No test, no nikkah (Part 2)
After my post “No test, no nikkah”, I have got some appreciation and at the same time some objections as well.
Here is the reply to those objections:
Several people asked me how they can ask their partners to get tested. “It doesn’t look good,” they said. A friend of mine said “The in-laws might start beating me Ayesha!” and I simply replied, “Just for once think of your generation – that beating won’t be anything then.”
Then, there are people who ask me who am I or the government to stop them marrying their love if both are Thalassemia minor.
Who said you can’t marry them?
No test, no nikkah doesn’t mean that you can’t marry your love if both of you are Thalassemia minor, it just means that for a precaution get yourself tested. If both are found minor then in every pregnancy you will have to get a test called “Prenatal diagnosis or prenatal screening”
What is prenatal test is for?
Just to make sure that your child does not have Thalassemia major (disease state), and God forbid, if the baby does have the disease then you can abort the baby within 120 days of the pregnancy.
Is it too difficult getting tested?
Then, for once imagine this: will you be able to bear your child pointing his/her finger at you and saying “Mom/Dad, you are responsible for my illness”? Will you be able to bear seeing your child getting pricked by needles, and all the other painful procedures that come with being a Thalasemmia patient? No…you won’t be…
It’s so difficult to get your partner tested?
Okay, don’t ask them for it, go and get YOURSELF tested, and if God forbid you get some irregular result then you can ask your partner to get tested. If the result is normal then it doesn’t matter whether or not your partner carries Thalassemia Minor gene, because it won’t do any harm. In that case just a kid or two will carry a minor gene, that’s it.
Is it still difficult?
You might think I must have pointed fingers at my parents too. Or maybe I feel bad for having Thalassemia and that is why I am writing such posts? Let me assure you that is not the case. I have seen two-year-old children at the transfusion center – even kids younger than 2.
I have seen how they get pricked, how they cry, how the nurses get their veins. If you see it yourself, you will cry… I bet you will.
And since I have been seeing this for so long, I really want to save our next generation. Wont you step ahead and help me? I don’t want another child to get pricked with needles because of lack of awareness, please?
Just one blood test can save your generation, what else do you want now? If you still can’t get it … then it’s simply useless to tell you anything…
And sorry people, but your objections are overruled and now you are left with no choice but to get yourself tested.
FAiTh’s dream : Thalassemia free Pakistan!
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