I want my daughter back

Published: May 26, 2014

This is the anguished cry of a loving and doting father.

August 20, 2001 – Islamabad airport:

I said ‘Khuda Hafiz’ to my 17-year-old daughter, my only child; she was on her way to college in the US. She had the honour of being accepted at Yale University on a full scholarship and like always she had done us proud once again.

Tearfully, I hugged her and whispered in her ear,

“Don’t come back.”

Quick on the uptake, she smiled that sweet endearing smile of hers and shot back,

“Abba, you have brought me up with the lesson to have a mind of my own.”

She defied me continuously for four years; came back twice a year during the holidays, refused to take up an internship in the US, always travelled by PIA and took genuine pride in her Pakistani origins and citizenship.

May 23, 2005 was the proudest and happiest day of my life. I saw my daughter graduate with honours from Yale. She got job offers from some of the top companies and institutions in the US but decided to come back home. She was hugely optimistic about the future of her country.

When she came back, she held two jobs, was always energised and optimistic. She was full of hope and ideas for the future; she was convinced she could make a difference in the lives of the people of Pakistan. She spent the next two years working and teaching young girls in Islamabad. During these two years, she witnessed bloodshed, carnage, chaos, misery and horror on a monumental scale. The Lal Masjid conundrum took place in which clerics of the mosque demanded the imposition of Shariah, around 200 burqa-clad female students of the madrassah occupied government property and a spate of suicide bombings took place across the length and breadth of the country.

During the same time period, the National Assembly meekly endorsed the Nizam-e-Adl Regulation and very quietly gave full constitutional guarantees for turning Pakistan into a theocracy to be ruled by illiterate mullahs with a self-proclaimed divine mission. Women were flogged and beaten in the Taliban administered areas of Pakistan. Girls were not allowed to attend schools. Men were forced to grow beards. TV and the internet were banned. The so-called champions of Islam led by bloodthirsty clerics such as Sufi Muhammad and his son-in-law silenced all voices of dissent with a bullet to the head.

Hope, optimism, security, justice, progress and culture became pipe dreams. We witnessed a number of gory attacks that took place on our army soldiers including the attack on GHQ, the targeting of innocent Sri Lankan cricket players in Lahore and countless suicide attacks in mosques, shrines and imambargahs.

Throughout this period, I continued to beg and plead my daughter to go back. Finally, in 2008 she agreed to go back to the US for graduate school. This time, she decided to attend Princeton University, again on a full scholarship. In June 2010, I again had the joy and honour of seeing my daughter graduate with honours from Princeton with a Masters degree in public policy.

During this period, a red-capped master of conspiracy theories ruled the airwaves with his sermons of hate and prejudice against all other faiths and beliefs. The Governor of Punjab was gunned down in broad daylight in Islamabad by his own security guard and then we witnessed the disgusting and revolting spectacle of his killer being showered with rose petals. The federal minister for minority affairs was gunned down next; his crime being, standing up to the forces of bigotry and religious fanaticism and to have the moral courage to show sympathy for the poor Christian woman languishing in jail on a trumped up charge of blasphemy. The former minister for information and a legislator of the Pakistan Peoples Party (PPP), Sherry Rehman, had the courage to table a private members bill in the National Assembly to amend the draconian, unjust and cruel blasphemy laws, but such is the fear, horror and dread of the religious forces in the country that this bill was withdrawn by the ruling party.

I have a dream that one day all the provinces of Pakistan will rise up collectively and overthrow the forces of religious fanaticism and this land, sweltering in the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.

I dream that my only child will one day live in a nation where she will not be judged by her religious belief but by the content of her character.

I dream that future generations of girls in Pakistan will not have their dress code dictated by self-appointed guardians of their morals.

I hope I live to see the day in which religion will have nothing to do with the matters of state.

Idealism, patriotism and all the lofty ideals of love for your country is on one side but concern for my only child, my pride and joy, compels me to beg her; beg her to leave this country. I know I am banging my head against a wall and yet, this is the anguished cry of a loving and doting father. I want to see her settled in some part of the world where she is safe and respected for her talents and achievements. I want to bring my daughter back to the place I once knew as safe and secure.

Tariq Aqil

Tariq Aqil

A teacher at Headstart school and at USEFP who teaches English Language and World history. He likes to travel and read.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • fze

    Ah! I can easily identify with your predicament. I join hands with you and demand the same. Give me my old country back!Recommend

  • Ahmed Malik

    My dad said the same thing to me when I left home for the first time. “Never come back” I still don’t know what he was thinking.Recommend

  • A. Khan

    This is really sad, parents telling their children not to return to their country of birth. My reason for being away is not the security or Talibanisation, although I am completely against it.

    I simply cannot stand the culture of corruption and injustice that pervades our society all the while hiding behind the cloak of Islam. Remove this corruption and you will find that all the other problems go away with it.Recommend

  • Mohammed Ali

    I was never told to not come back. It was my choice and that is what i did. God has been gracious to me and my family so I dont feel any need to revisit my decision in any case. I know for a fact my parents would have wanted me to stay abroad as its safer but I find life becomes meaningless if one doesn’t have family close by.The choice should rest with the child in any case.Recommend

  • Moawwiz

    I have been given the same advice again and again. And I intend to take it.Recommend

  • Ali

    disgrace!! no one should leave the country and settle in abroad because the country is going through rough phase… at the end of the day, Pakistan before us :)

    if educated people start leaving pakistan we will be practically gifting this beautiful country to religious fanatics and corrupt politicians… WE NEED TO START OWNING THE COUNTRY!!!Recommend

  • Fm

    I salute you for a superb article it is full of love for your nation, sorrow for where it is heading and your your daughter’s example concern for all the daughters and a concern to where Pakistan is heading. It gives a vision for future along with strategy and the blindness of citizens. Who think if it does not bother me I am not interested. Recommend

  • نائلہ

    I want my Pakistan back as well. The Pakistan Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan wrote the song ‘mera inaam Pakistan’ on. Just listening to the lyrics makes me sad on how much this nation has changed. Recommend


    Big question is; Who will get Pakistan rid of all these fanatics. How these forces of satan gained ground in ‘Pak’istan. Only a strong democracy can do it that has no future as of now.Recommend

  • UK

    With all due respect, chickening out is no solution …Recommend

  • Tahir M. Raja

    Salaam Alykum Tariq sb.,

    Firstly to clarify that I studied in a missionary school / govt. college in and then did my undergraduate/Masters from USA from 1977/ 83. I till today do not repent coming back and Al ham dulilah bringing up my 2 boys in Pakistan. Grass always looks green on the other side. Solution is not to run away but face it in whatever manner one can. Think that after 9/11 many Muslims/Pakistan’s in the safe world you are talking about do feel insecure.

    Unfortunately it is confused minds which have created the problems
    you mentioned. I may not totally dis agree with what you have stated but in the
    manner which you have done so and the rational which you have stated is what
    creates the confusion.

    We as a society have a tendency to mostly blame ourselves.
    Lets us think about that why are some of the situations created. I suppose the
    answer is very easy – the countries we feel as safe havens are the ones who
    have basically sown the seeds of the problems. Yes we need to be able to safe
    guard our own side but I suppose due to multi-faceted problems right from the
    time of our independence and the political maturity not having developed (
    again I think it is very clear that who placed and supported the generals,etc)
    we are faced with this dilemma. However, in the last few years despite the problems there has been a change towards a better direction, thereby, the future.

    May ALLAh bless your daughter infact the present generations
    and ones to to come with a better environment/future.Recommend

  • Zoheb Hassan Khan

    Depends on the children but its a reality and every person who is abroad or in the country gives it a thought definitely. No decision is correct its just individual perspective but its a very bitter reality of Pakistan.Recommend

  • ehitman

    Irony is u that u are asking for a changed Pakistan, a Pakistan free from the plague of extremism, ignorance and intolerance all the while asking the same person who can actually make that change (yes ur daughter) to stay away from this country. Where we are today as a nation is the result of the people who can bring about a positive change leaving this country and never coming back. I wish u had spent all that money on some less priveleged person who hadnt acted selfishly, had stayed or atleast would had chosen to come back to make a positive change… even a single grain of rice can make a difference… but we are comfortable in exporting all the rice i guess…Recommend

  • thonkaboutit

    The feeling expressed here can of course be understood very easily by anyone. Naturally a parent would want the best for their child, want them to be safe and protected. But here is the problem. If the best youth of the nation, the youth that win scholarships to top, top universities like Princeton and Yale, keep leaving the nation WITHOUT return, then they leave behind a void to be filled by those who are not suitable. The young generation of a country is what defines it, and the best of ours has been leaving Pakistan for the past thirty or forty years. Stop, and for a second imagine if all the Pakistani emigrants of the past thirty years still lived in the country. Perhaps now it becomes clearer how a considerable percentage of parents strive to give their children the best education yet the country remains in dire straits.
    However, a persons first and foremost duty is his livelihood, not just for himself but for those whom he must support, his family, parents, children, spouse, etc. If in this he feels the need to leave the country he will and must do so. But as long as everyone who can and is able to settle abroad does so permanently, which is largely the case today, the input in terms of educating the youth does not math the output in terns of an educated youth, and that will hinder progress.

  • Muhammad Bilal

    Sir, Can you please suggest the people who can not send their children abroad what to do? Such a mean thinking. You are a teacher please teach people how can we make our country a safe place again. You can motivate them but if teachers are thinking like this then don’t dream about future.Recommend

  • Chali wala

    You guys are hypocrites, if you were somehow to get a visa, I’m pretty sure you’d be on the first flight out of here.. Recommend

  • Realist

    Your daughter seems like a very motivated and talented young woman. But… it is the tough times when our country needs us the most — precisely the time when we must brave insecurity, etc., and stay on, helping to fix things rather than leaving and letting things rot.Recommend

  • faisalkapadia

    I came back in 1995 my dads been telling me almost daily since then to go away. I married have two kids and he still tells me the same thing and i reply with “this may be a gutter but its my gutter” i aint going i dont care and i will tell you this as well i have no visa or other financial concerns. My only problem is that i love this nation and im not leaving it for any reason. I dont and will not judge you or your child all i will say is that pakistan needs more people like her not less. Recommend

  • Nandita.

    Hello Sir ! You are Sehar Tariq’s father,aren’t you? You ought to be proud of her.Recommend

  • A.B

    Although the points you have raised are valid… I believe that leaving this country and settling abroad is not the answer as there is already a shortage of educated people in Pakistan …educated people should stay and educate the younger generation of our country, as the youth is the future of this countryRecommend

  • Hamza

    Your comment shows that you still haven’t heard about Dr.Mahdi Ali
    Came back from the US to serve his fellow countrymen
    Instead got murdered in front of his wife and son for being an Ahmadi
    Do you think anything will happen? Will there be protests? Will the hate-spreading mullahs get what they deserve? Will we wake out of our hibernation? You and I both know the answer
    And then we wonder why the educated youth leaves PakistanRecommend

  • hafsa

    Utter disgrace.wat would happen if every one leavesRecommend

  • Parvez

    As a father you have every right to think about the betterment and safety of your child……as a daughter of this country I can only admire and respect her for her thinking.Recommend

  • Weeping for Pakistan

    I left Pakistan in 1975 for the US to study. I received my PhD in economics and came home to Pakistan to serve, but found the idea of service non-existent. People laughed at me and wished me luck, whenever I talked about my lofty ideals. I quickly learnt why. During my three months of stay in Pakistan in the winter of 1988, I saw a country that had changed forever.

    What I saw was a country transmogrifed by the vicious dictator Zia ul Haq. What I saw was a country where women who were viciously raped, could be imprisoned or sent to death, if they spoke out against their rapist; where people could be arbitrarily condemned on spurious charges of blasphemy, and it had become a country where religious bigots had ascended to all parts of government. It was country where debates were settled with the power of Kalishnikovs and not with the beauty of logic. Everyday people left home for work, unsure if they will come back home alive. No office was safe; no home secured. My father forced me, with his power of argument, to leave the country. I left with heavy heart, knowing full well that I could never give back to my country, that had then been occupied by mad zealots.

    I returned to the US and only once went back to Pakistan after my father’s death. It is more than 22 years since I have been back home ( yes, I still regard Pakistan as home). I weep every day for the Pakistan that it has become, I wish for a Pakistan that could have been, the one envisioned by Jinnah. It could have been a country where people had the freedom to go to their place of worship, where people of minority religions could also become prime minister of the country. It could have been a country where toleration reigned supreme and where ideas were debated openly and honestly on the media, at the academies of learning, and in hallowed chambers of our legislative assemblies.


  • hozzur

    She is safe and better off in the land of the infidels.Recommend

  • intelligent

    Absolutely agree with the writerRecommend

  • ali

    simple is this when we will start keeping ourselves stand in the que for our turn from that day we will start changing the system.we always try to find any shortcut to full fill our task for whatever you are standing in the que.corruption is no doubt a massive hassle of our country.but the people those are in power are the reflection of the nation.our nation is corrupt thats why they prefer people those who can sort out their personal problems.the day we will start thinking on national level we will will start bringing change.the day we will start thinking about our neighbor we can change the view of nation.

    sorry to say tariq sahab.you just dreamt of our country to be like this and that but you didn’t try anything to make better anythingRecommend

  • true pakistani

    simply simple!!! this is truly a parents plead!!
    very heart wrenching!Recommend

  • MrRollsRoyce

    Mr Aqil, I feel sorry for you and others like us who truly FEEL for our benighted nation. Every word you have written rings true to me. Ours is an intellectually and morally bankrupt country. It is not just the forces of religious terrorism that are responsible for the country’s destruction. Each and every man and woman who believes in the ideology of hate, of extreme misogyny, of xenophobia, while giving no thought as to how concepts like slavery, paedophilia in the guise of marriage, and killing someone for their belief or something they have said are just simply beyond stupid and beyond barbaric. Our nation has progressively turned more and more overtly religious with the resulting social psyche of measuring everything by dogma and thus no progress on any front other than hurtling towards being a total failed state. Conspiracy theories are rife and criticial thought, scientific inquiry, and rationalism are treated with suspicion or outright hostility.

    In such an atmosphere no thinking person can survive. As a young man I too have chosen to leave Pakistan, not just for my sake but my children’s. My choice is not economic but ideological, therefore at least I am not a hypocrite unlike so many from Pakistan who settle in the west but consider the locals “pigs” and immoral people in general.

    As a father to a baby girl I know your feelings towards protecting one’s daughter. In Pakistan my blood boils seeing how ordinary women are given the “dirty eye” on the street. I would never want my daughter growing up in such a misogynist and women-as-property-and-nothing-else society.

    Alas, I have to be cynical and tend to believe that improvement in Pakistan is not coming any time soon. Too many people are intellectual cowards who would rather keep living with their mind-forged manacles than start questioning the ideology of hate that comes in through petro-dollars. Pakistani muslims would rather consider themselves Arabs than of Indian heritage. Not easy reversing centuries of brainwashing.

    To those who say “chickening out is no solution” and “WE NEED TO START OWNING THE COUNTRY!!!”, I ask: is it allowed in Pakistan to challenge the status quo? Can I openly say that the ideological beliefs on which every single thing in our country is determines are based on falsehood? As long as the answer is that debate is not allowed then I have ZERO moral duty towards my country, as much as my heart bleeds for its plight.Recommend

  • Sane

    Problem, everyone knows. Do not highlight again and again. Come with soultion.Recommend

  • Biswajeet Kapoor Kiraula

    Something is not right here. This woman graduated from Yale, with honors.
    Then turned down all offers from top of the line companies. To return to this
    country? For a Yale graduate, the rock bottom salary from US corporations
    would be in the $70’s or $80’s. Thousands. That is starting salary. The situation
    in this country has been deteriorating for 67 years. She was going to come back with a magic wand? And change everything? She could have done so
    much from there. Helped so many. Corruption and nepotism are endemic here. Single handedly she was going to overcome all that, alone? Without a political base? There is a mass exodus of doctors
    Least, she could have donated her huge yearly salary to help some worthy cause. Help starving orphans? Girls education?
    This blog is not kosher. There is something missing. Does not make sense.Recommend

  • Budd Akhtar

    An absolutely amazing way too put forth all our hopes, for I am sure we all would want to breathe the air of a country which lives in peace and harmony.Recommend

  • MrRollsRoyce

    I feel I must stress the point that the biggest problem is not corruption or even religious fanaticism (in itself). The problem is that rational debate is not encouraged, with the discouragement being the barrel of a gun or the blast of a bomb. I hate the fact that I have to leave the country, but if I were there I would surely be killed for speaking out against all the crappy ways of thinking.

    Mind you, my way of acting would be logic and dialog. The other side, the currently dominant side in Pakistan, does not believe in logic. As another commenter here mentioned, recently an Ahmedi doctor who returned to serve Pakistan was killed, simply for his religious belief. A sitting Governor was killed for even suggesting that the blasphemy law should be improved. People are killed left, right, and center on accusations of blasphemy, recently a mere 14-year old proudly walked into a police station and killed an old man locked up on blasphemy charges.

    All this happens with the tacit approval, complicity even, of the populace and the government.


  • saif

    Actually people do come back home from yale and harvard to Pakistan , usually the best explanation is home is home, simple as that. While I can understand it is hard to understand from outside, it does happen , its a different way of thinking then most people and probably I have heard of this lady as my friend might have studied from her.Recommend

  • Ali

    I did read about him, I am speechless…. and that incident is precisely why we need our educated lot to be in Pakistan and guide her to a better future. Running away is never the answer, never has been, never will be. True, we lost a lot of good people but someday it will be worth it all. Someday when people will stop listening to the hate-spreading mullahs and make their own decision.. Someday Insha Allah another Dr. Mahdi Ali will serve his country but in the mean time we have to fight with pen and not with bulletsRecommend

  • nedian

    Sir, With due respect I think you would be much happy inside your heart to see your daughter well settled in one of the best (debatable) country of the world.. A country which many can only dream of. So why all this hue and cry? If you miss your daughter, why don’t you simply join her there. Real right of complain rests with those whose children cannot make it out and are forced to bear all the troubles you mentioned.Recommend

  • Iftikhar Ali

    God bless USRecommend

  • mshaiq

    Wonderful article. I’m with you on wanting Pakistan to be THAT place. Misleading headline though: It doesn’t do the article justice.Recommend

  • Zara

    Mr.Ali thanks for your story.
    As a parent I can understand the natural fears that you have for your daughter. We all want our children to do well in life and to be safe.. However, there is a great brain drain going on in Pakistan.Pakistan badly needs doctors,teachers and engineers who are all now working in the West.
    Of course there are terrible problems going on in Pakistan right now but the solution is not to walk away. As muslims we believe that the date of our death is already predetermined so fearing death is not a valid reason to leave .
    I have far more respect for those Pakistani’s who study overseas and then return to Pakistan to make a difference to their country.Recommend

  • Zara

    Well said!
    I think you speak for the majority in Pakistan who worry about how to survive day by day. The majority in Pakistan worry about their food ,fuel bills and how to get a decent education for their children. The lucky minority here only have the luxury to worry about where their overseas educated children should reside !Recommend

  • Hamza

    You see that is the issue. People here, even young people, are ready to listen to hate-mongering mullahs rather than educated people. Anyone who dares speak against them is labeled a “foreign agent”. In such circumstances, the educated are disillusioned and they leave. knowing that the majority just won’t listen to them…at least not yet.
    And yes, I agree we have lost a lot of good Pakistanis of every religion, ethnicity and profession. This is the darkest age in Pakistan’s history. I too hope that one day these sacrifices will be worth it and these martyrs would be honored and celebrated. Like they say, “The darkest hour is just before the dawn”Recommend

  • Imli

    It is usually a personal decision. People travel abroad, some take very well to it, others do not. What’s not to understand?Recommend

  • Absar

    US is a safe place for women ?

    Please visit few of the link related to most rapes in a country , I am sharing one for you people


  • Naila

    It’s called love. Recommend

  • S. Khan

    But you only have one life. Its that one thing you are not getting a second chance at.Recommend

  • Arasool

    Can’t believe this article made it to the tribune..crap!Recommend

  • Lafoot

    Problem lies in fatal belief of your date of death being predetermined. If that is the case then why not try jumping from a high rise to test your theory. This type of bull crap belief is what is making people not follow law and order or law of the land. You need to as a parent ensure full protection and not just live in false idealism of not sending your kids to a safe country if you can. The only countries where people can breathe in fresh air are the countries where people are not prosecuted because of their belief and what they want to say.. the moment you believe your religion is better than others or your God is the true God ..that is when the problem starts in any society where people are taught to be intolerant to other forms of thoughts ..

    I don’t think Pakistan will ever in my lifetime be a normal country only reason is that Madarssas which are fact of life will keep on churning out fundamentalist people whose only literacy is one book and where they find solutions to all their problems ..good luck when there is a radio active leakage ..I am sure that book will not have a solution but will tell you the date of everyone’s death.Recommend

  • The One

    There are more rapes in the country because women are not afraid to report to the police. How many women would even be allowed to report a rape by family or even the police in Pakistan?Recommend

  • Waqas Tariq

    You need to get off your high horse and realize that the percentage of women that report rape in Pakistan is far less than in the US. Since in Pakistan you need 4 male witnesses of the rape.Recommend

  • Waqas Tariq

    You need to read the article again, especially then end. If you still can’t understand what is being said, then ask your English teacher.Recommend

  • gp65

    There are many that came back to India too. While it is true that one can contribute to one’s land of birth even if one stays out of it, if some people choose to serve on the ground – it is surely understandable.

    Why such cynicism?Recommend

  • Doorie

    Hate is drone…Hate is Aafia imprisonment..Hate is war in Afghanistan and Iraq…when she can accept all this and go for studies there then she should ignore all this hatred and work here…No to Liberals…Recommend

  • Zulu

    A Pakistani muslim father will never allow her daughter to stay and work in the west for “honor” problems.Recommend

  • AK

    USA did not become USA just like that. American south was more intolerant of blacks only a generation ago than Pakistan is of Ahmedis. Lincoln had to fight and win a brutal civil war in 1850s and many civil rights activists gave up their lives in 1960s to shape the America of today where a Black man can become a President instead of being lynched. If we want to make Pakistan a peaceful progressive tolerant place, we need to struggle for it… giving up on it is no solution. Of course fighting wars is not everyone’s cup of tea, but doing a bit of good, promoting tolerant thoughts wherever we are, can help. Even if one is temporarily or permanently outside the country, one can still help to influence the narrative towards tolerance. It might not be noticeable, but all the introspection done through blogs, modern media etc is slowly raising the consciousness of the middle class on the need for tolerance and peace. For example, 15 years ago, jihadis were the unquestioned heroes of most of the middle class due to the aura built around Kashmir and Afghanistan… that is no longer the case. Inshallah things will get better.Recommend

  • I know many such people who have graduated from Ivy League universities and then come back to Pakistan. Particularly, Pakistani girls who go to college in the US often come back after graduating, if only for a few years. It’s Yale, not Mars.Recommend

  • Nero

    Choosing to live peacefully is not “chickening out”!Recommend

  • Prof

    The authors daughter went abroad on a ‘scholarship’ not on the meager salary of a ‘teacher’.

    Also, a teachers job is to tell the truth, and while we teach our kids/students about their responsibility to their country (honesty, dedication, hard work, perseverance etc) we must also teach our kids about the responsibility of the state towards its citizens (equality before the law, justice, opportunities for education and work, health and pension benefits etc).

    We must not teach them to be blind patriots while informing them that nationality is an accident of birth. And if the state is not willing or able to fulfill even a couple of its responsibilities than the citizen is absolved of his/her responsibility towards the state and welcome to find a better country.

    We must teach them that immigration ‘hijrah’ is an Islamic/prophetic tradition. Leaving ones everything behind and trying to start a life from scratch in a new land is a brave, daring thing to do and not a cowardly retreat.Recommend

  • Guest

    Problem solved :) …. would the last person to leave, please turn off all the lights.Recommend

  • Guest

    Where did he ever write he was ashamed? He did write that he was proud of her on more than one occasion.Recommend

  • Guest

    There isn’t a shortage of educated people…. but a surplus of illiterate fools.Recommend

  • A. Khan

    Just today, a woman was stoned to death OUTSIDE the Lahore High Court. No less. No one came to her aid, not the police nor the tasmash bins. Will she or her relatives get the justice they deserve ? I doubt it very much. This countryRecommend

  • Biswajeet Kapoor Kiraula

    If the good times are 200 years down the road, then nobody
    is interested. Why don’t you be the first to take auto rickshaw back?…straight to Lahore were they stoned a woman. 2 days ago.
    Saudia is 1400 years old, they live in the stone age. Kill women
    if they are caught driving. Women cannot vote. Cannot step out
    of the house to buy medicine for a sick kid. Pure stone age society. With modern appliances. And imported doctors.
    Speak for yourself,..only.Recommend

  • kamran

    Biswajeet, you have a lot of learning to do in this life. People think differently all the time, not all are seduced by the lure of money.Recommend

  • AFH

    For all those readers including the respected author, who believe that your children should leave the country when its not safe to stay here, I would just like to ask one thing, What kind of cowardly message are you giving to your children? What kind of lesson are you giving to your future generations? That they should chicken out when the going gets tough? That they should act as rats and abandon ship? Are the people dying in the country on the hands of these barbarians are not anybody’s children? Or do you think leaving country and making a living out of Pakistan is more difficult than having a life here and all those who are left here are less fortunate or too poor that its their only option?

    Sir, I salute your daughter, hats off to her. You might be proud of her achievements but I as a Pakistani, am proud of her for believing in Pakistan and believing in herself. Nations rise proud and strong when they are not shy of sacrificing. My mother, served this country as a doctor in the armed forces along with my father all her life. I follow their footsteps. Today, she knows that at my age I have seen war and bloodshed more than any mother would like their son or daughter to see. Yet, even today, when duty calls, she always has a smiling face and a courageous heart to bid farewell to her son. Her whispers are always advice to do my best, as I can make a difference.

    Sir, be proud of your children, who despite of your protective instincts, are willing to sacrifice for this country because you might have lost all hope in Pakistan, but for us, your children, Pakistan is our only hope and we are not shy of any sacrifice it asks for. Pakistan Zindabad.Recommend

  • BuzzKill

    what? are u crazy???Recommend

  • BuzzKill

    Rich people think that way. But survival is Pakistan is different if you don’t have money and references.Recommend

  • aminah

    go bother about your country and your “Modi Sarkar” ;)Recommend

  • Ram

    If Pakistan takes religion then what will be the difference between India and Pakistan

    Someone Please explain to me if Pakistan was suppose to be secular why did it separated from India, despite migration of most of educated Muslim to Pakistan India decided to be secular and trying every day to strengthen its secular democracy where poor Muslim boy could dream of reaching top if he works hard.

    Even a decent educated pakistani hate India and calls it a hindu state, where did pakistan go wrong, After reading pity of partition by Ayesha Jalal and My Brother by Fatima Jinnah I conclude Jinnah with all his good intentions used by few Nawabs and landlords to create Pakistan using religion when this failed Millitary took over and they are taking turns for last 67 years. You can not solve the problem unless you get to the rootRecommend

  • ram

    Listen to Arshad Cowesji interview on youtube and I was shocked to see he is advising young pakistanis to flee pakistan if they can, This comes from learned journalist who saw pakistan since its inceptionRecommend

  • ram

    whom are you fighting and what are you fighting for, all the wars with India are senseless and started by pakistan as per your army chiefs interview, India does not want pakistan even if you are giving at awayRecommend

  • jin

    Its a foreign propaganda. How the hell can undeducated mullahs with no access to IT/computer/internet track someones record that hes an Ahmedi? Do they get a dream about it or what? I dont get it. Pakistan is a peaceful country, just read all the comments condemning this incident. No body is saying its a good thing.Recommend

  • SHB

    This blog is history of political events of last ten yrs and very opinionated feeling of a father. I live in USA for the last 38 yrs. there is a dictum to read. Every thing looks green on the other side of the road. So there was no need to write down all these events.
    This father should let her daughter go, where ever she wants to settle. She can still help Pakistan, if not by her presence, it could be with her money. There are many ways to help the motherland. I have done it myself by living outside for the last 38 yrs. I still love Pakistan and I am still recognized by this name. First thing they ask me, from where I came from? This is the history of first generation migrant. This father should look at the positive side of the picture. How this daughter was able to go to USA? Because those full scholarships were given to Pakistani students by US govt. That was the first requirement. Period .Recommend

  • Zara

    Lafoot…read what I wrote above and then bang your head across a brick wall !
    When did I say my religion was better than anyone else’s?
    My whole point was that if everyone thought like this author then Pakistan is doomed. Running away is never a solution.


  • Haney

    Hmm, good concept and i truly agree with the ideology of the blogger but m afraid some religious fanatics and Computer Mullas will start calling it secularism,or agent of West. :-(Recommend

  • bilal

    don’t blame religion for everything instead concentrate on your deeds Recommend

  • http://batman-news.com farrukh shaikh

    I feel sorry for Tariq but can totally empathise with him on his situation. If I were him in his situataion, I would want the best for my children and if at any point, I would feel situation or place to be unsafe for them, I would also consider sending them else where…I wish this was not the case though (that people had to fly abroad for this reason) but at the same time one cannot afford to continue to risk your children and loved ones lives to the unnecessary politcally motivated internal grown terrorism and bloodshed.Recommend

  • Syeda Uzmaa Farhan

    Good answer Recommend

  • Syeda Uzmaa Farhan

    Good answer Recommend

  • Lafoot

    Zara let me apologize if you felt my comments insinuated about you saying your religion is better than anyone else’s. If you read my first line it is a direct reply to your comment where you say that as Muslims your time of death is pre determined. I also say that it is your duty as parents to first ensure safety of your kids if you can and then you can have the emotion of being undying patriot. My comments on the religious ideology was a general comment on the society’s mindset – this was directed towards the points raised by the blogger.Recommend