10 things I hate about losing weight

Published: April 6, 2012

The dark circles and the pale skin: despite all the charm of being thin, I hate the dark circles and the pale look that is the unavoidable by-product of rapid weight loss.

Yes, you read that right. Even though losing weight and being stick thin has been my childhood dream, there are many things that bother me whenever I decide to shed a few extra pounds. Here’s a list:

  • The constant questions: What have you done? Tell me the trick. Is it dieting, or exercising, or both? Have you used some kind of a “totka” (home remedy)? There’s no way you can lose weight so quickly otherwise.
  • The nagging aunties:

Beta itna bhi dubla honay ki zarurat nahi

(There is no need to become so thin)

“You will get weak. It’s not good in the long run…blah blah blah”

Really aunties? Why couldn’t you have said that before I lost ‘so’ much weight and everybody used to call me names like moti and bubli?

  • The dark circles and the pale skin: despite all the charm of being thin, I hate the dark circles and the pale look that is the unavoidable by-product of rapid weight loss.
  • The sarcasm: okay, I wanted to be thin. I lost weight. Big deal! That doesn’t mean I don’t have the right to occasionally binge on Oreos or Pringles. I don’t deserve a nasty, sarcastic look from you every time I come close to junk food.
  • Speculation: Why can’t the only reason of my weight loss be myself? Why can’t everybody stop speculating about the ‘real’ reason behind my weight loss? No, it’s not for the want of a suitable rishta or a boyfriend who likes skinny girls, no thank you.
  • Clothes that no longer fit: Although fitted shirts are no longer in fashion, loose tents that once fit when you were 20 pounds heavier aren’t flattering either. I hate it when so much money goes down the drain when you end up losing weight, and your former wardrobe becomes obsolete.
  •  Losing weight from the wrong places: Yes, I love that I have lost those extra pounds, but I hate it when its usually from the wrong places. Why can’t I lose those undesirable inches that are stuck to my arms so faithfully?
  • I hate when people think that I am a fitness freak trying to ‘show off’ when I refuse that extra serving of pasta at lunch. I hate it even more when people think I am showing off in front of those who are still trying to lose weight. No, I am not. It’s just that I dread gaining it back so quickly.
  • And last but not the least, I hate gaining it back! You lose one pound after two weeks of painstaking hard work, but you gain it all back if you let go for just a day.

Erum Fatima

Erum Fatima

The author is a banker turned into a freelancer, who is trying to juggle motherhood with work, and squeezing some random writing in between. She tweets as @erum_fatimaa (twitter.com/erum_fatimaa)

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Saad Ibrahim

    We live in a superficial society.Women judge men primarily for the amount of money they have,men judge women mostly on their looks,how fair they are,how thin they are.
    It’s an equal system,both genders judging each other for superficial reasons.
    The girls whining about how men judge women on their looks only do the same thing when they judge men on their bank accounts.Recommend

  • http://twitter.com/#!/Pugnate Noman Ansari

    hahahaha I love the first one. You lose a bit of weight and everyone thinks you got some pill from a sorcerer.

    Eat less. Exercise more. That’s it! Recommend

  • Corporate Slave

    That last point is just so aptRecommend

  • Indi-Pop

    Real women have curves!Recommend

  • Fzzz

    yawnn.. boring.. another 10 things of uselessness Recommend

  • Awais

    Been there before when I started going jogging on early mornings, the part that I hated was suddenly realising that exercise urticaria would prevent me from hitting a quick 800M. Good luck in achieving your ideal weight that you want to be. Or if you already have, congratulations!Recommend

  • Mo!

    Ummm…..such a pointless blog. Y would anybody be even interested about the 10 things YOU hate about loosing weight? Absolute waste of time, this read.Recommend

  • Sarcastic

    Don’t be obsessed with what others think of you! my suggestion – develop some self worth and stop letting others influence your life.Recommend

  • Mongphalli

    some like it fat.Recommend

  • Nandita.


    Real women have curves!

    And what about women who are naturally thin or don’t have curves. What does that make them ? Unreal?Recommend

  • Fatima

    This is me!! This is me!!Recommend

  • Anam Ashraf Ali

    This is such an awesome read!! And everything is soooooooooooooo trueeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! I am going through a weight loss program right now.. and nobody gets it. Nobody gets it when I turn down get together an parties and refuse to drink sodas and its always followed by ‘Ufffho aik din dieting nahi kerogi tou kiya hojayeega’ :/Recommend

  • Wants-to-be-thin

    Lack of support =( that’s so true… thanks for making me believe that there’s someone else who shares my pain!Recommend

  • Nosch

    This post is ssoooo friggin’ true! I agree with the dark circles and pale look part, but dude the fact remains that even with that u look super hawt when u dress up with make up and all!!
    I agree otherwise with each and every point…..its kinda ‘been there done that’ type thing for me!! NOBODY is encouraging AT ALL!!! The same people who always called u fat, start saying that you have become a skeleton!! urgghhh thats the most annoying!! And i HATE the losing from the wrong places part too!! UFF LOL!! Girl i can soooooo relate to each and every word here!!
    Smart blog!! =)Recommend

  • Laila

    So me!!Recommend

  • http://syedaabidabokhari.wordpress.com The Only Normal Person Here.

    Why we as a nation are so anti-thin? I mean seriously…Recommend

  • Big Rizvi

    For all those women aiming for a size zero figure, a piece of advice for you. Real men die for curves, only dogs go for bones. Besides, if I wanted to see a skeleton so bad, wouldn’t I just visit my local museum?Recommend

  • Indi-Pop

    @Nandita.: Those who are naturally thin are blessed! Think about the constant pressure on those with a tendency to pile on the pounds after every eid/ diwali/ x’mas holidays. You let go of yourself for a week and then spend next two months in a gym and on top of that bear the snide comments of your relatives. Imagine KRK calling Kareena a fat aunty because she is not size zero anymore. That’s just plain mean!
    Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is important. Thin people are not necessarily healthy. Emphasis should be on being fit, rather than being thin.Recommend

  • Indi-Pop

    Think about actresses like Kajol, Vidya Balan or even Madhuri, they don’t need a stick thin figure as they have talent! Actresses Anushka Sharma, Deepika Padukone and Katrina Kaif who can’t give a decent dialogue delivery have to bank on their looks and skin exposure to bring in the crowds. They are just eye candy, good for dancing around the trees. An actor like Vidya might not have an hourglass figure but can carry an entire film solely on her acting prowess. Looks are secondary for her. She is a real woman, not pressurized by the constant media pressure she maintains a healthy body, not a thin one.Recommend

  • Wa

    @big Rizvi … then I am sorry to say.. based on your formula.. there r hardly any real men today!Recommend

  • Amrita

    “I hate when people think that I am a fitness freak trying to ‘show off’ when I refuse that extra serving of pasta at lunch. ” So true. I believe in maintaining balanced eating habits instead of crash diet courses. The moment I say no to anything everyone’s on my case, uff aik samosa khane se moti nahin ho jao gi, aajkal ki larkion ko dieting ka bhut sawar hai. No I am not dieting, but that doesn’t mean I am going to pig out on everything edible thing in front of me!Recommend

  • rk singh

    worst thing- you need to sweat it out.Recommend

  • Saad Raees

    I’ve been trying to start a weight loss plan since more than a yeart now, but all I have been able to do is gain! Reasons: No support, demotivation by friends and family, people thinking I’m trying to show off, depression, and lack of will power. How will I ever overcome these factors, how will I ever be fit again? :'(Recommend

  • http://thecricketinsight.blogspot.com/ Hmmm

    Could you not have done something better than writing this one Erum? Watch PTV-2 (on youtube) maybe?Recommend

  • Uzma

    meray munh ki baat chheen li. trust me. i have always been thin. still i get to hear the questions every time i get to meet the ‘aunties’ =(Recommend

  • Fatima Mustafa

    you know someone around you… Don’t you??? Well this is all true… Things you missed are…

    Counting calories you burned and consumed… Oh I need to walk for ten more minutes to equalize the calories consumed. Damn I cannot have this one spoon of Icecream bec I am already over quota… Don’t push me my friend. I know u love me… <3
    Telling techniques to target the stubborn fat deposits and while doing so being caugt by wrong people. It’s embarrasssing.
    The constant resistance is impossible. Lunch with friends and dinner with family… Oh I had pasta in white sauce for lunch with friends so I cannot even look at the Loki ka salun mommy got made for me. You dared to have pasta? As in PASTA?????
    Losing weight is like making it your lifestyle. Because it’s like changing the natural body you had… With strength training, weight training, cardio workouts and yoga u just tone it and shape it. I wish all those who wish to change their lifestyles all the best. And this author… Beat wishes always :) :)

  • Pagall

    Again 10 things
    ET why not 11 or even 9 things?

  • Nandita.


    What you say is absolutely true. I agree but your first comment

    Real women have curves!

    didn’t make any sense. There are loads of “flat” and “thin” women out there.And to say ” real women have curves ” would be a discrimination against them.Thin,flat or curvaceous – a woman is to be respected, after all she’s more than just a body shape.Recommend

  • Ayesha Pervez

    I thank God that I am not overweight… it is one of the biggest problems of women around me… I read in an article that when women look at each other the first thing they see it the other womans weight… and ofcourse people around us are soo cruel… everyone wants a barbie doll when Im with my friends… the talk about weight is like non stop!!!!!Recommend

  • Vidya Balan

    I want be as slim as Anushka Sharma, Deepika Padukone and Katrina KaifRecommend

  • Indi-Pop

    @Nandita.: Hey! you are reading into the phrase “Real women have curves” to literally. It was actually coined to increase the self worth of women. In the west when the modelling culture began, suddenly there was constant pressure to be thin everywhere. But Latin American women who traditionally have more rounded (fuller) bodies protested against this fad. Salma Hayek, Jennifer Lopez are not ‘thin’ as per western standards. The idea was to increase the self worth of the women and not become anorexic or bulimic to look like Kristen Stewart or Priyanka Chopraof today. You might argue this phrase is against thin women, but it’s not really. It more about accepting who you are and being comfortable in your own skin. In my 21 years of existence I have seen my friends starving themselves to be ultra thin as if to reach some zenith of beauty. Thin people are not perceived to have body image issues because everyone else on the planet is supposed to aspire to look like them. There is actually a movie by the name “Real women have curves”, you should check it out.

    Advertizers play on the securities play on the insecurities of people to sell products. You are not thin enough! (Join our weight loss programme). You are not fair enough! (Use X,Y,Z products, now even poor men are not spared! ). Such perceptions are ultimately played out by our media to increase your insecurities so as to make you buy things! The deficiency is not in your body but in your mind. Once you become comfortable in your skin and value your self worth to be more than your looks, you will be at peace with yourself.Recommend

  • Asher Zaidi

    This blog reflects the sad face of our society. People, in general, are not happy with anything, be it being fat or thin.Recommend

  • Tribune Reader

    at least u r lucky enough to lose some!!Recommend

  • samz

    Stop sticking to norms. Live life, we get it only once.Recommend

  • sonia

    i can add a dozen thigs !!Recommend

  • shaz

    do u know me?? :O that’s what i would have writtenRecommend

  • Raza

    The worst part is the inability to eat anything tasty (read fatty) because your mind automatically harks to all the exercise you will have to do to counter it. So either you end up not eating it, or worrying while eating it. Lose-lose.Recommend

  • Vikram

    You seem to be obssessed with your weight. I hope you are not worried about your self image / beauty. Some people develop anorexia / bluimia because of their distorted preception of what is thin and beautiful. Do you weigh yourself twice a day? If you look pale or have dark circles you don’t need to loose weight. Go eat some mango icecream and don’t wiegh yourself for 10 days.Recommend

  • Lamss

    Thank you!! @Big Rizvi: Recommend

  • Lamss

    Pay for personal training sessions to start of with & go for it! You’ll be more likely to stick with it when you know you’ve paid someone to wait for you to show up to workout and who’ll guide you. And seriously, unless you’re below 18, you don’t need anyone’s support. @Saad Raees: Recommend

  • Ayesha

    Ahahahah! I agree with all 10 things! Aunties are so irritating when they say ‘Beta, bus kardo aur kitna karo gi’ and then proceed to indirectly call you fat. Also they start giving you ‘nuskhas’ ‘ye khao woh nahi khao’. Its hilarious. And also after losing weight people say ‘Oh dude, you were SO fat before thank god you lost weight’ like I’ve lost my feelings also with the weight. And I think its a personal thing for everyone. If one thing works for someone, doesn’t mean it will work for someone else so asking about ‘totkas’ and what did you do!? are pointless. Anyway great read!Recommend

  • philosopher

    to lose or not to lose,that is the question!Recommend

  • Vikram

    Author says “Even though losing weight and being stick thin has been my childhood dream, there are many things that bother me whenever I decide to shed a few extra pounds.”

    That says everything about you. Who wants to see a “stick”? You are confused, you want to loose wieght and at the same time you don’t want to loose weight.

    What does Islam say about loosing weight? Almost in every blog people bring in Islam.Recommend

  • Mehwish

    Guys probably can never get this! they dont have to face as much pressure as girls do .. in terms of wgt n everything else! our society leaves us baffled, wat to do n wat not to do =(Recommend

  • Jerk

    By the time I read the title of the post, I was 101% sure it was from a girl. :)

    Btw in our society it is a serious matter, when someone is healthy (and not fat) people start to call him fat leaving him in despair and endless starvationRecommend

  • Being Fat Sucks

    Being fat sucks :-((Recommend

  • Nobody

    Not true my dear, guys face plenty of pressure to be thin, or muscular rather. Plus, they too want to look attractive to their natural mates as per media & today’s world pushes them to. I suppose guys are perhaps a little quieter about it, but observing the work out pattern among guys, I definitely don’t think guys have been spared either. Cheers!Recommend

  • maliha

    loved it!! i can soooooo relate to this post Recommend

  • Asim

    although the writer is right about these things, but i just read the other weight related blog and now i m thankful for my weight loss. Ms. Naqvi, perhaps you should also be thankful for your weight loss!Recommend

  • Saira

    Ahhh.. for the first time i have read a new perspective about weight loss.. otherwise, all the articles talk about the better side of it! refreshing!Recommend

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