When ragging in hostels turns to sexual abuse

Published: May 20, 2013
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It was not the kind of ragging I could withstand. It was sexual harassment.

We reached the university hostel. My parents very were happy because I had been admitted in one of the top notch universities of Pakistan located in Punjab. It was the first time in my life that I was going to stay away from my home and I was petrified. 

I was accommodated with my seniors as there were no rooms available for freshmen. The first night, I could not sleep at all because the place was filthy and I couldn’t come to terms with the fact that I had to stay there for a long, long time.

The days that followed were terrible.

The first thing that comes to a freshman’s mind when they set foot in their university is the horrid thought of being ragged. The British tradition of ragging new students is unfortunately prevalent in Pakistani universities.

In certain universities, an official ‘Rag Day’ is observed where seniors ridicule newbies and ask them silly questions. This may be somewhat tolerable, however, the ragging which I experienced, was nothing short of a nightmare.

I was regularly sexually harassed by my seniors.

I have been depressed and traumatised. I had to take anti-psychotics as part of the recovery process. Even though, I have recovered now, the bitter memories still jolt me sometimes. Thus, I’ve decided that expressing my demons via writing is the best way to get closure, so let me narrate to you how I was routinely abused by my seniors.

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One evening, I was in my room with my senior, who was also my roommate, when a couple of guys came and took me with them. I wasn’t dressed properly and I had no idea where they were taking me, but they were so forceful that I was dragged along.

They took me to a room, much more horrifying and dirty than the room I was living in. There was also a desktop computer there.

“Have you set foot in adulthood?” asked one of them.

I was taken aback when he asked me this question. I didn’t reply. They laughed at my silent face and continued to ridicule me.

“You see that computer? Go there and open the paint application,” ordered the second guy.

They then asked me to draw obscene things and asked me vulgar questions.

I was confused and terrified. I wanted to sob in my mother’s arms, but I was away from home, sitting between two men who then went on to sexually harass me physically. They passed lewd comments while the torture continued. When I was finally released, I was a wreck.

I packed my bags and went home.

After a few days, I came back to my hostel. As soon as I stepped into my room, I saw a scary looking guy sitting with my roommate. He was looking at me in a strange way. He asked me my name and inquired about my background. Before leaving, he told me his room number and asked me to be there in 10 minutes.

Nausea overcame me again – nervous and confused about what was going on around me, I began to shake uncontrollably. My roommate told me to go to his room. He said this student would not hurt me like the other one did. With no real option, I went to his room.

The door was half opened. The lights were dim and I could not see properly. I knocked and he told me to come in. I was shocked to see what was happening inside the room. I was abused and sexually violated a second time.

It was an extremely upsetting experience that I cannot put into words.

I was weeping as I packed my bags and left for home once again in the middle of the night. I felt used and drained of all confidence. A part of me died that day and I have never been able to recover.

I did not tell anyone at home about what was happening to me because I was terrified of my father. I made up a story, telling them I was feeling sick and felt the need to be home. But I had to return eventually, every time.

This shameful course went on for almost three months.

This  was not ragging at all – it was torture of the most cruel kind.

The whole year was hell for me, as you can well imagine. I could not study properly. I was constantly petrified, scared of even my own shadow. Eventually, I was debarred from taking university examinations for three months.

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The sad truth of it is that I am not the first victim, nor the last. This form of ragging is routine and happens to many new students who go to hostels. Most newcomers avoid staying at their hostels during the first three months. They have to resort to renting flats or small houses near the university and stay there until the dust of ‘ragging’ settles.

Mind you, it isn’t that the authorities are unaware. I, myself, opened up about the things that happened to me to the Physiology Department Head. Yes, she felt very sorry for me, but nothing was done. No action was taken and the same boys continued to sexually abuse many more after me and then the victims turned into the abusers, and the vicious cycle goes on.

Still, no action has been taken against horrible acts of ragging despite reporting it several times. It has ruined the lives of many students and will continue to do so, because there is no check and balance in hostels; the do’s and don’ts only exist on paper.

Today, I am still in the same university, continuing my education. I have gone through a lot, this even resulted in me being diagnosed with depression. I hope to recover fully one day and till then I am trying to look at the brighter side of things.

My reason for writing this blog?

Take action against those animals who rape innocent students and call it ‘ragging’. Punish the authorities – punish them severely because they know full well the reason behind students’ trauma and choose to ignore it.

Kill this tradition of ragging before it destroys the lives of more students.

Do you think ragging in schools and universities is a dangerous tradition?

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Umer Muhammad

Umer Muhammad

A medical student at the top public university of Pakistan. The author wishes to remain anonymous. An alias has been used instead of his real name.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Abdul Basit

    This is very common in our hostels.Men raping other men,but then these same men are the ones who spew the most hate against gays and lesbians.They don’t regard themselves as gay as long as they’re doing the raping.
    Sadly,in a culture like ours which vaules machismo,not many men will ever report to the police of their rapes because the rapists will never be punished but instead the raped guy will be humiliated by our society.Recommend

  • Bisharat

    “I had been admitted in one of the top notch universities of Pakistan located in Punjab”

    Please name the university openly so that people can know about it. Why choose to not include the name if you want action taken against the university? Recommend

  • Zafar khan

    The rapes of newcomers by the senior boys has been going on for many decades.It’s brushed under the carpet and we cut off conversations about it.we need to come out of denial and face upto reality.Boys also get raped and abused in Pakistan but no human rights group raises its voice for their rights.
    Any man does not become any less of a man if he has been raped.The stigma against male rape victims must end in our society.Recommend

  • Bisharat

    “I had been admitted in one of the top notch universities of Pakistan located in Punjab”

    Please name the university openly. You should name it if you want action taken against it. Recommend

  • AZ

    Umer, I do not know you but I am SO proud of you for writing this article.

    Mind you, please do not be surprised if the comments that follow below would accuse you of doing this to ‘get attention’, ‘creating fake stories’ (because ‘we have spent college years in punjab universities and none of this stuff happens’). Do not listen to them.
    They do this because they are ignorant and want to appear to have superior in knowledge.

    Anyone who reads this and DOES write what i wrote above- you cannot know everything that goes on, just because you did not see something does not mean it did not happen.

    I will pray that something definitive comes out of your article. Recommend

  • Anon93888

    Unfortunately these stories are pretty common at our colleges and universities… and administration doesn’t seem to bother much about it. Perhaps we should now start mentioning the names of these ‘prestigious’ universities to enlighten the prospective students and parents.Recommend

  • zullu

    well you haven’t described what actually they did to you……i have been through the ragging as well when it used to be in its peak in late 90s……although in the start i also was totally traumatized and afraid as well but all the seniors who did this ragging became v good friend of mine and i really enjoyed the uni life….i think you need to grow up and face it like a man…. Recommend

  • Zahra Haroon

    This indeed is a brave step Umer, Super Proud of you. If these sick people cannot be controlled by the university administrations, then I believe the students themselves should form a task force.

    Recommend

  • Tipu

    Let me start by naming Ayub Medical college and sexual nature of ragging. Is our principal listening ? Recommend

  • Khanzada

    @ admin

    Why dont you guys do some thing about it..

    do a show and arrest them Recommend

  • ragged

    what i dont understand is that those seniors were what 4 years older than you…..and you were an adult…i mean a part of me doesnt believe you.. they call u to their rooms and sexually harass you…this doesnt just happen..i mean where was the administration.
    i was ragged very badly in my uni…it was horrific but after sometime i started missing the good old ragging days..n trust me in my uni the seniors didnt make us sing silly songs or whatever…we werent allowed any sleep and we had to stand in scorching sun for hours but it was fun…none of them sexualy harrassed us..n i studed in all boys uni…but never heard of any story like yours….i feel sorry that it happened to you…but if it were to hppen to a minor i would have understood but u were an adult…cmonRecommend

  • Hardliner

    Really hard to believe this………… but yes, if it happened, it needs to be curbed down……. I know most hostelites do silly thing, but this is beyond imagination……………….Recommend

  • Khanzada

    Umer why dont you file a case against them …

    Would be good for not only you but for others as well …
    Bring them infront of Media ..

    @ Express new channel
    Please do some thing about itRecommend

  • Muhammad Ziad

    Man up and face them. Don’t be an easy prey and fight them. In the end it is hunt or be hunted , and this is true for human beings since the dawn of time. Sad to hear about your case, wish i could be there to help you.

    This is not ragging, it is sexual abuse which you should fight against. Mention Your uni and stay anonymous.Recommend

  • http://www.twitter.com/mfurqani Furqan

    Very bold step Umer; I felt sorry for you, however this is the responsibility of the administration of the University to protect the rights of the students.Recommend

  • http://www.baahirezaman.wordpress.com Ali Rahman

    I can understand the pain and frustration in this piece. If the author is following the comments here, let me just say if you shared it all to create awareness, well, everyone knows… its very common. Your wish is to take action… against whom? Your fear is very well appreciated and identity is respected. But what you request herein is not possible without setting examples. Please free free to contact me in case you actually wish to take action without being involved yourself…. All the best with your future… stay strong. Prayers and wishes are with you. my contact: [email protected]Recommend

  • Jamshed M

    well .. this is an old practice started from cadet colleges and boarding schools .. seniors who sexually abuse their juniors are most probably the one who get sexually abused when they were juniors.. unfortunately hostel wardens are also involved in this corrupt practices. they give free hand to their blue eyed guys to sexually abuse anyone they want and in return they get money/drugs/alcohol and sexual satisfication .. Recommend

  • Danish

    Dear Mr.Author! Sue them for their heinous act.Recommend

  • p

    this too happened in our school to hostilities juniors, and in university where i studied there were also some cases that the seniors used to physically abused to the introvert guysRecommend

  • GhostRider

    @Author Since you are a senior there take action….You see these bullies are cowards, once you challenge the authority of biggest bully the rest run away. I dont know the situation in your university(political wings etc.) but if you really want to bring change find some like minded people and protest in front of dean’s office. I know I sound cliched but unless you want to change something you ll have to speak up and get heard.Recommend

  • rasha

    All i can say is its very brave of you to write this blog. Don’t feel its your fault and we are all with you.. such practices are against all moral and religious codes of conduct and such people should be taught a lesson. Don’t listen to anyone who says you were an adult etc.. the fact that you wrote this shows your strength of character. Do try to take it forward. if this is a regular practice we should have a special person dedicated in the universities who can address this. willing to support you in any such campaign Recommend

  • FAZ

    Feel sorry for you but I must say to all new commers is that in any such event be bold and aggressive. The reason it continued on for you was that you didnt resist. I know its difficult but do you have any other choice?Recommend

  • Aamna

    This is not just cruel ,its monstrous,a major sin .I think u have shown absolute bravery by writing it .Your depression is going to fade away because you took a step forward .Brother i think u should bring this into major highlight.The seniors should get punished and if one of them is going to ,others will learn there lesson . I wish you all the good luck in this world :). Recommend

  • m&m

    Before even reading the whole article , I’d like to suggest as a clinical psychologist , please seek EMDR therapy for your sexual trauma , seen sexual abuse & assault cases benrfiyting a great deal. Contact me for refferals. It will help you overcome the pain memories of the trauma.Recommend

  • silly ideas

    These allegations look to be baseless. Have never seen such things happening. Live in a top notch university hostel in Punjab, Lahore. Koi navi gal kro…Recommend

  • ratung

    and all this time when this was happening you didnt retaliate!!!seriously!!!???u cud hav gone to anybody!!to the principal atleast!

    ps..was never ragged since always found away to get away:pRecommend

  • Water Bottle

    Sexual abuse is the worst form of abuse.

    It is designed to make a person lose all self-respect.

    It probably happens in Indian hostels as frequently as in Pakistan.

    One difference, however, is, if one reports ragging to the police, it will be taken very seriously. Especially in the South Indian colleges.

    I hear North Indian colleges (In other words students) are a lot worse. I remember a North Indian friend telling me that almost every college student in North India at least has one physical fight with the class-mates.

    But then, as far as culture are concerned, North India is not any different than Pakistan.

    The worst part of it is, everyone knows about it. The teachers, the students, the police and the media and yet, nobody does anything.

    Sad. My suggestion to you, is to go to the police. Principals are usually mum about such things to protect his own reputation and that of the college. Go to the police. Hope the police will do something. Please don’t suffer in silence.

    Most of all, remember, this is not your fault in any way. You are a strong human being who was victimized. Don’t let this crush you.Recommend

  • kaalchakra

    This is the silliest thing we have heard. Bad things need to be stopped but no Muslim would do such a thing. If anybody engages in this pre-islamic cultural practice, the crime should be exposed.Recommend

  • http://blogs.tribune.com.pk/author/430/faraz-talat/ Faraz Talat

    You should’ve posted this blog anonymously, and named the university.

    There will be no difference to the way universities deal with inappropriate and excessive ragging, until we start publicly shaming such institutions for their gross negligence.Recommend

  • Historian 1

    I don’t believe this.Recommend

  • Asian guy

    Ragging is not a British concept and rarely happens in the uk however all students especially freshers are asked to get drunk as much as possible and behave as obscenely as possibleRecommend

  • danny boy

    Its unfortunate but a true depiction of many young pakistani guys …. how long are we going to fulifll our homosexual desires under the label of ‘fun’ or ‘ragging’? … the truth is these guys need to come out and accept their homosexuality … because the longer they keep it within the greater damage it will cause and people like the author will suffer.Recommend

  • Deep

    Ter is a very good movie on college hostel ragng named ‘Hostel’, if possible watch th movie. Wer shows how seniors rag nd later rape a junior student.Recommend

  • Mikaail

    You should’ve been man enough to draw a line. Everyone goes through ragging, and yes there are extremes as well but people always draw a line which seniors won’t cross cuz you’re not a puppet. You can always say NO, and if that doesn’t work leave, no one can force you, and if they do, report it to the principal. And don’t make ragging sound like a life-changing experience, it’s really not. Learn to stand up for yourself and stop blaming people. Recommend

  • Rangelic

    @ragged:
    Out of the 7 billion people in this world if you were lucky enough to not be raped or abused doesn’t mean RAPE DOESN’T HAPPEN . What does this have to do with being grown up ? I don’t think this guy thought he was about to get raped or had the time to think about another course of action. Recommend

  • Ronnie

    The very reason I resented my father not to send me to the university hostel. I remember when a friend of mine was ragged.
    They say that ragging makes a you a man and it helps you build confidence but this kind of sexual abuse is totally unacceptable. What kind of desperate loosers are we breeding in our schools and colleges? Atleast room mates should be of the same grade and no inter mingling of juniors and seniors in the same room.
    Recommend

  • Hamid Khan

    Several years ago, i applied for admission in a junior cadet college. The interviewer asked me a question about the matter under discussion. Besides, all candidates went through a medical exam. So, it is utter rubbish if someone claims that such incidents do not happen in Pakistan, or that the authorities are unaware.
    I am amazed that not even a SINGLE adviser told you to inform your parents. This is the only mistake that you did. If you are determined to fight, fight the embarrassment first and inform your parents. Otherwise, you shall keep looking for closure throughout your life.Recommend

  • Muhammad

    I really feel sorry for you and all those who have been suggesting to face it like a man are either naive or belong to the same class of ‘abusers’. Please do mention the name of your uni and expose the hypocrisy we Pakistanis are getting used to. Moreover try talking to your parents about it, if not your dad then your mom or somebody else who is saner. The scourge of sexual abuse and harassment needs to be dealt with iron hands! Write an application to the registrar Supreme Court maybe.Recommend

  • tooba

    I cannot believe this. This is absolutely pathetic. I am really sorry for what you had to go through.You took a brave step in disclosing this. My brother had to go through the same thing at a very prestigious school, at the hands of friends. except that the sexual harassment he suffered was subtle. Even though he was left damaged by it, he did eventually confide in my mum who then took action against those boys by complaining to the principal and the boy’s parents. I suggest if you haven’t already confided in your parents then you must do so. Its one way of taking action against such monsters. I really hope that with time Inshallah you are able to overcome your trauma and move on, and that severe action is taken against your university and those students.Recommend

  • Salman

    Ragging a British concept. Really? Your wide off the mark here mate!

    You endured 3 month’s of sexual abuse and chose to remain in the educational institution for a whole year?Recommend

  • Britpak

    Horrific.

    Those who are saying “fight back”, not everyone’s like you, and not everyone is in a position to fight back.

    Also some very intelligent comments here too. AZ is totally right.

    No one should be subjected to such things, AT ALL.

    Be open about where this is taking place. Total support from me.

    There must be zero tolerance for this, The guy writing this story has done nothing wrong. Some of the comments are totally in denial. This practice needs to be wiped out. That is the only solution. Recommend

  • Muhammad Waqar Razzaq

    Dear Editor,

    If you are trying to ignore the issue, it will never been stopped by this,.. Just a try, Put a small knife within dress worn,.. each and every time, when every who ever try to do like this with any of the reader here in future or presently reading this, are truly able to defend herself, either harm the sensitive parts of the opponents, or either yourself seriously to save your honor !

    Regards
    Well wisherRecommend

  • https://twitter.com/SanaaKhalid5 Sanaa Khalid

    Deeply disturbed. Goosebumps all over. Hope you get over this trauma…eventually you might be able to get over it. It’s a long and painful journey but you have taken the first step. Had no idea that such a thing did occur in the universities.

    So we are producing rapists in educational institutions. Moral degradation is what is happening in the society. To this degree, I had no idea. I commend you for being brave enough to write about it out in the open! These ragging monsters who treated you and others like rag dolls should be prosecuted and thrown into jail. sigh I wish I wish upon a falling star. Recommend

  • Author

    You can email me your concerns, I will try to address them via email. I can not address them on this platform. I hope you all understand.Recommend

  • assad

    @Bisharat:
    Its a rhetorical story. The author wrote: “The sad truth of it is that I am not the first victim, nor the last. This form of ragging is routine and happens to many new students who go to hostels.”Recommend

  • anothermedicalstudent

    are you talking about King Edward Medical University?Recommend

  • http://www.malesurvivor.org Christopher Anderson

    Your powerful testimony here helps to shatter the sigma, shame, and silence that keeps male survivors of abuse silent. Your words have been heard around the world.

    Please know that you are not alone, that what was done to you is not your fault, and that with hope and support, it is absolutely possible to heal. Speaking your truth is a powerful step along the healing path. Please continue to seek out the help you need.

    Christopher Anderson
    Executive Director
    malesurvivor (dot) org
    New York, NYRecommend

  • sehrish

    dear.
    this is the callous form of ragging, university and administration should take some action.
    but i have a question for you condemn this reprobate ragging but do you take any strong action.
    like help other fresher.Recommend

  • Rakshinda

    I want to apologize the author on behalf of bad luck that haunted him.
    Few months ago i wrote an article “Men- victims of violence” in JPMS
    Globally, the image of men is considered to be macho and somehow it is a taboo to see a man cry. This disturbingly awful trend should change.Recommend

  • Usman

    I have studied in University. Got friends in almost all universities and hostel.. THIS IS ABSOLUTELY FAKE .. i dun find any other reason than to make fun of PAKISTAN and tell the world how Dirty we are.. IF ITS TRUE>> NAME THE UNIVERSITY… I PROMISE TO PROVIDE YOU JUSTICE… common… Recommend

  • Minahil Akbar

    Umer, I’m so sorry to read about your experience. To say that it must have been very traumatic and a horrific encounter is an understatement. Please continue to seek medical help and counselling for you to overcome this unpleasant episode completely.

    Wishing you health and happiness. :)Recommend

  • RockPakistani

    My guess, this coveted institution in none other than the number 1 medical university of Punjab,

    King Edward Medical College-the dream school for all prospective students of medicine!! Shameful to the core that our future doctors were once upon a time involved in provocative activities.Sick!Recommend

  • Final Solution

    Mention the name of the perpetrators and the university associated with the hostel.
    Unmask these Recommend

  • Uaahmed

    @kaalchakra:
    yes and muslims also dont drink and gamble lolRecommend

  • naveen

    a friend of mine ended up attempting suicide twice ,following the trauma of being sexually abused at his hostel ! THIS DOES HAPPEN folks !
    i appreciate your courage in speaking-out,umer , and may you be able to overcome the grief ,Inshaa Allah.Recommend

  • That guy

    Lived 4 years in a hostel in Lahore and been on both ends of ragging, but I have never herd this kind of story at my University. Seniors who do ragging at our University understand their limits, although vulgar ragging are considered norms during university life but I have never seen or herd a incident of physical rape. If you have been physically rapped you should privately contact your VC they don’t take these things lightly in campus and he would definitely assure you confidentiality.Recommend

  • http://... nimra

    This is absolutely pathetic! Very well done for being brave enough to address this issue, I may not be able to perceive exactly how you feel but I realize its a rough patch! I pray from the core of my heart that you soon recover from your illness ! I didn’t even know such things happen in Pakistan, I am too ignorant or maybe the world is worsening quite rapidly, I curse those losers and I pray they get punished in front of every one so that the bad people learn lesson from the punishment! Be strong, I know its easy to type when you havent felt such pain, but trust me , I mean it! I live abroad and my brother too has been a victim of such harrassment by Egyptian men,he was crying when he came home and did for days! He has forgotten it and so will you, be strong to accept how this world is, make it a source of your strength! And stand against such acts, cause you know the pain!Recommend

  • sm

    you reminded me of this movie table.no 21..but that was a movie so the people who committed ragging were made to learn the lesson but in real life all you are going to get is sympathy from readers..those sexual perverts are going to get away with their reputation intact :(Recommend

  • Critical

    @kaalchakra:
    Seriously,Whats wrong with you???
    This poor guy has written such a horrible incident which has happened to him which could scar him permanently and even can lead to suicide…

    But all you want to comment is whether this is what a Muslim does or criticize other religions…

    I used to be amused by your comments,but not anymore….
    You seriously lack empathy….You’re the problem in this world….Its not religious people who create problems,but people without empathy who use religion to commit atrocities..

    I dont know why ET Mods allows such comments to be published??

    P.S. Mods,please publish this post or if you think I breached your guidelines,atleast send it to him as a mail…..Recommend

  • Erum

    if not now, when vil u name the culprits & bring shame to them rather than being ashamed urself?? i wonder why haven’t ur psychologist suggested u this? think of ways u can get help… ur family, friends, any teachers tat r supportive?? now have spent a considerable time at the univsersity, plzzzz do sumthing abt it… zalim ka zulm bardasht karna bi ziyadti hai! Recommend

  • ragged

    @Rangelic
    So we are looking at the bigger picture now….dude everyone has a fair share of sexual advances from people when they were kids believe me i had mine…but i grew out of them and moved on…when you are an adult and need i mention study in a top notch medical college this just doesnt happen. were the seniors enrolled in a medical college for the sole purpose of raping a guy who btw is an adult. i mean its just hard to swallow thats all. otherwise i feel sorry fr the poor MAN. Recommend

  • sars

    Its so unsettling that there are a group of insensitive people who are shouting “it doesnt happen, therefore the author is wrong” . I fear these are the sorts of people who condone “ragging” as a tradition , and are unable to understand when you sexually violate (whatever the degree of, it may just be verbal) a human; you cannot pass it off as innocent tradition.

    They dont like to say they are rapists, therefore they would like to pretend it didnt happen.

    @usman how can you give anyone justice, when the courts cannot??Recommend

  • Rida Shariq

    Umer, I had no idea this went on in the universities! You should name this university so that something can be done. This is absolutely disgusting..I feel for you. You should not be ashamed of telling your family and the university authorities about what’s happened. Name the university..this is the best place to start.Recommend

  • GIndian

    Critical,

    You nailed it. People like that pathetic guy lack empathy and they are devoid of normal human emotions. Recommend

  • Naveed Razzaq

    We must learn to be the part of a civilized nation.Recommend

  • Student

    I guess it is NCARecommend

  • http://tribune.com.pk Non Rapper

    Dear,

    Isn’t there anything the juniors can do about it? I mean if someone is raping you, why u let him. Cut his throat, or get your friends and gang rape him.

    I cannot understand how this happened to you. If a guy asked you to come to his room, and then raped you. Why u entered his room. If u did not obey, what could have happened.Recommend

  • http://tribune.com.pk Jawad

    I am in KPK, and this is not possible to happen.

    I mean how can anyone let this happen to himslef. A clearcut bullet to head is the solution, but again i do not believe this happened, never heard of such instances in my university.Recommend

  • Ali S

    You said that you went to the Physiology Department for help, so I’ll take a guess that this is a medical college we’re talking about. Just the thought that such people will be becoming doctors frightens me, and these are the people who protest with the YDA and stuff. I’m a 3rd year medical student in Karachi and never had to stay in hostels since my home is here, thank God. It’s very brave of you to discuss this very grave and common issue, but you should also name and shame the university (be sure to do so at least after you graduate). All your fellow classmates and like-minded individuals in the university should gather together and openly confront your seniors to put them in their place – they don’t own the university, you have as much as a right to study in peace as they do.

    In the meantime, if you can’t find hostel boarding with fellow freshmen, I’d highly recommend renting flats nearby – this is absolutely unacceptable, hostels are meant to provide accommodation to people who come to study, not convicts or criminals (which is what your seniors are now).Recommend

  • DJM

    You should definitely name this university so that everyone knows about their pathetic norms. You should also take legal action – the offenders and the university officials belong in jail.Recommend

  • john

    I cannot believe THIS!

    All my life I have lived in this beautiful country but over the past year, I am just accustomed to hearing the most disgusting of stories happening and taking place in my beloved country. I cannot even imagine if I have to go through this. Is this Pakistan? I’m shocked to not only read this blog but the comments below appraising the author of his brave story. It’s like this thing is so common. What happened to modesty and other Islamic values I’ve know the Pakistani community to held? I’m SHOCKED to read most comments acknowledge rape incidents as common occurrences in their hostels. Are you all joking/exaggerating because I simply cannot believe this. Does ET check the authenticity of the source of the incident or do they just publish it? How can guys be ‘raping’ other guys in a ‘top notch’ university in Pakistan. I’m out of words. Dont them students have other priorities or has the men of this society really become extremely sexually frustrated over the past years.

    I mean I studied in a top notch college in Pakistan and I had the best of schoolmates with me. How come I’ve never heard anyone mention or talk about this openly before?
    God help us IF this is true.Recommend

  • Ammar

    Brother! though it’s sad what happened with you but it’s not that common in our university to the intensity you mentioned. Although every person has the right of his/her privacy and ragging is a pathetic thing. Moreover, with due respect, We as parents need to groom our kids with more confidence and to face the harsh unexpected realities of life than rather be victim to it. Recommend

  • Sane

    So the animals and beast are also admitted in universities and conferred degree. Whereas, they must be given admission in jail instead of universities.

    What disciplinary committee of these universities does. Are they hand in gloves?!! Such beasts must be brought in limelight and their photo and names must be published and should be debarred from pursuing further studies at least for ten years. They must also be booked under prevailing laws of Pakistan.

    That’s the only way of addressing this issue.Recommend

  • Sane

    @zullu:

    well you haven’t described what actually they did to you……i have been through the ragging as well when it used to be in its peak in late 90s……although in the start i also was totally traumatized and afraid as well but all the seniors who did this ragging became v good friend of mine and i really enjoyed the uni life….i think you need to grow up and face it like a man….

    So you ‘enjoyed’ the ‘ragging’ like a real ‘man’. Good to know about another beast admitted in the university.Recommend

  • Sa

    @ author

    Must be an awful experience as you described it. It is good that you have come out. But , as I see, you must have reported it. Sexual abuse should never be condoned and brushed under the carpet.Take courage and report it! You might save many other vulnerable boys from ‘ragging’.Recommend

  • SHAGY

    @john

    were you in a comma and just woke up? haven’t you been following news? if girls, even toddlers are getting rapped then why does it surprise you that guys were raped too?…hostels are most common grounds for such incidents…maybe its about time you wake up and smell coffee, join some NGO working for this cause and get to know the first hand account of such incidents and DO SOMETHING about your beloved Pakistan!Recommend

  • SHAGY

    @Author

    Please contact AANGAN (ROZEN) http://www.rozan.org or http://www.crin.org/organisations/vieworg.asp?id=1783

    as they are working for this cause. they can help you and guide you. Recommend

  • shahida kazi

    Seriously why didn’t you report to the authorities ,or at least told your parents?This doesn’t make sense.Coming back to the same situation and going through it again and again is to say the least moronic.By the way I wouldn’t call this ragging but is a much bigger problem which needs to be exposed.Recommend

  • Shah (Berlin)

    I am a bit confused here…wht do you mean by Rape…like if you mean real gang-rape than its acutally against the law and is punishable by death……!!!!!! I know its not easy to seek justice these days but still its not a small crime…

    Or do you mean abuse of some other kind and called it a rape……these are two very different issues….although both the crimes are wrong only the seriousness is different…

    In any case its a serious assualt and to be honest you need to speak up…..talk to your principle if he is not ready to co operate than sue the university. Bring the media in play or if required use facebook as the source….either do it now or wait till you graduate but dont let this go…!!!!Recommend

  • Umer Muhammad

    Dear people, if you want to help me then plz send tweets (as many as you can) to @CMShehbaz and @MaryamNSharif asking them to take urgent action.
    University Name: University of Health Sciences, Lahore
    Also, email me your further concerns. I will be happy to answer them.Recommend

  • SHAGY

    ET!
    why was my first long comment not posted? I have every right to voice my opinion and to make people understand why these things happen in our society. please approve my first comment if you did not like anything in it you can delete that part. Recommend

  • http://wannabehappyalways.wordpress.com Madhia

    I am feeling sad yet speechless, i thought only women suffer in our society but alas….. I watched a movie recently named “table no 20” its about boys ragging and its a great effort.. Ragging should end at all costs, authorities should wake up before these suckers reach their own families…
    May God be with u umer.. be strong and never ever lose hope.. try to save students in your university atleast.. start some campaign, do somethingRecommend

  • http://wannabehappyalways.wordpress.com Madhia

    table no 21 is the name of the movie.. Its about ragging, much watchRecommend

  • Umer Muhammad

    Colleges under University of Health Sciences where inhumane ragging takes place every year:
    1) Allama Iqbal Medical College, Lahore
    2) Quaid-e-Azam Medical College, Bahawalpur
    2) Punjab Medical College, Faisalabad
    4) Nishtar Medical College, Multan
    5) Rawalpindi Medical College, Rawalpindi
    Plz send as many tweets as you can to @CMShehbaz and @MaryamNSharif asking them to take urgent action.
    Hostel disciplinary rules only exist on university prospectus. The administration is aware but not a single action has been taken. Recommend

  • AL

    may Allah give you the strength the move on soon! for the rest, who have been ragged and say he should take it like a man, were you raped? how are you justifying this?? there is ragging done at all levels, different kind of ragging and yes its present in pretty much every institution. Unfortunately, it has also taken the lives of many!Recommend

  • http://www.kirfan.com/ khalid irfan

    I think you have to be strong enough to tackle these situations like a man as the university students are mature enough to deal with these conditions otherwise ragging are everywhere in our society for both men and women equally.Recommend

  • Anon

    No,I cant write a blog nor can I reveal my identity.I posted my comment under my friends login who regularly post his comments here.If i will reveal their identity and even college name ,All college principal authorities ,they will have to face dire consequence.It was my choice to go for ranging.If i would have denied initially,that didnt happen.It was story of India,that much i can tell you.Still you can post my comment under anonymous name.In india ,a penalty of 25000 rs and expulsion from the college is for sure,if someone caught in ranging.Recommend

  • Karim

    @Water Bottle..

    As a Pakistani I don’t understand why ‘south Indians’ try to prove ‘north Indians’ as uncivilized. just because they are mostly Muslims? Anyway I think this is not the point to discuss here. Recommend

  • Karachiwala

    PTI YOUTH do all the raggings.Recommend

  • http://uth-oye.com Brand Manager of Uth Oye

    My reason for writing this blog?

    Take action against those animals who
    rape innocent students and call it
    ‘ragging’. Punish the authorities –
    punish them severely because they know
    full well the reason behind students’
    trauma and choose to ignore it.

    Kill this tradition of ragging before
    it destroys the lives of more students
    like me.

    Here’s a wild idea: Mention the name of the university, the faculty member that did nothing and the culprits. Or you could keep writing vague blogs that help no one.Recommend

  • The author’s a medical student at the top public university in Punjab. Since all the medical colleges are combined under UHS, he can only be talking about King Edward Medical University in Lahore. They DO have filthy hostels as well… =(Recommend

  • http://---- Hurricane

    The talk of stand up n face it like a man,talk to your parents,go to the princpal or go to the police is all... n carry the victum no where---- he has been through a nerve shattering n a traumatic experience. All he needs is immediate relief to restore his ego n honour n a knock out punch to the few hounds roaming around the educational institutions.. Pl dont take me wrong here--- God forbid, I am not suggesting any extreme punishment to the villians----what I am saying is--- identify them n then relieve them of their male chauvinism with a minor operation whenever they go for the act. This can be done easily by all the rape victims---- male/females who can form a group of their own n then chart out the necessary action plan. You can also go n watch that Indian movie {dont remember the name} where Dimple Kapadia the rape victim goes about sorting out the culprits. Rest assured this menace can be rooted out of all the countries if it is followed in letter n spirit.
    Recommend

  • Silas

    He is talking about NUST.Recommend

  • haoder

    is this ragging u r talking abt??
    this is totally inhuman man.! I have heard no where in Lahore except NCA Lahore.
    strict rules should be implemented to save the generations there. UET Lahore is a role model in this regard. (from University of error and terror to engineering university).

    Get up like a man and face them.!Recommend

  • hamid siddiqui

    @Bisharat:
    I totally agree, if you want to bring up this issue it should be for solutions sake not for fun sake.
    You should mention the University as well as the names of your respectful seniors who were involved in this crime, so if nothing at least they will get exposed and probably punished. You have dared to bring this up, be more courage’s, write the detail and help the administration to take action against those people.Recommend

  • Anon

    @Karim: He is very right.South indians dont take ragging.It is part of north indian culture.Recommend

  • Sara

    @zullu: Khuda ka khauf khao, he was sexually abused! isn’t that enough description. He should be friends with them now and repeat the same on someone else, that’s what you’re saying right? This is different than water or ink or paint fights or forcing juniors to dance or sing or treat seniors.

    These are a couple of mentally sick individuals who find joy in abusing people. It is because of people like you that they get away with it. Maybe you should enroll in this uni and then report back here. Recommend

  • Intelektual

    @zullu:
    U need to grow up and come out of the not so deep well of Self !! there’s life beyond your petty experiances so grow up and face the fact that narcism is a psychotic disorder like a man !!Recommend

  • Karim

    @Anon

    Are there more Muslims in North than South??? I want to settle this question once and for all. because if there are then I can perfectly understand this south mentality of being ‘More Civilized’. Recommend

  • heera

    @Karim: Ragging has nothing to do with Hindu and Muslim.There is cultural similarity b/w north india and pakistan ..thats it.Kerala in deep down south has 26% muslim population ,yet they have no ragging culture.Sometime truth is bitter but try to swallow it.By the way I m a north indian Recommend