10 reasons moms have superpowers and dads don’t!

Published: May 11, 2014
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Motherhood makes women an expert in eating with one hand, while feeding or rocking the baby with the other. Somewhat like a superpower.

Although parenthood has its pros – where we can make our strongest pains go away by a simple kiss on our children’s forehead – it can also be difficult to handle at times. Therefore, a little appreciation for the tasks our parents do for us is enough to make their day.

Hence, keeping the nature of the day in mind, I have attempted to list down 10 reasons why our moms deserve special recognition. (Dads, please don’t feel left out. Remember, Father’s Day is round the corner too, so you’ll get your list as well.)

Privacy

Dads have the privilege to use the washroom privately, at their own discretion, with no interrogation and no one banging on the door asking annoying questions like:

“Mom, are you in there?”

“What is that noise? What are you doing in there?”

“Mommy I need to pee too!”

For mothers, taking long showers is a luxury. They need to be appreciated for the ample amount of patience they have while dealing with us, especially during these situations.

Queens of multitasking

Dads usually complain that that they can’t enjoy their own dinner if they have to eat and feed the children simultaneously. However, with moms, that is not even an issue. Motherhood makes women an expert in eating with one hand, while feeding or rocking the baby with the other, as if she was made with superpowers.

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Moms have gradually mastered these techniques of multitasking. Vacuuming the house with a baby in her arms; cooking while doing the dishes and rehearsing poems with the kids for their recital the next day; ironing and doing laundry whilst talking on the phone; mothers have done it all! If you are a mom, there must have been times when you wished for a third hand… didn’t you?

But how many times have you heard a dad make a similar wish?

Hanging out with friends

I envy Dads a lot for this one.

When they go out to a restaurant to hang out with friends, it’s relaxing time – just friends, him, soft music and food. However, when moms hang out with friends, the situation is the opposite. A moms’ hangout comprises of you and your kids, your friends and their kids, sibling wars, food spilling on clothes, a big mess everywhere and restaurant staff giving you the dirties looks.

Were you planning to relax?

A hang out is not the best option!

No sick leaves

When dads are down with the flu or a cold, they take a day off from work, stay in bed, get pampered by their wives, have chicken soup, take medicines and are in utter bliss; it’s like a mini-vacation! After all, if the kids make a noise, mommy dearest is there to make sure they don’t disturb their father.

“Hush children, please! Don’t make noises. Your dad is unwell.”

On the flip side though, when the mom happens to fall sick, she still doesn’t get a breather! There is no concept of a sick leave from domestic chores. The dad won’t take a day off to look after the sick mommy or the kids and there is no one going,

“Hush now, mom is resting”.

Instead it’s the other way round. All the kids get together in their mom’s bedroom and create havoc. Poor mommy would rather not fall sick than fall sick and be miserable with no one to take care of her!

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Nap times

What is this ‘Nap time’ that you speak of? Nap time is alien to many mothers out there. In fact, they often work as a trigger; it’s like when children spot their moms lying on the bed, eyes closed, almost on the verge of slumber, they have this innate need to ask her all the questions under the sun at that very moment. It’s like sleep is their enemy, even if they aren’t the ones sleeping, and so they march their way forward, armed with ammo and endless questions.

“Mom, I can’t find my socks!”

“Mom, can you please open your eyes?”

“Mom, can I have ice cream please?”

“Mom I need to pee.”

“Mom, nobody is playing with me; will you play hide and seek with me?”

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Sick and tired of all this bugging, the poor mom has no other option but to drag herself out of bed.

So much for a peaceful nap.

Washroom time between lunches

Alright, here is a question to the all the dads out there, can men eat, pause, go to the washroom to wash the toddler, who is waiting on the toilet seat, then return and resume eating without saying a single word? Especially if it happens to you all in the midst of lunch, every day?

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Yeah, I didn’t think so either.

Getting ready

For fathers, getting ready means taking a shower, changing and spraying on a nice cologne. For mothers, it means getting all the children ready first, putting stuff in the take-along bag and then scurrying to get dressed herself while her dashing husband groans saying,

“What’s taking you so long?”

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The nine months

It’s not easy doing household chores or office work while carrying a baby in ones womb, and enduring morning sickness and fatigue for nine months. Believe me, you can’t appreciate your mom enough for that.

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The excruciating delivery process

A human body can bear up to 45 Dels of pain. At the time of the delivery, while the woman is in labour, she undergoes up to 57 Dels of pain. This amount of pain is equivalent to 20 bones being broken at the same time.

How many men can endure that?

Yup, moms have superpowers.

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On duty, 24/7

Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or a working woman, you’ve got to be available for your children at all times. This will include waking up in the middle of the night to check on them, taking them to the washroom to pee, soothing them, comforting them after they have seen a bad dream at night or even feeding them (if you have a toddler).

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Moms are great because they can survive even with a few hours of sleep and attend to phone calls despite the noisy background.

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Encompassing all its challenges, motherhood is still the best job in the world! Some jobs are just too valuable to be compensated in monetary terms. So start appreciating your moms, give them a tight hug every day before you leave for school or work and make them feel special. They deserve it.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the supermoms out there!

Iram Moazzam

Iram Moazzam

A freelance writer who mostly writes for Ms.T, various parenting magazines and travel websites. She tweets as @IramMoazzam (twitter.com/IramMoazzam)

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • AaA

    I am all for mother’s day celebrations but why do you have to put down fathers…?Recommend

  • Muhammad Javed Iqbal

    @Author You could have written all that without comparing dad at every point. no one should compare man and women in competitive manners, no matter how fascinating it looks like. They are equal but have to do different things in life as man cannot give birth to child so how can someone compare that pain to prove women is superior than man ?. Such comparisons do nothing but just give temporary thrill and in long term it creates differences between men and women.Recommend

  • Parvez

    From what little experience I have, I must agree with what you said there……..but there in one job that is better and that’s the job of a grandmother…….and my wife agrees.Recommend

  • Fatma Hammad

    Good job Iram! Love the list. Can totally relate. For me # 11 would be “how kids ruin your postpartum weight loss and workout plans”… how can I forget how I used to plank with my daughter riding on my back, squat with her snuggled to my legs and stretch with kids hanging from both my arms. But I guess this helps us (supermoms ) burn extra calories carrying extra weight.. they really make you feel like a heavyweight champion :p….this sure is crazy but we should cherish the joys of motherhood. May Allah protect our kids … happy mother’s Day to all the supermoms….
    good going Iram moazzam! :)..Recommend

  • Ali

    “A human body can bear up to 45 Dels of pain.
    At the time of the delivery, while the woman is in labour, she
    undergoes up to 57 Dels of pain. This amount of pain is equivalent to 20
    bones being broken at the same time.

    How many men can endure that?”
    getting kicked in testicles is like breaking all your 206 bones at the same time :) yes men get kicked there and and and don’t make the mothers day a feminist–anti male day

    Peace outRecommend

  • https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=8559594100366660134#allposts Supriya Arcot

    I know its mum’s day but I think such articles are biased.There are plenty of men out there ( including mine own ) who are empathic to their spouses .They too like to cook and clean and give the lady of the house a break. The Q is how many men are ‘allowed’ to help around . I know many women who deem the kitchen ( and other chores like cleaning and scrubbing ) as only ‘their’ domain and refuse to let men in and then whine non stop about not getting any help. So please dont blame the men per se .Recommend

  • fze

    I totally agree with you, 110%. I’m a working mom and believe me, on weekends I’m busier than the normal days because I have to catch up on house hold chores + prepare for the commencing week. Whereas for my husband, weekend is total relaxation with nothing to do except to play chess online. Can I afford that relaxation??Recommend

  • Vikrant

    Utter nonsense!! Clearly this lady author has seen too many American sitcoms all her life… and/or she has no clue about the age we live in — which is that of “women’s EMPOWERMENT” … of course Pakistan…. well, that is a different world in itself… :-)Recommend

  • Naina Zubair

    Iram i can relate to every single bit of the article.. Great job… Everything is so true… I am a mum of 11 months old and love it although its not easy… Mumz are the bestRecommend

  • Muhammad Akbar

    what is this?Recommend

  • raj

    very nice :) Appreciation is a small thing we can give to our moms :)Recommend

  • raj

    read againRecommend

  • raj

    its male-dominated society and u clearly don’t want to believeRecommend

  • raj

    but you got to believe other points as to why women has to suffer more than men in life being it a full-time non-paid job like men. think about itRecommend

  • ahmed saeed

    my wife is pregnant with our first baby, her hardships realizes me how much my mother bore pains for me, surely i as a man cannot handle this stuff. i respect all females for this quality of bearing unbearable hardships and not whining about it and even respect a working women more, who works and bear all these hardships and still don’t moan.Recommend

  • Muhammad Akbar
  • raj

    how many men get kicked there… and how many women get pregnant ??? Any answer to it ?? Men get kicked mostly because of their own fault.. Women get this pain also because of men… think about itRecommend

  • Muhammad Javed Iqbal

    “ full-time non-paid job” ? are you kidding ? when she is taking care of babies full time, she is being supported by her husband financially, emotionally and physically. other than that when does she work without taking anything in return ?
    This debate is evil. It can create HATE between men and women but I am sure it can bring no love. Peace outRecommend

  • Iram Moazzam

    Hello everyone. I, as the author of this blog would like to thank you for liking the article. Its not about Man VS Woman. Its about highlighting and acknowledging the stuff men in our society (and kids ) take for granted. Sometimes a little appreciation is all that count.
    And for those who think its an ANTI -DAD article, lolz. Basically its an answer to the cliche’ “Men are stronger than women.”
    Hey, don’t be upset guys. Fathers day is approaching next month. (Y)Recommend

  • Moazzam Ali Khan

    man u r so funny!!Recommend

  • Moazzam Ali Khan

    so true!Recommend

  • Moazzam Ali Khan

    lolz. what differences between male and female genders will this blog provoke? will you stop talking to your wife because of this article?Hehhe. funny!Recommend

  • raj

    Man.. still women do more than men.. men can get time out anytime of the day… but women has to work 24/7… Still in half of Pakistan, women does not enjoy this support from husband that you are talking about.. still the problem is same.. You are still following this male-dominating nature and showing this chauvinistic approach towards the articleRecommend

  • SARWARN

    ‘Motherhood makes women an expert in eating with one hand, while feeding or rocking the baby with the other. Somewhat like a superpower.’
    SERIOUSLY? IS THAT YOur definition of a Super Power..DANG!Recommend

  • rosmena

    in there rest of the world there are sperm banks, most women choose to go through this men because they have no “man” in their life and also not to forget the lesbians…Recommend

  • Dante

    Do you how much it would hurt if twenty bones are actually broken? Have you ever suffered a broken bone in your life? A mere hit in your shin can leave you screaming for help. Something as minor as a stress fracture in your leg bones can leave you incapacitated for several months.Recommend

  • Iram Moazzam

    Thank you so much Fatma. You got a point girl. Perhaps we can come up with a longer list next time ;)Recommend

  • Syme

    @Author Seriously you believe in “Del” ? I never come across any measurement of pain called del. There are many methods ie; verbal rating scale, numerical rating scale, paisa or penny scale and visual analog scale to measure the pain, some might argue but I believe Visual analog score (VAS) is the most accurate. VAS is measured in millimeters and is used extensively. BTW Del is a unit of sound.Recommend

  • Moazzam Ali

    Have you ever delivered a baby? :DRecommend

  • Moazzam Ali

    Get real man! These are REAL life super powers. Are u still in your childhood to believe that only flying with a cape is a super power. We should be grateful to our mothers and wives for bearing with all this.Recommend

  • Moazzam ALi

    Are you kidding or what? Women get support?? O bhai agar yehe haal hota to itne divorces na hote, women khud to supressed na kehte aur domestic violence rate itna mut hota. kis dunya may rehtay hain ap sir?Recommend

  • Moazzam ALi

    I agree 100% with RajRecommend

  • Iram Moazzam

    Fathers are super in their own way. Just wait. fathers day is approaching soon :)Recommend