And they will say, ‘Remember what happened to Naila’

Published: January 9, 2017

This incident has built countless walls around young women, which won’t allow them to get through. PHOTO: AFP

She hailed from Qambar Shahdadkot, where the literacy rate is 44%, according to a report published in 2012. She came from an area where only 33% of the female population has completed higher education. Against all odds, she left her hometown and enrolled herself in the Sindhi Department at the University of Sindh, Jamshoro, to continue her studies.

Currently in her final year, Naila Rind was not just an average student; she was an award winning student in her Masters class. Naila had returned early from her hometown during her winter vacations in order to work on her final year thesis, which was due on January 15th, 2017. Unfortunately, she couldn’t complete her thesis. She was found dead in her hostel room inside Sindh University on January 1st, 2017.

The local authorities ruled out her death as suicide. Naila, allegedly, hung herself from a ceiling fan. But… why would she do that? She was a top student who was about to graduate with flying colours. She had just spent the holidays with her family. Why would she decide to take her own life?

Apparently, Naila was being cyber blackmailed by Anis Khaskheli, a lecturer in a private school. Khakheli had been harassing Naila with her pictures and videos. She had held her ground for those three months, but then it became too much for her and she finally gave in to the threats and intimidation in room no 36 of Marvi Hostel.

Are we still supposed to call this suicide?

No.

This was murder.

The murderer in this case was not only the nefarious lecturer who blackmailed Naila, and who had blackmailed many other female students, it was also the university, the government and us, the citizens.

Why did Naila not feel safe enough to talk to someone about what was going on with her; a faculty member, a counselor, a parent, a friend, a sibling, the police? Why did she remain silent instead of seeking help? Perhaps she knew our local authorities’ track record? Maybe she was aware of the loopholes in the law or in the way our judiciary works. Maybe she knew that she would only get the media’s attention if she was no longer part of this world because, when she was alive, she was just a random girl being blackmailed by another frustrated psychopath. And nothing was being done about that. That was no story.

The University of Sindh, being one of Pakistan’s renowned varsities, does not even have proper student counselling services available for students. Neither are there any psychologists to help students.

Naila was afraid that once the pictures that she was being blackmailed with were leaked, no one would listen to her side of the story and people would end up doing what they always do – blame the woman. Congratulations! Our myopic mind-sets have taken yet another life.

Some might see Naila’s demise as the death of an everyday student, some might not even pay heed to her death, but this deeply saddening incident will have set a terrible precedent and have a huge impact on a very large section of the Pakistani people, the women. In rural Sindh, parents are reluctant to even enrol their daughters or sisters in schools, let alone send them to another city for studies. Many parents force their daughters to stay at home because they consider the outside world unsafe. Naila’s demise will trigger a domino effect. Countless more daughters and sisters will be forced to stay at home, many aspiring young women will be asked to stop pursuing their studies. ‘Remember what happened to Naila.’ they will be told. We will surely face the consequences of her demise in the coming years.

Pakistan has not only lost one brilliant student, it has lost hundreds and thousands of young aspiring women who would have done this country proud, but will be restrained from doing so. If this is not a loss to mourn, I don’t know what is.

It is our duty as citizens and officials to make sure these walls come down. Despite having the Cybercrime Bill, our police forces seem to have no idea how this law works. What good is our Cyber Harassment Helpline if it couldn’t save Naila’s life? These are important issues which must be looked into to ensure other women don’t meet the same fate as Naila’s.

Sahir Palijo

Sahir Palijo

The author is an under-grad pursuing a degree of Business Administration. He loves to write his thoughts and is a movie freak. He tweets at @The_Sahir (twitter.com/the_sahir)

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Sadu

    Dear Sahir,
    Will you tell how the harasser managed to get some exploitable pictures of Nayla… Was he hinding himself in her washroom or under bed to take those pictures, I am very much confused when girl says that some one is blackmailing me through my naked pics and videos… How they get it,,, Is hollowman real…!!Recommend

  • kakaMnna

    What type of pictures or videos,,, Some one takes my picture while I am bathing nude… I have no issue because I cannot take bath while cloths on so I am not culprit…!! so why girl get black mailed from act they are not responsible…Recommend

  • S.

    “People would end up doing what they always do – blame the woman.”Recommend

  • Ahmar

    The woman formed a relationship with the lecturer. Is she not responsible for her own actions?

    The lecturer refused to marry her and so she committed suicide. How is someone else responsible for you killing yourself? When will women take up responsibility for their actions?

    A guy I know was crazy about this girl. He had a pleasant personality, friendly and helpful to all, had a good stable job. Yet the girl rejected him because she thought she deserved better. Heartbroken, the guy committed suicide. His body was recovered near sea view. His death did not even make news.

    I see a double standard.Recommend

  • Ha

    Well i agree we r guilty but not guilty for the murder of naila .we parents,sibling,uni,govt shud educate our kids n public about islam n apply the islamic rules in every field of life then i m sure there wont be anything wrong especially such crimes as women n men ll lower their gaze n no fitna ll emerge.Recommend

  • Ha

    N i agree with few comments too if men r blackmailing women n they cant consult someone its not due to lack of someone that they can trust but the fear keep them silent n force them to commit suicide that people ll ask how did the blackmailer get their pics etc.its not only men’s fault but women r equally guilty.Recommend

  • farhan

    feminists and dobule standards go hand in handRecommend

  • S.

    You do know that the guy was blackmailing her with her pictures and videos? She did not commit suicide because he rejected her marriage proposal, but because he blackmailing her. I hope you know what ‘Blackmailing’ suggests here.Recommend

  • Ahmar

    You are a disgrace for the whole of society.Recommend