“Badshaho, we saw you kissing the girl”: To make a quick buck, the police will accuse you of anything

Published: January 20, 2014
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I don’t think I will ever be able to roam around freely outside. I am afraid of the very people who are supposed to protect me. PHOTO: REUTERS

Going out with friends was a simple routine for me. It never bothered me whether I was going out with guys or girls since I never thought it to be much of an issue. However, in just one encounter, the Pakistani police taught me all the things that can go terribly wrong while going out with male friends.

It was just another day when I went out with two of my friends from university. One of them was driving while the other sat in the front passenger seat and I took the backseat. We drove to a café located on main road, bustling with traffic and parked in front of a roadside café. The server came and we ordered juices. It was a café frequented by many and hence, there were other people present as well, sitting in cars around us.

We were handing our empty glasses back to the server and settling the bill, when six policemen on three motorcycles appeared out of nowhere and stopped us. I was really confused and wondered if we had done something wrong or unlawful. The only thing that came to my mind was that perhaps, we had taken a wrong turn.

They told us to stop the car and asked my friends to step out. In order to lighten the mood, we started teasing my friend, who had been driving,

“Who gave you a driving license? You should go back to driving school.”

Amidst this light banter, both my friends stepped out of the car. While one of them began to explain how we had mistakenly made the wrong turn, one of the policemen yelled at him,

“We saw what you guys were doing in the car!”

My friends looked at each other in bewilderment and then, one of them – in a voice laden with frustration and indignation – asked,

“Excuse me? What exactly are you trying to imply?”

In a heavy Punjabi accent, one of the policemen sarcastically replied,

Badshaho! Hun aay vi assi dassiya?

(Your highness, you want us to tell you that as well?)

My friend persisted and repeated his question. And now the other policeman, who had remained silent until now, came forward and said,

“We saw you kissing the girl.”

I felt my mind going numb at their accusations. I wanted to jump out of the car and protest that these boys were just like my brothers. But then I calmed myself down and thought that it was probably more prudent to stay silent and listen to their exchange.

My friends did not say a word for a while. The policemen’s accusations had shocked them as well.  However, eventually, one of them broke the silence and said,

“Do you even know what you are saying? Are you in your senses?”

To this, one policeman shot back,

“Yes! We swear to God, we saw you people kissing.”

Although I knew that I had not done anything wrong, I was still shivering. These so-called protectors were accusing me of something that I had not done. I took out my cell phone and thought of calling my parents. One of my friends walked over to the car and seeing the state that I was in, tried to calm me down.

“We are handling it, don’t worry.”

He went back to the policemen and said,

“I have the Quran with me in the car. How about you take an oath on it to prove that you guys saw us kissing?”

On hearing this, two of the policemen immediately took a step back, while the expressions on the faces of the rest changed from smug satisfaction to slight indecisiveness.

After a few moments, one of them came forward and said,

“We shall not do any such thing. Either come with us to the police station or we can resolve the issue here, in a ‘friendly’ manner.”

My friend asked, in a sarcastic tone,

“And what exactly do you mean by a ‘friendly’ way?”

One of the policemen replied in an annoyed voice,

“You know very well what we mean.”

The arguments carried on for a while until one of my friends decided to call his cousin, who happened to be a police officer. He handed the phone to the policemen and after talking to this officer, the policemen agreed to let us go, without any further discomfort.

I shudder to think how this situation would have unfolded if my friend had not called his cousin. We were not willing to give them any ‘friendly’ bribe and had we continued to resist, God knows what those policemen would have done to us.

As we all sat in silence on the way back, only one thought kept going around in circles in my head – would I ever be able to go out with my friends again?

And the only answer that echoed back was ‘No’.

I was truly traumatised by this event. We all talk about how our roads are no longer safe but to actually experience a situation such as this leaves one quite shaken and shattered.

And the sad irony is that our police force itself is a major cause behind this lack of security and safety. They are out there, hunting down innocent civilians for their own motives; to make quick money.

I do not think I will ever be able to roam around freely on the streets of my city – not anymore. After my encounter with our police force, I am fearful of its corruption and harassment.

Since that day, my own city has become a little more daunting and disturbing.

Fatima Tarar

Fatima Tarar

A student of Mass Communication at BNU, she intends to work as a reporter in electronic media in the future.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • AYL

    The best thing youth can do is to take part in affairs of the state and society: Join Police, Civil Service, Media and be active and change the culture. Easy way out is to hide or leave the country.Recommend

  • Salman Arshad

    The police were doing the right thing in the wrong way, as always!
    They should have respectfully arrested the three of you for violating Islamic injunctions. If their accusations were lies, that should be contested in court.

    You are right, harassment should never be allowed.Recommend

  • Pro Bono

    You asked for trouble ….in clear simple wordsRecommend

  • Hisham

    Hahaha. Once again the comments section… that’s where the real entertainment is. wow.Recommend

  • J.R

    This makes me angry. I am very sorry to hear how you feel like you cannot go out with your friends anymore. I wish you wouldn’t give them what they want, to frighten you. The common man has to face harassment like this everyday, and it is so upsetting!Recommend

  • https://www.facebook.com/shail.arora.589 Shail Arora

    A very interesting point and I’ve often wondered if it’s even possible to change the system from within, considering that the rot runs pretty deep.Recommend

  • Wali

    These sick idiots in Police need to get a kick on their asses and Please !!! these are not your protectors. They pay huge amount of money to get these jobs in Police and beat marrit system right there which is their 1st Crime even before joining Police. Do you think a person who has paid 5-10 lacs or even more to get a job in Police would ever be worried about your Protection? He is merely there to recover his Money and make profit on his investment no matter what it takes .. your pride, your dignity or your self respect. You are lucky you were “Caught” with your friends and not with your real blood brothers. This is as disgusting as it sounds!Recommend

  • Azazel

    Fatima Tarar does not understand that she is in the ISLAMIC Republic of Pakistan. Consequently, she should expect religious opportunism, because hypocrisy is directly related to (apparent) religious observance. Even if you do nothing wrong Islamically, opportunists will use religion to back you in a corner, hold you hostage and get things done from you. Shaming someone’s honour or reputation, even if it is made up, is a very powerful weapon in a conservative and closed society.Recommend

  • Akif Abbas

    I think youth should have to combine their voices in these concerns and make them as loud as possible.. If we see something wrong going on in the road we should first quickly investigate the case and then support the innocent ones against the Police harassment and I have occasionally tried it practically… It works..Recommend

  • Truth Monster

    Did you file a report against the unruly and corrupt policemen? You left them scott free to victimize someone else with impunity.

    And you have tried to paint the whole dept. with the same brush. “The police”..really?
    Did you friend’s policeman friend file a departmental complaint against a crime he is witness to?
    As a reporter, you should not be biased. I hope you learnt that in Journo 101.Recommend

  • sdc

    the entire force needs to be revamped!
    in other countries we are protected but in our own we afraid of the police and what might happen if called for help!Recommend

  • Guest

    Respectfully sir, I beg to differ with your first statement. According to hadith, “Actions are judged by intentions”. And I doubt that those officers cared about Islamic injunctions in the least. Had Islam been on their mind, they would have known what it means to slander a woman, and that too, for money. So I’m sorry, the question of doing the right thing in the right way would only be relevant if the whole accusation would not have been a lie.
    Rest assured, I agree, harrasment should never be allowed.Recommend

  • Guest

    Brother/Sister, I’m sorry but nothing gives anyone the right to slander another person. I wear a hijab and my principles don’t allow me to hang out with na-mehram males but I still think those policemen had no business conjuring embarassing lies about these people out of thin air.
    I understand that you might have this sister’s best interests at heart and want her to know that certain situations predispose one to falling victim to the evils of Eastern society but wouldn’t it be better to say it in a way that wouldn’t hurt her even more than she already is? Sometimes, what you call ‘clear, simple words’ do more damage than they can prevent.Recommend

  • Waseem Sarwar

    Very sad to hear this incident but it usually takes ages to change the attitude of such a horrible institute. Frankly speaking, my personal experience with police has been very good in last few years. I haven’t seen them stopping any car/bike if there is any lady sitting on that.. I was travelling from my home town to Lahore in morning today in intense fog and on my way, i saw 2 policemen standing in extreme cold at 4 am warning drivers that there is a sugarcane truck struck in middle of the road so be extra careful to avoid any mishap. I mean who ever thought these policemen would do such “moral things”. I know its very disturbing and awkward situation for a girl but not every policemen is same.Recommend

  • TBS

    I am really surprised that just three people felt moved on this issue to post comments. Just shows how anesthetized our humane senses have become. It shames me to be called a Pakistani, when a young girls and boys are traumatized in such manner by the custodians of law and order and our society remains mute. It also shocks me that people can turn around and be so callous as to remark, ‘you asked for it’. It amazes me when people talk of Islamic injunctions and wonder if they have indeed ever bothered to carry out an in-depth study of our religion or Islamic jurisprudence. Miss Tarar, my commiserations for the indignity a daughter of our nation had to suffer at the hands of highwaymen in uniform and the lack of sensitivity and sensibility of our compatriots. One does not need to wonder why we are abhorred among the fraternity of nations and why we reek of scum from the sewage.Recommend

  • J T

    Yes, harassment should never be allowed. But harassment derived from outdated religious tenets is halal. Keep it up, brother.Recommend

  • AYL

    I have done just that…I am part of the system myself…part of Bureaucracy. I think i can do certain good things and i do it routinely. I cannot change the whole country but at least i am nice to all fellows that come to me. It works.Recommend

  • Icarus9090

    Ah, the famous Pakistani ‘Puls’(Police) at its best. I do sympathize
    with you, as I have been through multiple such satiations with them for myself
    and/or trying to help my friends. Police have even asked for my Nikha nama
    (marriage certificate) while travelling with my sister!

    I feel that moral policing goes up during any PML government, and down during PPP. This has been true for over 20 years of observance. It has no justification, just a sad state of where our country is heading.Recommend

  • Qasim

    What the policemen did was wrong indeed. However, let me burst your bubble, no non mehram guy is ‘like’ your brother. He might act as one so you are not intimidated by him and he stays close to you as he enjoys female companionship just like any other guy. Take it from a guy.Recommend

  • This is truly very unfortunate, and I am sorry you faced the harassment and exploitation our police uses as just another means of income. I and my friends have had this happen to us multiple times in Lahore.

    That said, you’ll be able to recover from the trauma only when you can truly understand what happened: the police uses the threat of arrest in cases of real or imagined so-called social crimes like alcohol or sex to earn bribes. They are seldom interested in actually making arrests since that has fairly high transaction costs even for them.

    Unfortunately, until we can get our national philosophy right and decriminalize natural aspects of personal behavior, you’ll just have to carry some cash around and not lose your nerve the next time around. It’s really just like bargaining for goods or services in the market: the more you feel like you don’t have an option, the higher the price you’ll have to pay. Keep your calm, pay them off (or call on a connection), and then highlight the experience like you did here or do something about it in your own life so we can begin to make incremental progress in the right direction. Don’t actually stop living!Recommend

  • Parvez

    HOW ?Recommend

  • Parvez

    Its a tough world out there……….don’t let small incidents like this, that really mean nothing, get you down.Recommend

  • AnOpinion

    Solution : Is kissing in public, inside a car, a penal offense in Pakistan ? The corrupt police officers are just taking advantage of a corrupt law.Recommend

  • Omar Qadir

    Dear Writer: The experience you had to face is called Sexual Harassment. Sexual harassment has many forms and shapes and the woman of the world in general and in Asia in particular are suffering from it. I can never make up to you for your loss, however I shall try to motivate you as you are the change of this society. A girl with infanticide (in Asia) to a victim of Pedophile (Developed Countries let alone the Developing ones), faces many forms of abuses. The Incident that has happened with you, (although a very sensitive one) is just a little puddle in this entire journey of life. As many of my friend commentators have suggested, You take this threat and turn it in to opportunity, by highlighting (as you did) these issues of our developing society. Furthermore, you should focus on your studies and May Allah bless your dream to be a Journalist, You should be the voice of other all girls and woman of Pakistan.

    P.S. Do not stop going out and enjoying your life like you used to do before this had happened, you have done nothing wrong and be proud of that.Recommend

  • Kublai

    After all, this is the most corrupt and dangerous country
    in the world. Though this is shocking, people do not realize
    the enormity of the corruption,cravenness,and sheer criminality
    of the police. Until you become a victim. Be thankful that you
    were not kidnapped for ransom. For as low as Rs.5000. All
    with the aiding and abetting of the police. If not paid, …they shoot
    you dead…. No witnesses.Recommend

  • PakiyonkiMkaa

    kissing is unislamicRecommend

  • M. Tarar

    A mind numbingly simplistic piece without any nuance!
    The author herself is a part of the same convulated system she is griping about. The “my friend called his cousin’s uncle’s grandson’ nephew to get me out of a tricky situation” is precisely the kind of attitude that has landed us where we are today as a country waiting to implode.

    Oh, and by the way, as opposed to your heavily accented Pakistani English, my pretentious Ms. Tarar, the policeman was actually speaking Punjabi which is a language, not an accent nor a dialect! Recommend

  • Faisal

    Well, when you are inducted into these services, you are young…. you change afterwards.Recommend

  • Necromancer

    A women needs a mehram to roam outside of his house……….and I am pretty sure you were not wearing a shuttlecock burqa……these are two offences you committed and that is punishable by 80 lashes in public as per constitution of Saudi Arabia….:PRecommend

  • Faraz Talat

    Meanwhile, a terrorist took a leisurely drive through Islamabad’s parliamentary zone for hours, open firing his weapon, screaming gibberish, and bringing the capital to a halt.

    But the police has bigger fish to fry: like ‘chappas’ on allegedly kissing couples, and shining a torchlight in my face at the barrier when I’m just trying to get to work.

    Thank you for keeping our streets safe from couples minding their own business.Recommend

  • Haider Ali

    Why isn’t the society growing to become normal? What’s wrong even if she was kissing or flirting? The hypocrisy of this nation is so overwhelming.Recommend

  • Ollie Raza

    Here is my 2 cents. You can do anything you want in this great Puristan of the world, if you have right connections. Other than that u are doomed. I know these cops will do anything to get money out of you, even rob u. So don’t stop go out, do whatever, just let someone with connections know. That is it! Same cops will.be courteaous to you beyond imagination.Recommend

  • abbas

    Looks like fake. The police i know would have happily taken oath on Quran.Recommend

  • Rizwan Khan

    That’s a really bad incident…our police culture can not be changed until good educated people join the police force.one thing is good here that you have written atleast to tell other people that it can happen with them as well…….Recommend

  • ZUB

    Well Fatima.T ,the best part of the article was
    Badshaho, we saw you kissing the girl”

    and Police walai not taking the “OATH”
    Well such experiences makes you strong & Naa-muraad.Recommend

  • ptr

    Believe me man the muhafiz force guys have nothing to do with Islam even remotely, they just want bribe they can settle for as low as aalo walay parathay from Liberty lahore’Recommend

  • ptr

    Police will never arrest you for this, they will ask for bribe and settle down. and please don’t drag Islam here’ police was asking for bribe and you know better how Islamic is that’Recommend

  • ptr

    This incident means that stay away from police they can humiliate you anytime any where they want to….. and they can use Islam as an excuse to blame you and then ask for bribe’Recommend

  • Safaidsuch

    There is no brother sister relation in islam except the real Ones… Because I have seen the extent of criminality in people now days that they call sister or brother in-front of people but in hidden…. censored…Recommend

  • ptr

    We are confused as a nation, no one know what to do next’
    for example if an accident happens people start beating the responsible person, no well defined rules are implemented or in practice to handle such incidents’

    Same goes for this, you allow girls & guys to hangout together or you totally ban it’ but don’t let these uniformed scumbags humiliate and harass common people of Pakistan.Recommend

  • ptr

    This is Pakistan, they got away without bribing that’s enough,Recommend

  • UzairH

    Qasim, I differ with you. As a male I’ve had female friends in university and work with whom the relationship was platonic. Of course there were other girls to whom I was attracted, and I did not claim a “brotherly” relationship. However to those with whom there was no attraction, just some shared interests as well as feeling of genuine friendship and care, it didn’t feel any different from my male friends. True, female friends are fewer in number, but they exist nonetheless.

    I guess it depends on how one looks at it. If one is forcing himself to accept the tribal religious belief that only _mahrams_ can have a platonic relation, then one is living yet another mind-forged manacle that prevents them from being true to themselves.Recommend

  • ptr

    At least they had a contact to call. Lots of people have no one to call in order to handle these circumstances, they have to face offensive remarks, humiliation and harassment by these INFERIORITY COMPLEX suffering police man.Recommend

  • Hanif

    First of all, sympathies to the lady. Completely understand the situation as I personally have been through this with my colleague. In the end, I had to bribe the policeman. As far as laws are concerned, after the Hudood Ordinance was repealed any woman and man are legally allowed to roam around. Its just that our society has not grown and Police seems to exploit that part.Recommend

  • sane

    That’s the reason policemen are killed on streets. But, they don’t take lessonRecommend

  • Faiz

    Did you presented your Id cards and your father name was same that’s wrong to stop you,,, but if you say namahram as brother…No legal status in islam and Pakistan… No one is brother and sister except real blood relation… Because I know people who start with this so called brother sister relationship and later on reached to Place where they said it was a mistake… Like saifali khan once replied to kareena kapoor baita.. Now both are husband wife…Recommend

  • Shail Arora

    That’s great and good luck to you, my friend. Hope that you are able to maintain the same zeal in the long run.Recommend

  • faiz

    will you allow your sister to go with some guy…be normalRecommend

  • Anwaar

    oye hoye….Recommend

  • AYL

    If you change afterwards and remain no good then we have no right to complain. I still believe good moral decent people retain part of these attributes even in the worst of conditions.Recommend

  • A Peshawary

    Fatima; you are a really courageous girl having shared this horrifying experience publicly. You should take these policemen to the task and bring them to justice.

    A PeshawaryRecommend

  • pissed citizen

    Punjab Police is rotten to the coreRecommend

  • Richie

    Have you ever visited saddar bazar here in Karachi? You will be raped from eyes. Is that also sexual harassment.Recommend

  • Naveed Sethi

    Well I just came to Karachi two months back and what I had in my mind after all what I heard or saw on TV, I had made up my mind that yes there are culprits moving there in Karachi but the biggest enemy to the people in Karachi is the POLICE itself. I may be hurting a few odd Police guys/ladies but this is the fact.

    What Fatima described is a serious ill. To be honest we as nation have failed. Today while having lunch we had a discussion on diet in which the topic surfaced that what did our Holy Prophet (PBUH) did not liked. The answer is Maida (a type of flour) but guys think toay what we eat the most are the things made from this “maida”.

    A thought like this to fetch out friendly bribes from innocent people is really disturbing and a shameful act.Recommend

  • Nauman

    A nice made up story line. The rest, God knows best.
    “Would I ever be able to go out with friends again” – Why not?
    Recommend

  • Nauman

    A nice made up story line. The rest, God knows best.
    “Would I ever be able to go out with friends again” – Why not?
    Recommend

  • AYL

    Its been ten years for now.. lets see what lies ahead.Recommend

  • AYL

    Its been ten years for now.. lets see what lies ahead.Recommend

  • Madiha

    Even if the case presented in this article was true, and the guy was actually kissed the girl, I wonder what the problem is?

    Islam should not be the factor here for the objection. Either we follow it completely or not be so hypocritical.
    STOP DISRESPECTING THE RELIGION!

    It’s so sickening and infuriating seeing such people having the power to abuse and bully the citizens.Recommend

  • What Went Wrong

    You know it’s funny but the policemen watching from back of the car through rear wind screen have thought you’re kissing a friend when they probably saw you leaning forward handing the empty glass / mug or doing anyother thing like turning the volume high or low, giving money or watching something on your friends phone etc. etc.

    The thing is: We all have certain factor of collective chayness in us that we sometimes exhibit. Forget whatever happened, go out and chill. When you’re living in a jungle you’ll face all sort of creatures :)

    PS: If this happens again, just feel free to scold the police wala. No need to go to thana etc. It’ll makea little tamasha or just give Rs. 20 – 50 and tell him to bugger off!Recommend

  • What Went Wrong

    You know it’s funny but the policemen watching from back of the car through rear wind screen have thought you’re kissing a friend when they probably saw you leaning forward handing the empty glass / mug or doing anyother thing like turning the volume high or low, giving money or watching something on your friends phone etc. etc.

    The thing is: We all have certain factor of collective chayness in us that we sometimes exhibit. Forget whatever happened, go out and chill. When you’re living in a jungle you’ll face all sort of creatures :)

    PS: If this happens again, just feel free to scold the police wala. No need to go to thana etc. It’ll makea little tamasha or just give Rs. 20 – 50 and tell him to bugger off!Recommend

  • Salman Latif

    What a crappy excuse to shut women inside their houses and oppress them. How about you? Never talked to a woman? Never seen one? And I suppose your piety must be so well as to force you to lower your gaze every single time you see a woman?
    Seriously, are you even from this planet?Recommend

  • Salman Latif

    What a crappy excuse to shut women inside their houses and oppress them. How about you? Never talked to a woman? Never seen one? And I suppose your piety must be so well as to force you to lower your gaze every single time you see a woman?
    Seriously, are you even from this planet?Recommend

  • Aazer

    An incident happened with me as well… I was parked outside a park in day light and could see ppl walking next to my car and some of them playing tennis in front of me. while i was talking to my female friend, suddenly i saw a police mobile in my rear view mirror which stopped right at the back of my car so that i could not reverse. and then they asked me to step outside, asked me stupid questions k larki kaun hai kya karahe the and blah… in the end they took about 2500 and let me go…Recommend

  • Aazer

    An incident happened with me as well… I was parked outside a park in day light and could see ppl walking next to my car and some of them playing tennis in front of me. while i was talking to my female friend, suddenly i saw a police mobile in my rear view mirror which stopped right at the back of my car so that i could not reverse. and then they asked me to step outside, asked me stupid questions k larki kaun hai kya karahe the and blah… in the end they took about 2500 and let me go…Recommend

  • sir

    Most of Us Blame on others, No Doubt that those police men did wrong with false accusation but what were you doing ? How was Your Dressing? Is this in our culture or Islamic rules that you are allowed to go with guys having no Blood relation ….. Yes We must struggle for Change but in better way, Following Islamic Rules and easiness to all community as well with self esteem…… We give them chance to point finger at Us otherwise they are servant not our rulers….Recommend

  • sir

    Most of Us Blame on others, No Doubt that those police men did wrong with false accusation but what were you doing ? How was Your Dressing? Is this in our culture or Islamic rules that you are allowed to go with guys having no Blood relation ….. Yes We must struggle for Change but in better way, Following Islamic Rules and easiness to all community as well with self esteem…… We give them chance to point finger at Us otherwise they are servant not our rulers….Recommend

  • observer

    Pity this country, pity the people, murders are allowed, bombing is allowed, kidnapping is allowed, terrorism is allowed, but kissing is not. When we have created a very warped nation, with warped mindsets, a very warped culture, then simply live with it. When we have all the misplaced values, all the wrong priorities, what is there to expect.Recommend

  • Khan

    “these boys were just like my brothers.”

    HAHAHAAHAH BROZONED.Recommend

  • Parvez

    Exactly…….and good of you to spell it out.
    Now that you have done so don’t you think it’s better to understand what it is and respond accordingly .Recommend

  • sonia

    Police should harras the men who urinate in Public :/ It is extremely offensive and disgusting.Recommend

  • pakone

    There is a law in Pakistan that clearly states that a man and woman travelling in a car cannot be asked for “nikah nama”. Your friend should have told the “cop” about that law and asked him to take all to their thana where we could ask his superior, umm whats the charge please? Then see how they all would have said, oho, she is like a sister to us yaar. Sorry! I’ve done this twice when I am with female friends in the car and its worked each time. And stop harping on Islam Islam Islam non-stop – people here including police, and every other person indulges in things that are beyond any rule of Islam but pretend to be holier than thou the next day! There is a reason why secular states thrive and theocratic states are in deep doo doo!Recommend

  • waqar

    Amateur writing – according to our system (It is very natural here), Deal with it – It is just a small consequence of unstable society. Although good writing skills, but, thought & observation matters.Recommend

  • Fahad

    Awesome Advice ! Its the illiterate that are ruining this institution, probably would be better if slightly literate lot gets in and changes the atmosphere.. Company does matter btw..Recommend

  • Hahaha

    Highwaymen in uniform … Lol ..Recommend

  • The ugly truth

    Politically incorrect pathetic,statement.
    But sadly true in content,about the hidden intentions of guys who stay close to pretty girls,in the guise of ‘bhai jaisa’.
    I have seen this come true,dozens of times.Recommend

  • Hammad Ansari

    HAHAHAHAHAHA !! :DRecommend

  • effi

    Pathetic! One shouldn’t expect any kind of sane behavior from Punjab Police. They patrol to get such cases to receive some bribes from. You could speak out louder on them to teach them a lesson for life.Recommend

  • Yar Khan

    A friend of mine (female) was on way to university in public transport i.e taxi which is a regular means of transportation in peshawar. She was stalked countinuosly by a police van for half the way even when she stopped by a book shop, one police constable came up to her and asked where she was going and why she explained she is in way to university showing her university id card, the police van stayed even after the inquiry by the constable and that was when she realised they were actually following her and suspecting her of God knows what, while giving weird looks, she panicked and had to call a male relative who lived near by to come and help her in the ugly situation she had on hand. When the relative male reached the spot and inquired as to what was wrong the police upon seeing him approached both and arrested them with out saying any thing and took them to the local police station accusing them of being on a date with the guy in shock asking the SHO that he came to the place after the police was harrassing the uni student, and the police seeing him come. They were threatened with being given to the media with a accusation of then being indulged in un-islamic relation and harassed further by the consequences in the constitution for such indulgence by a male and a female alone all to gain a couple.of.thousand bucks from the two. While being in complete shock on the turn of events and the awkwardness of the situation the two demanded to contact their family and giving out the details after an hour of discussion between the policemen they were released with the warning that they should see them together again.

    One just cant digest the tactics used by police to earn money *Disgusting
    P.s this in september 2013Recommend

  • amit

    why does his sister need to be allowed. if she is an adult she does not need his permission to go out with any friend. I am sure he does not ask for permission from his sister.Recommend

  • Ahmed

    LOL at “be normal”.

    Such hypocrisy is ingrained in our nation. Every guy I know has fooled around, but even mention a “sister” doing something and they go apeshit insane.Recommend

  • Ahmed

    Well put. In most cases, they’re just trying to feed their families. Low salaries, no recognition and the constant threat of being killed in an encounter or terrorist attack.

    Granted they have no right to act as the morality police or extort from people, but they do deserve a break.Recommend

  • Ahmed

    Ho hoy. Why didn’t anyone teach me that in school? You just invalidated my nikah and that of millions of couples.Recommend

  • Ahmed

    No, you should be pity. Murder, bombing, kidnapping and terrorism is to serve Islam and justified in every way. Mashallah Brother. Recommend

  • sajjad

    Those pooer people can’t afford a bathroom. How will they afford to pay the Poolce? It’s a halal, sawab and obligatory act, madam. Also, if they don’t urinate, they’ll develop infections or their bladder will explode and they will definitely die. Then who will support their families? Will you hug little Bubloo and tell him his father had to die simply because you felt disgusted stepping into his pee and couldn’t appreciate the aromas wafting up from his work of art?Recommend

  • Ahmed

    Yes, we should separate men and women completely. They cannot be trusted at all. I have an idea. Let’s just have 3 provinces instead of the current divisions. 1 for married people, 1 for single males and 1 for single females.Recommend

  • Ahmed

    Criminality. Hahaha. Well there are people who claim to be husband and wife in front of people, but in hidden…. nothing to be censored. What’s your point?Recommend

  • DFL

    Thats very true!!! The only problem is what’s the solution. Pakistan operates like a jungle. There is no law and order. Should civilians start taking law in hand? Should such policemen be beaten by the public. I have experienced the same thing and it made me wonder what is the solution? Are we that helpless and hopeless? We cant find any solutions to such things?Recommend

  • Oats

    Not just Pakistan but all Muslim countries. A female colleague of mine just got back from Cairo and she experienced the same behaviour from Arab policemen but worse. Not only did they they stop her to demand money but they fondled her and made sexual advances. These men should be ashamed of themselves. We should all keep cameras on when we deal with the police or any official in a Muslim country.Recommend

  • oats

    The fewest acts of crime including terrorism take place in Punjab so you should revisit your assertion. A few bad apples should not taint the entire police force. Incidentally, would the behaviour of the policemen be any worse if they spoke in a thick Hindustani accent? We all know more abuse of women including rape goes on daily in India where the police is also accused of such acts. The author makes a point of noting the Punjabi accent of the policemen but what about the corrupt people of other accents? Shame on the writer for causing hatred against one majority race in Pakistan when her name is itself Tarar ( Punjabi). People should be more responsible when they write in Pakistan so as not to create bad impressions of any group. In India do they always negatively portray one group in the police even though the police there is more corrupt and speak mostly in Hindi / Urdu accents?Recommend

  • Nobody

    So you speak for every guy in the entire country?Recommend

  • Nobody

    Ahhh and there it is. The tired sister/daughter/mother/wife sentiment.

    What makes you think every girl needs her brother’s permission before going out?Recommend

  • Qasim

    Salman, Did I make any such claims about myself or my piety?Recommend

  • Qasim

    Also, I don’t want women to be shut in houses or be oppressed, where are you even getting all this from? I just don’t want young girls and women to be deluded.Recommend

  • Qasim

    I agree that in some cases where there is no attraction from either side, a platonic relationship can exist, however women should still be careful before they think that yeh toh mere bhaiyon jaisa haiRecommend

  • Ibn-Arastoo Ibn-aflatoon Ibn-B

    You need to go into law and then help construct a new society which does not criminalize acts of love. If you cannot do that then just move out of the Islamic lands. Just remember that when you come to the west don’t try to force everyone to follow Islam please.
    Our enemies rejoice when we cannot even talk to our women (due to gender based segregation and veiling). As we are seeing some of our misguided people work against us and hurt our own fellow Muslims by preventing them from getting a good life: wealth, education, love and friendship and companionship. I recall once a Turkish girl wanted to hug me and this person who was a foreigner tried to prevent her telling her “you guys are Muslims right, don’t hug, you should wear a veil ! and why are you wearing a suit ? you should be wearing the gown from your own country”. There are some Indians for example who keep telling my relatives to stop studying Business and study “Islamic Finance”?!?! They are not even Muslims and they keep telling us to study some “Islamic” customs.

    Our people unfortunately are too ignorant to understand what is right and what is wrong. Just because the religion gives them a few petty magical power they think it is the greatest thing in the world. Meanwhile we are the poorest lands and our people have fallen behind the Chinese (who used to be poorer than us). The greatest wish of our enemies is to see us practice Islam apparently and this simple concept that our own religion is so wrong that it is hurting us is not understood by our own people. Such people should not be allowed to have a religion when they have a religion like this. May God have mercy upon us.Recommend

  • UzairH

    Then we are in agreement :) I know that quite often guys pretend to be platonic when they are really aiming for something else. That is a consequence of our closed society where young people are not allowed to form romantic relationships. If a young guy has a romantic relationship with a girl, he is not likely to attempt to have such a relation with every girl he knows. On the other hand a young adult deprived of all romantic love (which is but natural) is bound to have psychological issues when it comes to the opposite sex. He is very likely to view all young females as potential love interests.

    I am not judging our social system, just providing what I believe is the reason for the sexual harassment girls and women face In Pakistan.Recommend

  • Zahir

    Read his name.. Indians shall teach us islam nowRecommend

  • Citizen

    I did not see the author of the article till I done with reading it. And when I saw that the author was a female I was in socked for a couple of minutes. Damn our Police is worse than criminals roaming. Accusing a girl for such an act is shameful. I am not liberal by any means, but, in this society hanging around with friends at respectable places is not wrong. Yeah, if a girl roam around with a guy at rated R places she should be warned.Recommend

  • sterry

    You obviously don’t travel much in the world since the Pakistani police is nowhere near as bad as many other Third World countries, especially Arab states.Recommend