Remembering Paul Walker, our Fast & Furious hero

Published: December 2, 2013

Paul Walker, the 40-year-old actor most famous for his roles in the Fast & Furious movie series, died in a car crash on December 1, 2013. PHOTO: REUTERS

December 1, 2013 - 8:30 am

I woke up Sunday morning, dreading the day that was going to be full of guests very soon. I had a busy day ahead of me and all I could think of doing was lazing around in bed, not bothering with anything in the world. Knowing, however, that I couldn’t do that, I struggled to move the warm embrace my blanket insisted on giving me. 

December 1, 2013 - 8:30 pm

The last few guests moved from the dining room, into the TV lounge for green tea before they (finally) made an exit. Whilst serving them hot cups of green tea and coffee, I overheard one of my friends suddenly stand up and ask my husband for the password for the internet.

Startled by her the urgency in her voice, I asked if everything was alright.

Pale in her face, she replied,

“Paul Walker is dead, Ayesha. He died.”

The noise in the room of people chatting suddenly died down to a mere hush.

Another friend got up, a look of annoyance covering her face, said,

“God Amna, you scared us. I thought something had happened to your family! Uff, just calm down and stop making such a big deal about something like this. It’s sad but there is definitely no need for you to overreact like this.”

The silence that followed this time was awkward.

Amna look at my friend and exclaimed,

“It is a big deal Nabiha. Someone died. He died in a car crash! You don’t have to have known him to sympathise. The point is that a person died.”

Nabiha looked at Amna, rolled her eyes and said,

“If he wasn’t one of your favourite actors, it wouldn’t have mattered to you anyways. People die here every day, don’t they? I don’t see you crying bowls full of tears for them.”

Visibly disgusted, Amna said,

“I don’t see why it is so hard for you to understand that another human died. Many have, but this was one more. It is not about who, where, why or how. What is the point of comparing one to another? The point is that another human died and yes, I am sad about it. Just like I am for the loss of any life.”

Before I could step in to mellow the conversation down a tad bit, Amna continued,

“It disgusts me how you can resort to complete indifference just because he died on the other side of the planet.”

A little embarrassed Nabiha tried to defend herself and said,

“That is not what I was trying to say. All I meant was that, he was just an actor. Your reaction frightened me and I thought it was one of your family members. That’s all.”

“He wasn’t just an actor, Nabiha, he was a man who died in a horrific car accident. An accident that was not foreseen. All while his friends and family waited patiently for him to return only to realise he was never coming back.

Yes, he was an actor and I loved him, but I would mourn his death as much as I would anyone elses. Just because he wasn’t part of my family doesn’t mean I will not mourn his death. Just because he wasn’t Pakistani doesn’t mean we won’t miss seeing him in movies.”

I set the tray of teacups on the centre table and asked the girls to have some tea before any other outburst could have taken place.

December 1, 2013 - 10:30 pm

With thoughts of Paul Walker’s death still on my mind and being admittedly upset about the loss his family, friends and fans were enduring I decided to take a look at whether anyone in Pakistan really cared about this. If anyone at all even bothered to notice.

To my surprise, I found out that, within the first few hours of his crash, Paul Walker and Fast & Furious were trending in Pakistan. Here are some of the tweets I came across, not only from Pakistan, but from all over the world that were truly heartbreaking:

  • Noman Ansari

    WARNING: Butt hurt comments incoming. I am sure lots of people will ask why mourn him when he didn’t die in a drone attack. This will be fun.Recommend

  • Noman Ansari

    Also, good blog. I like how you poured your heart out. He was the face of his franchise and by all accounts, did a lot of charity. Also, he was a family man, which is unusual for the industry. Recommend

  • Noman Ansari

    “God Amna, you scared us. I thought something had happened to your family! Uff, just calm down and stop making such a big deal about something like this. It’s sad but there is definitely no need for you to overreact like this.”

    I don’t understand why Pakistanis are so embarrass by their emotions. Well, I know why. We are taught to stifle our emotions in our culture by our parents. It is ok to feel sad over an actors death rather than someone else. There is no competition for our compassion. We may have not known the man I real life but he affected us through his performances on the silverscreen.

    Where does all this shame come from? A healthy display of emotions isn’t a sign of weakness.Recommend

  • m&m

    Take it easy bro. Looks like you’re high.Recommend

  • water bottle

    He was a terrible actor who has mostly acted in some of the mindless movies of Hollywood.

    I find it funny that even stupid actors can bring out such emotion. Then I must ask what kind of stupid people admire them?

    Even Veena Malik is slightly more talented than this man. Probably not Ali Zafar.

    Wait a minute, but then you come from a country who have turned a low IQ cricketer into a national leader.Recommend

  • 123xyz

    she was overreacting. shouting and dramatic expressions doesnt mean you care more than someone else.
    paul walker may be your favorite hero, not mine.

    i am sad to hear this news. but thats it.

    you dont give same expressions when someone from your family dies and some actor you have heard about.Recommend

  • 123xyz

    these actors never learn. rash driving has killed him. it wasnt like they collided with some other vehicle. his friend drove it into a tree. and killed both of them,
    looks like their own fault to me.

    they never learn.Recommend

  • 123xyz

    this will be fun?

    wrong choice of words my friend! i thought you were mourning!Recommend

  • Pappu

    Death of young and good people sucks. Having a 8 year old daughter my heart goes for Meadow.Recommend

  • Ahmed

    Who are we to judge what happened? Yes, from the wreckage it looks like the car was at a very high speed, but we don’t know the exact circumstances.

    Also, it’s usually unfair to blame passengers. Ever tried telling someone, especially a friend, to slow down or drive carefully? It has the opposite effect.Recommend

  • YK

    The only fast and furious is Imran Khan. Go PTI, Humari zameen humari marzi, Drones are violating our sovereignty. The only true leader. You are admiring paul walker what about hakeem ullah shaheed who died in drone attack. There I trolled on behalf of P TTP I that will save some pixels in the comments section. BTW way too much and unnecessary emotions by the author. We are sad on his death but he was no Robert di niro.Recommend

  • Critical

    They already have….What one of my friends shared on the facebook wall….

    Strangely he remembers only about the dead muslims not people of other religions….It actually started a comment war between me and him ….I was called a cold hearted person and sheeple who believes only waht media tells blah blah.
    In the end,he was shut when I asked how many poor muslims has he personally helped in our city

    If any of your friends share that tell him that u would do the same thing in the funeral of his dead relative and ask why are you crying for them when u didnt cry for the dead in countries half a globe awayRecommend

  • Danish

    By the way, what makes it different from all those facebook status and tweets? – Sorry to say “Lame”Recommend

  • Rakshinda

    Stupid? may be you haven’t seen all of his movies. Yes i would agree that some of his movies do not show the best of his acting skills but aren’t all actors saying yes to the wrong movies a few times?
    Paul was fabulous in the movie “Hours” and please do not even start on who is stupid and who is not.. If you’re the one labeling dead people as “stupid” then may be you are worse.
    phew!Recommend

  • raj

    do u listen to yourself before saying.. this is the most hilarious comment i have read for years. i am even sharing it with my friends … lol.. grow up manRecommend

  • raj

    i think more than movies what is impt is he has a lot of admirer which suggest that he was a good man. the point here is a good man died at early ageRecommend

  • http://www.yahoo.com/ AMINA AMEIN

    The Purpose of writing this article is to show humanity !!!!! humanity to humans!!!! stop bushing around the same points!! why his death is debating in Pak??? Arfa Karim died and social media around world acknowledged it.. He was an Action Hero We enjoyed His Stunts And Rash-Driving!!! He do Deserve our Sympathies and peace-prayers!!!! RIP-Paul Walker!!!! You will be definitely miss by Action-buffs!!!Recommend

  • water bottle

    almost all his movies are mindless.

    He was a stupid actor.

    Maybe he was a good human being, which is obviously immaterial because, we know him as an actor.

    a stupid actor is not the same as a stupid person.

    His talent was somewhere between ShahRukh Khan and Veena Malik.Recommend

  • water bottle

    Veena Malik being a 1 and Shah Rukh Khan being a 0.Recommend

  • harry

    what a stupid nick “water bottle”Recommend

  • Syed Owais Mukhtar

    The “Soyem” of Paul Walker passed silently, but the media did not noticed. How Sad!Recommend

  • Qaiser Habib

    Fast & Furious changed a lot of young minds. But Thrill is dangerous, thats for sure.Recommend

  • pakistani in america

    I was really saddened by Paul Walker’s death. Mainly because he was my favorite in the Fast and Furious series and because he died so young.
    Having said that, let’s look beyond him just being an actor. While some of my friends did share their grief over his death, I saw some posts coming up that questioned why people were crying over his death when there were thousands of others dying. I find this approach to be as less human as that of a person who wouldn’t sympathize with the latter. think about it for a minute.
    Yes, the stark and unfortunate truth is that thousands and thousands of innocent people are lost all around the world and nothing makes the worth of any human being less than that of another. We know death is a reality, yet we do not familiarize ourselves with its unpredictability. Such incidents; when you could see how Walker tweeted about the upcoming Fast 7 two days before he died, when you see how young he was, when you see he’s survived by a daughter who would never see her father again, you can just know more about what life is in general. Being a public figure means your life is public and so is your death; people draw inspiration from famous people. So what if even one person learnt a lesson from this incident and tried to be a better human being than he was yesterday when he realized how unpredictable life was, even for someone who had everything one could imagine: money, fame, success etc.
    And ultimately, he was another human being, like all of us.Recommend