More power to the women and less to the dupatta

Published: October 22, 2015

The assumption is that women who wear dupattas or niqab do not get harassed on the street. PHOTO: REUTERS

Recently, I came across an article that seemed to propagate the indispensable role of ‘dupattas’ in our ‘cultural dress code’. I was amused by the fact that the article, which stressed on preserving Pakistani culture, began with an Indian song featured in the movie Barsaat, which was released in 1949. If I’m not mistaken, it was sung by the famous Lata Mangeshkar.

So much for celebrating our own culture.

What was most appalling about the article was the fact that it was propagating the idea that men stare, ogle, and gawk at women because they do not cover themselves up with dupattas. It quoted a girl saying,

“How can I complain of a man staring at me in bazaars or on the roadside, if I have left my attire incomplete?”

Before I begin with how completely irresponsible, absurd and incorrect this statement is, I would like for everyone to know that I choose to wear a hijab. Now I am sure that once I present my side of the argument, there will be many that will lash out and say,

“Look at her. She wears a hijab and supports women who don’t even wear a dupatta!”

I would request that you hold your judgement and hear me out.

The problem with the ideas presented in the article is that they operate on the assumption that women who wear dupattas do not get harassed on the street.

If a dupatta was all it took to end harassment in this country, trust me, men would be eager to embody it too. But the subject of harassment extends beyond the fabric of a dupatta. It is intricately bound to female subjugation, patriarchy, objectification and how our society views women.

According to the arguments presented in the article, wearing a hijab should ward off any kind of unwanted male advances. However, I would like to enlighten my fellow citizens that that is certainly not the case. I have had men stare at me while I was covered, from head to toe, wearing what you consider our ‘complete cultural dress code’ – shalwar kameez, dupatta and a hijab!

Despite covering myself, I have been a victim to sleazy young men leaving colourful notes with their phone numbers on my side-view mirror. Apart from how ridiculous those men are, that seem to carry around a stack of post-its to graciously leave uninterested women with their numbers, I would like to say that in our society, hijab or no hijab, dupatta or no dupatta, sexual harassment persists.

Just the other day, I was driving to my university and somehow, just my presence behind the steering wheel was enough to ‘excite’ men on the bikes. Again, I will stress that I was wearing a dupatta and a hijab. Before I knew it, I had men on bikes tailing me till I was safely within the premises of my university.

How would you justify harassment in this case?

Dupatta.

Hijab.

Niqab.

Burqa.

No matter how much cloth you add on to a woman’s body, she still faces and endures harassment in all spheres.

Have we forgotten the video of that woman, in a burqa and niqab, who was harassed on Independence Day?

Beyond the ‘wear more clothes’ argument, they will say,

“Do not go out. Do not leave your house.”

But, is there any such precedent that states that women do not get harassed in their own households? I’m afraid not.

To the misogynists who would keep coming up with more ways to impinge on the freedom of women – how about I lock myself in a cage and wrap it up with barbed wire?

It deeply grieves me that our women believe that whenever they are harassed, it has to have been their own fault. We manage to turn our women and their freedom to wear whatever clothing they choose, into an exhaustive debate riddled with ‘false’ concepts regarding women empowerment and the aesthetics of a progressive society. Every time any woman propagates her right to decide what she wears and what she doesn’t, we lament her in the name of the ‘condemned’ ideology of feminism or women empowerment.

When men in our country harass women, it has more to do with their mentality than the woman herself. If a woman is not wearing a dupatta, she is not “asking for it”. This is exactly what lays the foundation for the prevalent rape culture that automatically views rape and any form of harassment as a reaction to some act of the woman herself.

Society makes women feel like they are at fault. Perhaps, their biggest error is being a woman in our backward and primitive society that sees choices of women merely in the context of ‘modern’ or ‘chic’.

The polarities in the ‘dupatta debate’ are particularly distinct. Designers are taking dupattas off their display racks. At certain brand stores, you would not find dupattas tucked into hangers. Women on billboards appear wearing designer lawn without the cumbersome dupatta. It is significant for us to remember that the dupatta is just a piece of cloth. It does not carry anyone’s honour or izzat. It has no special powers to protect a woman. It is merely a piece of cloth that has disappeared from fashion spreads in magazines.

We need to rid ourselves of this apologetic attitudes with the hopes of coming across as more ‘cultured’.  We really need to quit focusing on what clothing women choose to wear, and spend a little more time raising our boys to not objectify women.

I write this piece in the hope for more power to the women and less to the dupatta.

Taskeen Zahra

Taskeen Zahra

The author is an aspiring writer and feminist who is passionate about global affairs, education and gender equality - a student of International Relations and life at large.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Dawood Ahmad

    This comes from a feminist who wears full hijab/scarf. Practice what you preach in the life of a common average pakistani woman. Step out of your car, go shopping where middle class goes for shopping without taking your honour/izzat (or for you, the duppata/scarff/niqab/hijab) and then write anything about carrying izzat in duppata.

    It is ironic when people like you who never face harsh realities of common life write about common people and their problems. You do not make society better. You just make people more confused.Recommend

  • Hans

    Thank you for the wonderful article!Recommend

  • Ahmed

    Let’s divide the arguers in two – believers and atheists. If you are an atheist then leave it aside, that’s a totally different point of view when it comes to hijab, dupatta etc. If you are a believer, then no matter what religion you follow, modesty and covering up adequately is the compulsory part for women. Jesus said that, before him, adultery or zina was counted when it was actually committed, but now (then I mean) if you see a woman with sexual intentions, you have committed adultery or zina. Ok, so Jesus didn’t make any clothing restrictions for women but further elaborated the form of zina with eyes. When Muhamamd (PBUH) came, this order was further enhanced, that now (then) women would be covering up ! That’s it. If you are a women and if you are covered up, you are clean in the eyes of Allah according to his wish. You do not have to worry at all then.

    By the way, Hinduism isn’t different than Islam or Christianity in this regard, if you follow the book.Recommend

  • Brain Think

    Take the dupatta if it comes with the fashion, but don’t force it on women just because a mullah cannot handle it.Recommend

  • Mariyah

    All I have to say is- thank you! Finally we have a woman who refuses to be painted with patriarchal garbage!Recommend

  • Yusra

    Nonsense
    Recommend

  • human

    Finally a decent article . yes power & respect to women .Thank youRecommend

  • asma akhter

    Hats off to your this sentence.”We really need to quit focusing on what clothing women choose to wear, and spend a little more time raising our boys to not objectify women.” Now we should seriously come out of this attitude like women should not do this to avoid this, or this to avoid that. Its time to educate boys and have emphasis on their ethics & manners then to ask girls of doing everything useless.Recommend

  • Kappa

    Whatever you dress ladies..freaks are out thereRecommend

  • Ahmad Talal

    @taskeen Zahra
    This is not a matter of what other people do,rather they stare,ogle,pass comments..

    Its about your own satisfaction what makes you feel better and what you do about following the norms,
    There is a parallel order of covering for women and men to lower their gaze.
    So in case of ladies whatever you use,dupatta,hijab,burqa,head scarf,scarf or whatever,this is a matter of your own judgement.
    now for men if they could have enough sense of that order they should lower the gaze and control their sight by themselves or the society should impose equivalent of partial blindfolds for men as there were on eyes of horses used in tanga !!
    Haya is in ones ownself irrespective of what you are using a dupatta,burqa or your using a directional blindfold for controlling your sight !!Recommend

  • Ambreen Malik

    My dupatta is my business and no one else’s. The part that is missing from the debate is lack of modesty in man’s gaze and mindset. Will someone address the elephant in the room?Recommend

  • Browncoat

    ‘ It is significant for us to remember that the dupatta is just a piece of cloth. It does not carry anyone’s honour or izzat. It has no special powers to protect a woman.’
    Hit it right on the proverbial head. Brava.Recommend

  • zia malik

    you wont outreach others by insulting them .. if you had such “good” ideas why you didnt share it before.. ?? by reading her article you started chanting “ehtijaaj ehtijaaj”
    come up with something better , new and owned ideas ..Recommend

  • hp kumar

    Author must do the same first before giving advice to others..you dont preach what you dont practice,do you?Recommend

  • Ravian

    Unfortunately, women wearing hijab or doputta cannot escape stares or any other form or harassment. Staring at women has become our national sport. Even at places such as women markets (Bano Bazaar in Lahore) and places frequented by more modern women like centaurus in Islamabad, shopkeepers continue to stare, though everyday, they deal with hundreds of women. Their thirst is never satiated or it has become a habit. So instead of becoming a source of entertainment for perverts, women should take appropriate action, which does not involve hindrance in their movement.Recommend

  • Miyagi Jr.

    Both articles, the one for dupattas and this one against that one are missing the whole freaking point! covering ones head with whatever and dressing up modestly is someone own choice, it is religious, and should not be forced upon women. Men staring or harassing is a total different debate and has nothing to do with dupattas or whatever. It has to do with moral values. which have gone down the drain sadly.Recommend

  • M Waqas Sajid

    what else can u expect from a feminist, other than this article –crap.Recommend

  • Sam

    HAIN? Have you stepped out of your car for shopping where “middle class” goes, carrying your dupatta? Practice what you preach.Recommend

  • Superman

    This is fake picture to insult islam… man lost half hand and women have no reaction… What might be the reason because its planned…Recommend

  • PoorWomen

    Pakistan poverty level is so high that now days poor women cant efford dupattas…Recommend

  • Braveheart

    Before saying anything you should have enough knowledge… I do not know how women dares to challange the creater, Who only knows the best

    “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”

    [al-Ahzaab 33:59]Recommend

  • http://www.twitter.com/heerasaeed Hira Saeed

    I want to come and hug you girl. You have summed up my thoughts beautifully!Recommend

  • Zubair Siddiqi

    While I agree with most of what is being said here, I do not understand the point of the blog. Is this commentary on a cultural phenomena or the ramblings of a frustrated person. There is no conclusion to the writing. She’s made a fair point but what’s next?Recommend

  • Muhammad

    Dear Sister!!
    I bet you have not read Surah Noor with translation :)Recommend

  • Usman

    “No matter how much cloth you add on to a woman’s body, she still faces and endures harassment in all spheres.”
    Thats the spirit. Now from today, you should walk naked in the public as clothes doesn’t matter. Cloths and dupatas as stupid. So don’t use them anymore.

    By the way, the whole debate is stupid, whoever wants to do it, let them do and who donot want to do, leave them in their lives.Recommend

  • Sara Mehdi

    I personally don’t wear a duppatta, but when i do it’s usually wrapped around my neck or draped on the side.. Basically it doesn’t cover anything, it’s just there.. What is the use of wearing it like this if my so call honor is tied to the dupatta if it’s not hiding my more noticeable parts?Recommend

  • Atif Aleem

    “Dupatta is just a piece of cloth. It does not carry anyone’s honour or izzat. “.

    lol same argument can be applied on all clothing. Jeans, Tops, Shirts, Undergarments all are pieces of cloth, So by your argument they dont carry anyone’s honour and we should abandon all of them.Recommend

  • Asif Qazi

    If its a piece of cloth then why you wear clothes?Recommend

  • Asif Qazi

    Well said!Recommend

  • Asif Qazi

    “My dupatta is my business and no one else’s”

    What about the teachings of Islam?Recommend

  • Prem

    What about ‘no compulsion in religion’ in Islam?Recommend

  • Harl E Quinn

    Again, between her and God – none of your business!Recommend

  • Harl E Quinn

    Good on you – I thought similarly when I read that other article a couple of days ago.Recommend

  • Harl E Quinn

    what a stupid responseRecommend

  • Jehangir Khan Mescanzai

    No. Wrong. She did not insult anyone. Was very civil in her discourse.
    How do you know she has not expressed her views, [as written in this blog]
    to everyone and his brother and sister? In every which that she can get her message across? You have absolutely no idea. Yet you are chastising her?
    She has written an excellent blog. Worth reading. These are her opinions,
    not bigoted or racist. And a lot of people, beyond your troglodyte counting abilities, agree with her.Recommend

  • DK

    Islam teaches us to clean our own heart and mind in the first place and see other women as sisters and not objects of sex. Otherwise, no amount of clothing is going to bring morality in the society, if we continue brewing an ill mind or what we know as Satan within ourselves. Please don’t blame religion for one’s own state of mind, particularly if one has no courage to do this greatest Jihad against Nafs-i-Ammara.Recommend

  • Parvez

    I read that slowly and carefully and I thought it was very well argued and made complete sense.
    There is one aspect that writers ignore….and that is the God created human element of ‘ men look at women and women also look at men ‘, its an undeniable fact. If one were to acknowledge this it would help in diluting much of the hypocrisy that surrounds this topic, especially in a patriarchal society such as ours.Recommend

  • Harl E Quinn

    You obviously failed to understand what she’s saying. And I find it funny when facebook political analysts preach about the problems of the ‘common man’. How many ‘harsh realities’ have you come face to face with?Recommend

  • Browncoat

    You’re probably too thick to understand what the intent is behind that sentence. Do come back when you’ve cleared grade school.Recommend

  • Karachiite

    Why only focusing dupatta?
    As per the authors logic, none of cloth cannot carry one’s honor so its equal whatever one wears in public (or doesnt wears anything at all?).. What’s the border and end to it?Recommend

  • Browncoat

    “no matter what religion you follow, modesty and covering up adequately is the compulsory part for women”
    Are you saying it isn’t the same for athiest women (and men as well)? Or do you really believe Atheist people just waltz around in their ‘birthday-suits’ all day with their ‘bits and pieces’ hanging out for all to see?Recommend

  • BaiG

    What most of the writers do?
    They pick some exceptions and paint the whole society with it ignoring 99%.
    Dear you have done the same, chances of harassment reduces with proper clothes but still there are some freaks out there who dont respect women. I have worked in more than 20 different company offices and what I found is Gents tend to respect ladies with proper clothes as compared to those who dont even they discuss those ladies who dont wear proper clothes.Recommend

  • asad

    Follow the culture or fly to the western world and walk around in mini skirts,where hopefully no one would give a damnRecommend

  • Shaheera Jalil Albasit

    Taskeen, you have done us a HUGE HUGE favor by writing this piece. Very authentic and well-articulated. Thank you and more power to you.Recommend

  • https://twitter.com/Taimourchaudhry Taimoor Tariq

    You people are propagating wrong things in the name of “women power” .
    If you’re muslims you’ll have to follow the rules , you can’t modernize islam.
    People see what they want to see.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Nice one sister. It has to do with the culture in which children grow up, both girls and boys. Teach boys to respect others but girls more so. Teach girls to respect every one but themselves more so. When a man is empowered a family is benefitted but when a woman is empowered it changes the society for better.Recommend

  • Dina

    Hinduism does not have dress codes if you follow the book!
    Actually the Hindu holy books are too liberal!
    Some even state that if a man can go topless in summer heat, so can women!Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Bigotry.Recommend

  • vinsin

    So what should be done by men? Should men abuse those women?Recommend

  • https://twitter.com/Taimourchaudhry Taimoor Tariq

    No one is focusing , you ppl are making an issue of it . Youve to carry your religion too.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Clothes doesn’t make gentlemen or women, character does!Recommend

  • S.M Mukhtar

    Its among the most disputed issue of the society but problem is that what should be the basis of this discussion…
    first the basis should be free will & human mind then discussion will never end on any point and women r free to do whatever she want (sex, relationship & clothing) same as men also free to (stare, relationship, sex & clothing) but nobody have right to hurt freedom of others here we r restricted their free will…
    secondly the basis should be the creed which everyone carry in society (secularism, communism or Islam) because v live in a society where majority r muslim so check what Islam tells us (men & women) regarding this issue to end the dispute.
    Conclusion : both of them has no right to harass , stare, relationship, sex before marriage with each other and every one should be proper dress which Islam ordered to wear.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Oops I happen to be a Digambara believer!Recommend

  • Dawood Ahmad

    This ‘none of your business” thing works in west. In an Islamic country, you must oblige islamic rules. Just like in West when they do not allow muslim women to wear hijab..Recommend

  • vinsin

    To protect from environment, some people dont wear though.Recommend

  • vinsin

    So are you suggesting duppata is common people problem?Recommend

  • vinsin

    Yes why not? According to you you born honour less.
    That is not the writer arguments, she demanded freedom of expression.Recommend

  • Dawood Ahmad

    You are saying it like you have lived a middle class life. One thing is for sure, you no nothing about majority in Pakistan. The way they live, the way they behave and the values that matter most to them.

    You cannot have an opinion if you have not even touched the subject matter. Until you understand how society works, you cannot attempt to change it. Whether you like it or not from a “facebook political analyst”, its true.Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Hinduism doesn’t have any “books”. Any one who uses ones own brain and mind is a Hindu!Recommend

  • vinsin

    So according to your logic Jainism and Buddhism are non-believers. Atheism is also part of Hinduism. Which book of Hinduism are you talking about?Recommend

  • Linux Novice

    Temperature, anyone?!Recommend

  • Ashar Siddiqui

    Pity on my divided nation. There are left extremists and there are right extremists. No one is using their head. ET is known to publish articles which indulge people to bash each other rather then to think straight. Recommend

  • http://www.facebook.com/Nomibuilder1 Nouman Chaudhry

    Educate your Children then. This is the Woman’s responsibility I guess :pRecommend

  • Jalal

    Cloaking your bodies is interpretable in different ways. I obviously agree with the verse but not your self imposed brackets.Recommend

  • Lt Col Imtiaz Alam(retd)

    Power to the Hijab.Recommend

  • Asif Qazi

    Auntie Browncoat…I don’t need to clear grade school to understand what’s right or wrong.Recommend

  • Mariam Abbasi

    a piece to admire, i definitely agree because when it comes to do evil, no one is secured either with a hijaab or naqaab. Living in a society where even your family members can harass you, it’s useless to point it with lack of proper dress code.Recommend

  • Laiq

    Allah first instructed men in Quran to lower the gaze, then womenRecommend

  • Abdul Ahad Khan

    Not ur business..it is quite a reply.even our supreme court has the same narrative about the interest based bankingRecommend

  • Browncoat

    you’d understand that is said figuratively, not literally.
    There might be particular areas in the jungles of Indonesia/Papua New Ginuea where you would be very welcome to do so. Chao.Recommend

  • Browncoat

    “One thing is for sure, you no nothing about majority in Pakistan.”
    Wow. Trust an Insafian to roll out blanket statements.Recommend

  • Miyagi Jr.

    “What about ‘no compulsion in religion’ in Islam?

    Yes, what about it? You just added “in Islam, which makes it confusing. The verse is”There should be no compulsion in religion. Surely, right has become distinct from wrong”

    If you or anyone else thinks it mean you can do whatever you want because there is no compulsion in religion, is wrong. It means you are free to believe in Islam or otherwise. there is no compulsion.Recommend

  • Miyagi Jr.

    Excuse me, but your i.e between the brackets is completely wrong.Recommend

  • Pro Truth

    Thats between her and Allah!
    who the hell are you to impose that?Recommend

  • Pro Truth

    Wow, tell how it doesnt work in Pakistan? I dont see most women covering their heads in Pakistan! So it works! you like it or not its up to you! Any sin is between her and Allah! you or anybody else doesnt come into play!Recommend

  • Pro Truth

    Dupatta or anyother form of hijab is a personal choice of a woman. In Pakistan its more to do with culture and religion. But its should also be noted, it doesnt stop women doing or carrying out any work or hinder in any way as most west assume that its a forced upon women and they cant do their jobs with that. Mini skirts or deep neck blouses dont increase women’s productivity either!Recommend

  • http://thoughtsandotherthing.blogspot.fr/2015/09/hyderabad-as-i-know-and-feel.html Supriya Arcot

    I don’t care who covers or exposes whatever part of his / her anatomy as long as I can see her / his face . Many exhibit only eyes .Its just not enough to know if its a boy or a girl inside.Recommend

  • aali bakht
  • aali bakht

    then, staring is between his and God. none of her business. there should be no Complaining.Recommend

  • Hanzala Shamsi

    “Again, between her and God- none of your business!”

    Then why accusing men, its between them and their God – none of your business! Recommend

  • Hadia Khan

    None of the items mentioned by you are associated with a woman’s modesty/izzat/namoos but the Duppatta is…in that context please answer how does a piece of cloth become so significant that it’s absence draws extreme reactions from the conservative quarters?Recommend

  • Awais Khan

    Please dont mind but efforts to make men think in a way to respect or to not to gaze at women irrespective she is 40% naked or 90% covered not gona work, By saying this i am not taking men’s side but it will not work i am telling you, knowing the breed. The only solution is make all scarf, hijjab and dupta carrying ladies boycott covering head by that way uncovered head will be so common no body will any more care..
    By they way i dont know you have noticed or not most of the times missing dupta comes with tones of make up and fancy hair style and sure i know its not for other to see, but to feel beautiful.

    yet no one can deny the fact that gazing will not stop by covering
    yourself but its fact as well that it will decrease the gaze percentage
    from 100 to 10..

    I literally feel ashamed being a man by acts of boys as a few mentioned by writer, yet the truth is these things does produce results for them, success rate might be a little over then getting a shameless gaze by a hijab carring lady..

    From being feeling empowered and modern women by wearing little and western styled cloths, to the difference in respect a man have for his sister, mother and unknown females. For me its all because we are confused we dont know who to follow, how to behave, what are our moral values, what is our religion.

    No Pakistani men gaze at anyone when they go out of Pakistan it not because the become ethical, its because the adopts the culture and get out of the confusion we have in our society.

    Our designer feels ashamed i guess if the wear something from the look of which you can tell its our culture. I am not limiting this thing to women, what more disastrous can be when we have made our door opener wear shalwar kameen with high Turban and for rest official dress can be anything but Shalwar kameez…Recommend

  • Islamabad

    Looks like the rants of a 15 year old, especially if you look at the type of language used.Recommend

  • Islamabad

    Dupatta is not “stupid”, it is a garment used for the purpose of covering ourselves. It carries more religious significance that you can even comprehend. Recommend

  • aftab

    picture is worth thousand words!!!Recommend

  • http://yasminelahi.wordpress.com Yasmin Elahi

    Good piece Taskeen Zehra and I respect your views (just as I would like others to respect mine). I fear that most readers have jumped to conclusions due to the (unfortunate) title of the blog which was not mine! Nowhere in its contents have I suggested/connected/defended male-staring, nor do I consider a dopatta a defense from harassment of women! That was the view of a young professional, who carved out time from her hectic schedule to give in her opinion (and I respect that too).
    As for the song I mentioned, does it matter if it was from some old Indian movie?
    That was only a childhood memory which I shared. And to remind you, in the early 50′s there were more similarities than differences in the Indo-pak values, as the new post-partition culture was only beginning to evolve!

    In the end I would say that the Jawb e Shikwa was good but I feel that you missed the essence of the Shikwa!Recommend

  • Eshim S

    If men are still staring at you even though you’re wearing a dupatta, you just need a superdupatta.

    http://www.eshim.uk/2015/10/dupatta.htmlRecommend

  • Midhat

    And you completely missed the point. The article is about how conveniently we put all the blame on women. There is no excuse for Harassment whether a women is dressed in abaya or if she is not. Clothing doesn’t give license to men to treat women as objects and piece of women. They should respect women irrespective of anything. About time men start behaving as civilized people.

    Btw when God will questions a harasser, I am pretty sure he wont get away with putting the blame on the lack of dupatta. Harassment is wrong!! no if buts and excuses

    P.S I lived in Pakistan as a middle class woman covered modestly. Dont lecture us. Preach your sons and brothers to stop being dogsRecommend

  • lolz

    Islam talks about HAYA, and that for both men and women! Islam never talks about cloths, dupatta, abaya or niqab, it is a cultural aspect!Recommend

  • lolz

    Islam talks about HAYA, and that for both men and women! Islam never talks about cloths, dupatta, abaya or niqab, it is a cultural aspect!!Recommend

  • Almas Awan

    after reading this article i wanna add that if u say that by wearing hijab can’t stop boys to harras us than u r totally wrong the thing is that which type of hijab ur wearing now a days grlz wear hijab on their head nd leave to cover their face nd expect from street boys to not to harras them nd i know whtever boys r dng is wrong it is against ethics but this is the nature of all the boys that they will stare the girls there is a majority of these types of boys in our society, the woman is not made for the society she has been made to stay at home and make her home like a heaven….. but if a grl take a step outside due to finacial problems than she has to cover our self from head to toe, the boys do stare the grls who r wearing hijab but they will stare u once not twice like the grlz who r wearing tight jeans.nd this is my personal experience that i always cover myself from head to toe nd not a single boy has ever passed comments on me., wearing hijab is a command from almighty Allah this is not a choice to wear or not to wear it u must hv to …. no offence this is my point of view…Recommend

  • Muhammad Danish

    Brilliantly written piece!Recommend

  • speedbooster
  • cshell

    It is a obligated on both the men and the women to be chaste and guard their character. Men blaming women for not covering their bodies are half right and women asking men to mind their own business and not enforce veil are also half right.

    Someone knowledgeable would quote with authenticity the Ahadees in both respects, one where the Holy Prophet Muhammad SAWW turned the face of a person the other way and one where he SAWW strongly and clearly objected to dressings of women (and men). Islam has given clear guidelines for both men _and_ women on how to dress.

    And those people with “This is none of your business” argument. If it affects the society, it _is_ other people’s business. When such actions which harm the society, such as serious crimes, are committed, it becomes the business of the society. You lying to your friend may not have anything to do with someone else. But if you lied while being responsible in affairs of the state or a town or an organization, you _are_ liable. If you stole your brother’s toy, it may not affect your neighbour. But if you stole someone else’s car, you’re disturbing the society, and any responsible citizen would either try to stop you, or report you, and the law enforcers would then do their job. How about you telling them its “none of their business”?

    Anything that affects the society makes them a stakeholder. Period.Recommend

  • IBN E ASHFAQ

    The author is an aspiring writer and feminist who is passionate about global affairs, education and gender equality – a student of International Relations and life at large. Taskeen a male is a male and a female is a female. They can’t be both equal. Female is not equal to male. Each gender has its own position and role for example female is mom and male is dad. Dad cannot be equal to Mom.Recommend

  • Zain

    This is amusing. Both writers’ are dissing each other while their blogs are being published by the same newspaper. Get a focus, Tribune!Recommend

  • UM

    In a tolerant and civilized society, you could go topless too without worrying about getting death threats or having acid thrown on your face. Doesn’t mean others have to do the same or endorse what you do. In fact, they have all the right to speak out and disagree with you in a civilized manner. Unfortunately, we’re still stuck in the dark ages. Exhibit A – the original article about dupattas. Exhibit B – this comment section.Recommend

  • Mikahil Adam

    i’m a man and this article is amazing. Your comment however is best summed by the your final word.Recommend

  • Mikahil Adam

    Acrually – No. This article postulates exactly that – It is a woman’s choice.Recommend

  • Mikahil Adam

    Jehangir – it is best to read responses like Zia Malik’s in a heavy heavy Indian accent and smile at the ignorance.Recommend