment she got whilst wearing itRecommend

  • Nana

    and how it has been taught in Islam? Everybody has it’s own interpretation. What’s wrong in covering your head with dupatta like our ancestor’s used to do? you are still covering your head but in your style and not wounding it tightly around your face. Everyone covers their head according to their culture, why should it be wrong? No one says it should be done in a Saudi Style or Middle Eastern style.Recommend

  • Omar K Cheema

    Nowhere it is said in Islam to use android phones, why are you using android phones?Recommend

  • fze

    Don’t waste your time in useless discussions about dupatta or hijab. Spend your time in some useful persuit beneficial for humanity afterall man was created to do some good deeds for each other otherwise angels were enough for ‘ibaadat.’ (Allama Iqbal) BTW, during raj era women didn’t used to take hijab, it was dupatta on the head. What’s wrong in wearing a dupatta on head? It does not make you a less Muslim. Stop running after maulvis, they are the very reason of the state we are in. And before lecturing others, do you have a Sharia beard (not the modern one)? Do you wear ‘jubba’ or high shalwar? Do you go to mosque to say your prayers with jama’at?Are you fulfilling the bindings for men laid down according to Ulema? Worry about your own self as everyone is answerable for their own deeds only.Recommend

  • Amna Abbasi

    Dear watch drama Alif on see tv at7pm everyday then decide.
    Regards
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  • Lenny

    One of the most retarded comments I have ever read. Islam urges men and women to cover themselves adequately. For men its between navel and knees. For women its everything except hands, face and feet. The ‘once you get your country you leave your hijab’ comment clearly meant that we were never instructed to “override” the farz of covering ourselves when we we got our own country. Things that are not covered in the scope if Islam are completely allowed, including android phones.Recommend

  • vasan

    Does Islam advice you to use iOS phones or Symbian phones.
    Just curiousRecommend

  • Dante

    You’re free to make any decision you want in your life. You shouldn’t feel compelled to justify it. Just an advice.Recommend

  • Was

    Hijab is part of our Religion. Westernized girls have no identity. Why do they want to copy non-muslims? Tell me what’s the difference between Pakistanis and Indians if we don’t follow Islam?Recommend

  • Naila waqar

    This is true head covering is not made easy for u in our society,u r simply labeled as PAINDU or very simple person.Socially u r ignored until or unless u say something intelligent or speak english.I as a middle ager face such situations so I can well imagine how hard it must b for young girls.Having said that I must say one shud stand firm on one’s beliefs n continue with the practice of head covering bcoz ultimately we will b answerable to Allah alone.iRecommend

  • Dawd

    What is the use of the personal attack, you don’t know me (and paradoxically asking me how I am living my life before asking me to mind my own business!). I was stating my opinion (in support of) an article written, with an overwhelmingly negative response.Recommend