Why being hot really sucks

Published: November 13, 2010

Are beautiful people taken to be anything more than shiny, pretty faces?

Are good looks a blessing or a curse? Studies have shown that good looking people succeed faster professionally – if two people have the exact same experience and qualifications, everything but different looks (average looking vs beautiful) – more often than not, the better looking one is selected.

In all professional recruitment training, we are taught to dress formally and professionally for interviews. Appearance matters, looks matter even more. Good looking people succeed faster. Better looking girls are always sought after for marriage. Everywhere, there seems to be a certain bias in favour of good looks.

The eye of the beholder

It all comes down to the age old question – what is beauty? Is beauty absolute or relative? I saw a show on Discovery channel once where scientists figured out scientifically and mathematically what makes a beautiful person. It had something to do with relative proportions from ear to nose, eye to forehead, jawline to lips and dimensions of each at the same time.

Forget the mathematics of it all! More or less, we tend to agree on who is pretty and who isn’t (with some exceptions). But then again – is such beauty really a blessing or a curse?

Things aren’t so pretty for the pretty people

When a good looking person is passed above someone who is ugly, they may end up wondering if  they really deserved the position or got it solely on the superficial basis of good looks. Sometimes, one wonders how the world around them would be had they been born with different looks.

Let’s talk about a first hand example rather than what ifs. I know someone personally who is quite good looking – people keep complimenting her on her looks, everyone she meets tells her how gorgeous she looks. She thirsts for a compliment about her humour or her intellect. As a matter of fact, she has never had good luck with men. Recently, someone she was very interested in told her, “I am afraid I am attracted to you more physically than anything else.” It was in a way voicing what she had feared her entire life – do people flock around her because she is an interesting, charming, funny person or do they just want to be associated with someone good looking?

Beautiful people have hearts too

Sadly, such a superficial factor counts for a lot in our society. Pretty people are given several privileges. I’ve seen pretty people being able to cut into lines, get their own way, and being given preference over others. But at the end of the day, are pretty people merely that? Just pretty shiny faces? Do we ever personally really regard them as beings?

Pick any simple looking person off the street and ask them about pretty people – usually they’ll answer with contempt saying pretty people always get what they want and it’s not fair. But really, this secret contempt we hold inside of us of beauty – is it overrated, or is it just a fear of the unknown?

Perhaps it’s time we stepped into their shoes for a while and feel what they feel. Is everything they have achieved in their life solely dependent on their looks? Are all the relationships they treasure just a façade revolving around their good looks?

kiran.farooque

Kiran Farooque

A PR consultant in London who aspires to be a fashionista and a food critic.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of The Express Tribune.

  • Rizwan Takkhar

    And you get a B for this O-level essay.

    Seriously, Tribune? The other day I came across an awesome piece here on marriage and got my hopes up. Thank you for shattering all of that.Recommend

  • http://toronto Hina

    lolllRecommend

  • wehshi

    this sucks..Recommend

  • Ahmad Butt

    @Rizwan Takkhar:
    c’mon dude! don’t be so critical!!Recommend

  • M. S. Aatir

    Ye article hai ya question paper???
    :-/
    Time waster!Recommend

  • http://grsalam.wordpress.com Ghausia

    Fun topic, but not a very good job executing it dude. Recommend

  • AA

    Even if the person is less in qualification and skills from the other person, she may still get higher ranks in corporate sectors…dats my own observation…
    by the way there is a potential for improvement in the structure of your writing…good luckRecommend

  • mawali

    And your point is?Recommend

  • Talha

    Pictures or it never happened.Recommend

  • http://zealforwriting.blogspot.com Sarah B. Haider

    Speaking in the South Asian context, the only thing which defines beauty is Gora rang or fair complexion.Recommend

  • Sauleha M

    awL tHe uGlee peeEepzZZzzz r burNinG

    ehehehehehehehRecommend

  • Mahreen

    Tribune this is a very stupid blog. Please some quality as far as blogs are concerned. Thank youRecommend

  • Amer

    You really have issues!!Recommend

  • http://www.thetrueperspective.com Hamza Malik

    How can i write for Tribune? Who do i contact? I keep sending them emails but they never reply.Recommend

  • Khurram Asad

    Kiran,

    I am more interested in the beautiful girl you are referring to, where is she?? lol

    By the way, how is work coming along?? Did you meet up with Saif before he left?Recommend

  • Usama Zafar

    @mawali:

    The point was to realize that beautiful people have hearts too :P

    But I seriously disagree with the author. Beautiful people are soo full of attitude that even if they are nice by heart, you never get to know that!! Recommend

  • parvez

    And that is why the burkha was invented.Recommend

  • Whats in a Name

    Its like my IQ dropped by 40 points after reading this pieceRecommend

  • greenwithanger

    The piece is more ridiculous than the content. Talk about being pseudo. I mean you don’t write this kind of stuff on national paper blogs. But ur not entirely at fault here. Tribune ppl are still juggling with the bust of fame that news/media agencies receive in Pakistan. So I please write and moderate a bit more mature and realistic pieces.Recommend

  • http://www.none.com UAK

    I would like to see all the haters who are commenting here write a blog entry of their own. Oh wait, they’re not capable of writing anything more than ten words of crticism. Sorry, my mistake.

    Good job and nice thought provoking piece.

    A word to all you haters: a blog is a casual commentary on a subject of choice, it is NOT a scientific research paper or a news story. Jesus. Recommend

  • SK Ayubi

    I feel bad for the author but this is a pretty shoddy piece. Although there are some truths in what you write (some), if I were to make some of my own generalisations I’d say that good looking girls don’t make life easier for themselves by generally lacking in the personality and intellect department. Start a conversation off about Kant and they’ll think he’s a luxury bag designer (“no dear, not Gant, I said Kant”). Ugly people on the other hand tend to have better personalities and higher intellect as they have to compensate for their lack of looks in order to get by. Basic stuff. Recommend

  • Abbasi

    Can we see a picture of your beautiful friend to validate your claim.Recommend

  • http://www.LiaquatAli.com Liaquat Ali

    C’mon folks give Kiran some encouragement. This is her first blog post at Tribune. It is not an easy to write about such topics because the article could be branded as “superficial” just because of the unease of people with the subject matter.

    If you want to comment on specific aspects of the article, by all means do. But don’t discourage the author out of hand.

    We need more writers who are interested in writing whatever the heck they like to write about. This is the only way to get out of the boredom of reading the typical Pakistani literature.

    If you don’t like what some else is writing, then write your own piece or two.

    @Hamza Malik. I just checked out your blog. Good articles. I hope that you get through. Just keep sending those emails. Persistence does it. :)Recommend

  • Umair Waheed Sheikh, Khayban e Hafiz,Karachi

    What crap? And how does the writer justify it sucks? I mean common people this sort of mindset greatly pains me even though someone might be in London or the US or Pakistan. When you blog about something atleast make it appear its real and dont quote/ give examples of your two friends!Recommend

  • Dia

    Kiran that’s so true!!Recommend

  • Sobia

    you could have written this article in a better way that actually made people think or try to relate. you cant force people to think just by adding dozens of inane questions. Recommend

  • Rabia

    Ummm Kiran if your friends sounds anything like you then looks would be the only thing she has going for herself…Recommend

  • Shemrez Nauman Afzal

    Extremely stupid article. Thank you for wasting two and a half minutes of my life. Its ugly and wrong on many counts, but I’ll “Like” it nonetheless just to prove that not-pretty things can also be appreciated.
    LOL @ Rabia’s comment. Recommend

  • http://billaytoot.wordpress.com Bilal

    Well.. Its not in any one’s hands to look good or bad….and I don’t think attitude is really concerned with good looking…Recommend

  • Asad Ali

    kiran don’t listen to the negative voices, u hav highlighted a very important point. Those who r critisizing, i ask to write a blog of ur own, n see its standard. I appreciate tribune,s policy also for publishing new comers blogsRecommend

  • http://blogs.tribune.com.pk/author/143/taha-kerar/ Taha Kehar

    Brilliant! Shows insight, wit and dedication! Recommend

  • Rana Sharafat Ali

    Beauty always works………..Recommend

  • Arafat Ali Khan

    I expected more from your writing skills dear. I am now convinced that going abroad doesnt necessarily improve your writing and grammar skills rather there is a degeneration that follows from over-exposure to decadent speech in England and countries that have English as their mother tongue.
    I now sincerely believe that the standard of English in thought and writing is better in elite circles of Pakistan when compared with abroad. You could have done better staying in Pakistan and doing something positive for the country rather than going abroad and writing so bad on an issue thats irrelevant to the very core of our Pakistani society. Perhaps your inspiration comes from the Sex and the City monologues and thats what you do best. Please write something on private issues rather than social problems because thats when you give it your best.
    By the way Kiran, did you do O Levels or Matric ? This seems like a piece from someone who did her Matric from an average-joe school of Karachi. Very Mediocre.IndeedRecommend

  • Hiba

    How can I possibly begin to explain how this article has opened my eyes to the woes of the beautiful faces around me!

    Seriously, Tribune, inject a little bit of quality here and there perhaps? Spare us the whining of yuppies?Recommend

  • A.A. Haji

    Salam Hiba. How are you Miss? I want to appreciate your eye openings in this world. May they continue to ponder.

    I think pretty people are pretty. It lies in beholder eyes. Also author, are you pretty.

    Praise.Recommend

  • http://blogs.tribune.com.pk/author/304/kiran-farooque/ Kiran Farooque

    I am fascinated by the level of interest and controversy this piece has generated. The original title of the blog post was intended to be “Are you pretty in your own domain?”, but the content was reworded by the Express Tribune team, which reserves the right to edit any pieces that are submitted to them. Though I may not agree with some of the changes made to my blog, I am sure the Express Tribune team understands their audience and are the best people to pass a judgement on what works for their blog. I admire the quality of content produced by the Express Tribute blog and am very glad to be a part of the team.Recommend

  • http://blogs.tribune.com.pk/author/304/kiran-farooque/ Kiran Farooque

    Tribune, not Tribute – apologies.Recommend

  • http://rizwan.liaqat@gmail.com Rizwan Liaqat

    @Rizwan Takkhar:
    Absolutely right bro. I find it absurd how so called ‘buff’ people try to act the victim. Get real and go get that promotion the ugly guy deserves. We’re not looking for justification.Recommend

  • Amaar

    How does this still qualify to be even called a newspaper again? The Tribune has lost it.Recommend

  • Rakhshanda

    Thank you for that insightful piece on how the human race is actually very shallow when it comes to looks. I had no idea.Recommend

  • http://www.shahjahan.net Shahjahan Bhutto

    I wasn’t expecting this…Recommend

  • Munazza Anwer

    that was so stupid! Recommend

  • Azka

    hahahahahahahhahaahahahaha.Recommend

  • rizwan

    2gmail.com hahahahahahahahahahha
    the most hilarious post i have ever seen
    Recommend

  • Zarmeena

    It is so unthoughtful and bizarre on people’s part who have been destesting such an authentic piece of writing. It would be quite bitter but leaves me with this mind frame “that most of these people are perhaps either average looking or naive to understand the blog”

    It reminds me of a tale of a beautiful girl- who survived being real and genuine on the account of her fair dealings otherwise she could have been easily exploited. Starting from her work experience at different firms- she was not just the centre of attention but was also constantly hit by the higher authorities. People deemed her as a mere show piece rather than considering her efficiency. Female staff memebers considered her a torment- and would try their level best to get her kicked out through their malicious tactics. Talking about her friends- most of them would shun her- scaring the fact she is beautiful and would steal their bfs. Talking about her male friends- who would eventually fall for her- disgusting the very essence of friendship.

    Being beautiful is perhaps the most difficult thing to tackle with. If you claim beautiful people are arrogant-I beg your pardon!!!They simply have got no choice.

    “Mark my words the day the get easy on others, they’ll get swallowed!!!” Recommend

  • Zarmeena

    @Usama Zafar:

    I’m sorry if you don’t get to know beautiful people. It is perhaps because they are misunderstood and misconceived Recommend

  • Saqib

    As i am just too pretty … i agree with Kiran ..and this is not a bad post at allRecommend

  • Zara

    why would even attempt to generalize something like that? u think all beautiful people go around wondering if its their looks that people are interested in? let me tell u, looks can only get you so far, after that you are on your own..n to the judgmental person who wrote that comment..yes i know who Kant is, i can have a conversation about him AND i can have a conversation about handbags too..beauty DOES come with brains Recommend

  • Handsum Grandsun

    The author is correct in that pretty girls do get positively discriminated, i.e. they get a lot of attention. The author is not very right when she says that it is “sadly” the way our society is, it is not a sad fact at all, actually it is our essential human right to check out each other with full-head-on fifth gear gaze.

    I am extremely hot. I like to think so :)

    Thanks.Recommend

  • H

    What do you call a woman with two brain cells?
    Pregnant. With twins.Recommend

  • zainab

    i think the author needs to grow up. maybe when u do, ull realize that the world is not just black and white.
    @UAK : yes, its okay to write a blog on a topic of your choice, at the same time, if people have opinions about it and they want to express it, its their choice too. we all have the right to an opinion and it has nothing to do with being able to ‘write a blog’ .Recommend

  • http://www.taha.javaid.over-blog.com Taha Javaid

    You could have come up with some more interesting points. Not a good one, Tribune!Recommend

  • fatima

    Hey hey

    I think half the bloggers on Tribune need creative writing classes. Bus. I love being pretty and everything it gets me. H I want twins. Enough saidRecommend

  • http://www.noor-ul-ainhanif.blogspot.com Noor-ul-ain Hanif
  • Bushra Sikander

    well this is sort of true…. i am blessed with both looks and intellect but I always gave importance to people who appreciated my intellect and skills than my looks. The plus point is that you get preferred everywhere. The bad points are that when you are roaming with friends, someone from the cheap crowd would comment “MashAllah” or say something obscene and if you are with family, you get so embarrassed. I can not even think of being rejected, if i don’t get what i want i feel really bad because i’m accustomed to “getting what i want”…and i feel so bad or girls who get rejected on the base of looks, i have so many friends whose parents are so worried about their daughters who get rejected everyday….When I selected my partner I dint go for his looks and he didnt go for mine. And this is why my marriage has been so succeful. You are compatible sporitually, only then your marriage can survive. I hope all the girls and boys who go for looks should take a lesson from that.Recommend

  • trey

    atleast you dont have to worry about itRecommend

  • CancerX

    I agree with the writer,being pretty does have alot of advantages,sometimes i do wonder if people i would have had them if i wasn’t.All the tiny things mentioned in the article,do happen. But one thing i think i do lack is at a good relationship.Getting attention is fine,people flock around me but no one stays. Recommend

  • Jason

    Nice Try – Not everyone see it the same way you do

    Anyways keep it upRecommend