Only morally rotten men rape: 8-year-old in Bahawalpur raped and killed

Published: January 21, 2014
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To hurt a mentally challenged child, to use her as a means of ‘recreation’ and then to ‘finish’ the job by brutally taking her right to exist leaves no iota of doubt about the character of these assailants. PHOTO: FILE

To hurt a mentally challenged child, to use her as a means of ‘recreation’ and then to ‘finish’ the job by brutally taking her right to exist leaves no iota of doubt about the character of these assailants. PHOTO: FILE Women or girls, as proven in recent cases, are not an object of recreation, a source of offering short-lived entertainment. PHOTO: AFP Women or girls, as proven in recent cases, are not an object of recreation, a source of offering short-lived entertainment. PHOTO: AFP Women or girls, as proven in recent cases, are not an object of recreation, a source of offering short-lived entertainment. PHOTO: AFP

Terrible news crossed my path today first thing in the morning, as I nestled with my cup of tea. I opened my laptop to read about an assault and murder of an eight-year-old girl in Bahawalpur.

I am a mother of two adorable children who are my lifeline, my pride. People feel that motherhood is a roadblock to one’s own aspirations but I feel quite the contrary. To me, my children inspire me to achieve greatness. The idea of a scratch or a bruise on my children is enough to botch a good night’s sleep for me.

I obviously don’t even want to imagine what parents of physically (I refuse to use the word sexual) assaulted children go through – the emotions of anger, hatred and revenge they harbour. Since understanding can lead to acceptance and thereon, recovery, it is equally important to understand these perpetrators and their mind-sets because we cannot protect our children until we ourselves understand that the society is dealing with an epidemic. It is a deadly virus of enormous proportions which will engulf the entire society, which unfortunately, is not restricted to a single country.

We’ll get to the rapists in a bit.

Let’s speak a bit more about this eight-year-old girl. I read that she was mentally challenged so it would be safe to surmise that she had absolutely no idea why she was abducted and the events that transpired thereon.

To hurt a mentally challenged child, to use her as a means of ‘recreation’ and then to ‘finish’ the job by brutally taking her right to exist leaves no iota of doubt about the character of these assailants. They clearly are ruthless, inhumane, morally rotting, mentally unstable, certainly deaf and extremely frustrated individuals, who are morbid enough to find solace in other’s pain.

But that isn’t enough.

This isn’t the story of a morally corrupt society of frustrated individuals who, my best guess is, have nothing meaningful to construct of their own lives. It is a matter of understanding womanhood. It is a matter of understanding and more importantly realising that by assaulting a female, you are seemingly assaulting motherhood or at least the values your mother imbibed.

If a man finds it hard to respect a woman, how can he really respect his own mother, sister or daughter?

How can he look his mother in the eye and justify this barbaric act?

Women or girls, as proven in recent cases, are not an object of recreation, a source of offering short-lived entertainment. They are worthy characters who merit being respected, loved, revered and wanted, in a good, affable way.

As a woman, I can’t shrug off the feeling that for a certain and growing ilk of a society, I am an avenue of lust and greed – such an avenue of entertainment that all appeals of the victim fall on deaf ears.

Women are a source of birth, a channel of giving life. They are sent to do God’s work by bearing and raising generations. This is a social issue that demands attention at grass-root levels. It is important that parents raise sons to respect women on a general level, not restricted to just their sisters and daughters.

As for all the men out there, learn to accept and respect ‘no’ as an answer when a woman says it.

Learn to accept and respect ‘no’ as a choice when she gestures it because she damn well means it.

Zainab Mansoor

Zainab Mansoor

The author is based in Dubai and is a contributor to multiple publications. She is a blogger, mother, food junkie and avid reader. She tweets @zzainabmansoor (twitter.com/zzainabmansoor)

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Duah

    Pakistan society needs a social revolution, sorry to burst the bubble there are mothers of horrible rapists who side with their sons, and hide his sins. In face of the cruel, inhumane treatment meted out to women, children and vulnerables in Pakistan by its patriarchal society, only God is keeping us going as a country. Shame on us women for giving birth to rotten men like this rapist.Recommend

  • ovais

    I agree with you , it really hurts me when i hear about a guy raping a samll child ( 3 – 13years) . I know there is no logic to raping a mature girl but a child is way more sick. It greaves me way way more then 1000s that die everyday in pakistan. cause this is just plain sick. Whenever i see this news it makes me sickRecommend

  • TSil

    ”Women or girls are not an object of recreation, a source of offering short-lived entertainment.”

    That’s not how they are portrayed in the media, television , commercials etc.
    and just type porn in google and see where the men are getting their inspiration from..

    My sympathies with the child and the killers should be hanged to ensure justice. But this is a reactionary step.. The proactive step is to stop the programming of men and the commodification of women.

    And this has to be led by women.Recommend

  • Humza

    I think your blog is only telling us the obvious – only deranged people rape children and they should be made to face justice. You hear about child abuse and rape of children on a daily basis all over the world. At least the Catholic Church has finally taken steps to punish the decades long abuse of boys and children by priests all over Europe and North America. I am glad that the new pope Francis has spoken out against this scourge.Recommend

  • Shail Arora

    It goes deeper than morals ma’am, it’s got more to do with a twisted psyche and doesn’t have an easy fix. Speedy trials and harsh punishments can prove to be a deterrent and bring such incidents down, which requires strong willed administrators. At the same time, it’s also important to have fair investigations so that such laws are not misused to settle personal scores or seek leverage (there are such cases here in India).Recommend

  • Shoaib

    Several rape cases in
    Islamabad, Punjab and elsewhere were reported during the last five years of a
    democratic government but not a single exemplary punishment was meted out. Some
    elected representatives did console the rape victims, donated lakhs of rupees
    at public expense, but then forgot all about them once they were done with the
    photo sessions and the media publicity. Consequently, rapes are being reported
    as a matter of routine whereas the victims are CM Punjab be kind enough to
    spare some time for these unfortunate daughters of Pakistan, monitor progress
    on rape cases in the lower courts and punish those responsible for delay or
    obstruction of justice?Recommend

  • Mukhtaran

    Fruits of Hollywood & Bollywood. Why to cry?

    endoftheamericandream.com/archives/21-signs-that-u-s-public-schools-have-become-training-centers-for-sexual-deviancyRecommend

  • Fraz Naqvi

    Agree to every word of it…..its so unfortunate that such things happen in our society.. i don’t know y or how we have converted to sex perverts and mentally retarded bunch of idiots…. there is something drastically wrong in either our upbringing or the teachings or i don’t know may b in our genes…. and don’t forget its not only about women, we master this art in male child molesting as well…. Its really tragic n i don’t know where will it lead us to or how to stop it…. Respect for the author n v should raise more voices and also take some practical steps in this regard… Death penalty to Rapists and that too in public can be a good step i feel….Recommend

  • puzzled

    There is no excuse for an adult man raping a child and when it results in death of a child, then it is a murder. Penalty should be at least life in prison. These criminals should never ever be a free person ever. No, google does not cause it or anything on the internet, and it is not because these men were not taught morals when young. These are criminals and criminals are in every society and they should be behind bars. And why end the article with when woman says no. There are so many articles written by women on child rape and they end with when a woman says no it means no. Yes, it does but a child rape is much more worse than that. If you start with child rape, please focus on that only. Write a separate article on women rape.Recommend

  • Naim Asghar

    I completely agree to your argument to consider these “psyche twisted” rapists as a group of people with serious morbid mental condition.A condition which should be approached with some degree of medical research and the subsequent treatment.Because the likelihood of these people having a past exposure to violence and sexual abuse is very high.The means of contact tracing should be involved in order to get rid of this menace from the society.Solving this matter demands two pronged measures,one is treating the victim,second is the digging deep to the culprit’s mental health issues.Then only can this disease of rape and getting raped be cured.Recommend

  • Y. Ali Khan

    A blog post that states the obvious. How ground-breaking.Recommend

  • Asif

    Many of the rapes that happens in villages or rural areas are not because of men watching television, commercials, or using internet!!! So no, those animals are not getting their inspiration from anywhere except their own messed up dirty mind. We need to stop transferring any part of the blame from those filthy animals.Recommend

  • Nobody

    What exactly do Hollywood and Bollywood have to do with anything? Get off your high horse and stop pointing fingers of blame elsewhere.Recommend

  • https://www.facebook.com/shail.arora.589 Shail Arora

    There is a difference between consensual sex, which is the premise of the article you’ve shared versus forced/aggressive behavior, which is being talked about here. It’s like comparing apples to oranges.Recommend

  • ptr

    People in small villiages have television, commercials, etc. and most importantly porn is very easily available. This is one factor which can be denied or ignored.Recommend

  • Zainab

    I totally beg to differ with a few comments here – there is absolutely NO justification for assaulting a girl. Although, on a different level, I agree that the media has made a woman stand out as a luring object, that is not a justification to force yourself – physically or otherwise, on a woman. If during an event, a woman is asking you to back off, you should damn well, back off.

    How sick a society to we inhibit that we are actually finding justifications for the acts of rapists? We are looking to find excuses on somehow neutralizing the blame game? YOU CANNOT FORCE A WOMAN AGAINST HER WISHES ; How difficult a concept is that to understand dude?Recommend

  • abubakar

    They’re not only morally rotten but they also have psychological issues, a normal person can only have paternal feelings towards an eight year old childRecommend

  • So true

    Agreed. He’s a gentle revolutionary.Good man.Recommend

  • So true

    Agreed. He’s a gentle revolutionary.Good man.Recommend

  • imran takkar

    In such cases the responsibility falls on the state so state should respond with responsibility to protect children from all kind of abuse and exploitation.Recommend

  • Guest

    “The proactive step is to stop the programming of men and the commodification of women.”

    I agree.

    I’ve heard/read that scores of virgin women are the eternal ‘reward’ for great men. The root of this ‘programming’ was not primarily in commercials, media and definitely not porn. I’m not so sure if we can address this source of commodification of women.Recommend

  • Guest

    Protecting children is primarily the responsibility of parents, unless you want the state to monitor every parent in every home.Recommend

  • raj

    why parent or why state should do that. By that, a time would come when we won’t let our children move freely. Is that the freedom we took years ago? Its the proper educational system that is lacking. People should be given proper education about the consequences of such crimes and then state should follow it with strict measuresRecommend